CP: Would you monitor your kid's cell phone calls/pics/texts without them knowing?

hammysmommy · September 2014

**I AM NOT DOING THIS - IT'S JUST A DISCUSSION AT WORK** There are services out there that will forward everything (pics taken, messages sent/received, call logs) from a kid/teen's cell phone to the "adult" account manager's email/phone/web so that the "adult" can review it all. Would you consider doing this without the kid/teen knowing that you are doing it - without previous behavior that might warrant tracking?

edited: Title, because not Wednesday

shellbell3845 · September 2014

My kid will know if he has a cell phone, I have the right to see exactly what's on the cell phone at any given time. Same with computer/tablets/whatever else.

I'm not going to sneak around when that's exactly what I don't want my kid to be doing.

MissDemeanor · September 2014

Imagine the technology and gadgets that our kids will be using that hasn't even been invented yet!

ramfan05 · September 2014

We will certainly know their passwords to everything and reserve the right to check out anything when/if we feel the need. I wouldn't do it behind their back though. If my kids have earned our trust, I won't feel the need to check in as often. If not, that will seriously limit their access to technology, as well as their privacy.

Meghan14 · September 2014

As someone who has spent a decade working with teenagers I have to agree 100% with @avswolf @brocolisgirl and @shellbell3845 .

Mazingmommyof6 · September 2014

Oh the trouble so many of my students have found themselves in because of social media. That I discourage use of and absolutely monitor for their own good. Too many kids share every single inner thought and it causes so many issues. My job as a parent is to help them navigate through life including cell phones and social media

Codypup · September 2014

I voted the maybe one. I like to think I wouldn't go behind her back, but I absolutely will reserve the right to check if I feel the need. And even if I didn't suspect anything, I think it makes sense to keep tabs on any social media. W will be forced to be my FB friend. ;-)

I like @avswolf's approach in general.

t/j...

W's teacher has a 13 year old daughter who downloaded some app where you can chat with random people. Apparently after like 2 days of her having it, some man was sending her pics of his junk. W's teacher flipped her shit, understandably. But it just goes to show you how scary the internet can be.

hammysmommy · September 2014

@katybriggs - actually baby G doesn't, but his 11.75yo, going on 25yo, sister is on the verge of getting one.

TessyMessy · September 2014

I would reserve the right to view any texts, emails and whatever but I would not do it behind my kid's back. I want my kids to trust me but also understand I am their mother not their BFF.
A friend of mine recently went to Google something on her SD's phone and there were like 40 Web pages open. Most of which were porn. Her SD is 13. They had a very long conversation that evening.

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breadpudding · September 2014

broccolisgirl said:
I wouldn't do it without their knowledge, but I would reserve the right to monitor without giving them warning. (They would know I COULD, just maybe not when)

This exactly.

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