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RANT !!!!

Jay21010Jay21010 member
in April 2015 Moms
So yesterday I posted a picture on Instagram that explained what a rainbow baby is. Why? Well because I am pregnant for the third time expecting my first. My first pregnancy resulted in a miscarriage at 10wks and my 2nd resulted in a stillbirth at 35wks. So I posted the picture and my caption was "hoping and praying we meet our rainbow baby in April" I later that day went to my MIL where my SIL also lives and she said "oh you posted something today?" And I said yeah and she said "oh my friend saw it and said aaw they really wanna have a baby" and then she says she told her friend "no they're just baby making machines" I was livid! But didn't show it. I was so mad because YESS!! We have been trying to have a baby since 2013. And what made me more mad was the fact that she is also pregnant with her second child and she was on the depo shot so this baby is unplanned and so was her first and I'm just like wow! Why would you even say that about us being pregnant, specially after what we've gone through..Those words were very hurtful to me. I know I'm in the wrong for saying her kids are unplanned but if anyone is the baby making machine that has gotten pregnant w/out it being planned is her.. I just don't know why someone would say that to someone who you know clearly is trying to have a child. I guess I should try to understand that some people who haven't really gone through these things don't really understand how hurtful those words can be.. Well now that this is out of my system, I feel better.
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  • Hummingbirdbaby3Hummingbirdbaby3 member
    People just do not think. Can't let it get to you. I know that's easier said than done!
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  • marigold32marigold32 member
    Wow. That was really insensitive of your SIL. I wish you the best with this pregnancy!
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  • Rowsdower85Rowsdower85 member
    I don't understand why all tact goes out the window around women who are pregnant or ttc. I'm sorry she said that to you... Especially after what you've been through. Try to let roll off your back. H&H 9 months to you!
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  • Texasmomma13Texasmomma13 member
    I'm sorry she's such a douche canoe. I would just avoid her for at least a while. Don't let her negative attitude get you down. Ts & Ps for a healthy baby and pregnancy.
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  • Jay21010Jay21010 member
    mbm1983 said:

    i'm really confused on what happened and why you are upset, but i hope this baby sticks and stays healthy and growing.

    I am upset that after her friend made that comment she said "NO, theyre just baby making machines" we are baby making machines why? Because we very desperately want to start a family. & it hurts that she'd say it the way she did.

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  • Jay21010Jay21010 member
    Marigold32 said:

    Wow. That was really insensitive of your SIL. I wish you the best with this pregnancy!

    Yes indeed it was. I even cried about it later on. I even asked myself "is that what people see in us trying to have a family? That we're just baby making machines??"
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  • Jay21010Jay21010 member
    Thank you ladies for the Ts & Ps.
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  • twoluckydogstwoluckydogs member
    I just had a stillborn last week at just over 20 weeks, so I'm so sorry for your earlier loss, nothing prepares you for the loss of your child.

    People can be insensitive without meaning to be, just concentrate on yourself and your family, you are what is important not someone else's opinions.
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  • missabmissab member
    I'm so sorry for your loss @twoluckydogs‌. ((Hug))

    Me: 34 DH: 36

    Married since 11/11/11
    BFP#1 10/5/13 MC 11/11/13 @9wks 3d
    BFP#2 7/20/14 EDD 4/4/15


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  • angelfish628angelfish628 member
    I'm so sorry @twoluckydogs‌. You're in my prayers.
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