How to tell them..

GemmaLouise94 · September 2014

I'm the youngest, not married but with the father of my child. My parents are staying with me for 2 weeks and I haven't told them yet. To be honest I'm scared and I feel like they won't accept it. I want to tell them and now it feels like a weight piling on me. How can I do this?

jk3610 · September 2014

As much of a burden as the weight is, it might feel better if you tell them. Then, at least you will know, and not being left to worry how they will react. hoping you get a good response!

vickersh1 · September 2014

I agree with PP - don't make it seem like you are confessing, but sharing in your excitement! I was scared to death of what my family would say, as they are not very fond of my fiance (we have been together 9 years)...I made little magnets that said "Grandbaby #2 due April 2015" and "Great Grandbaby due April 2015" and had them open them at the same time on Grandparents Day. They took it VERY well. I actually think my mom is more excited than I am - (she is already baby shopping/browsing, talking about baby showers and making plans to babysit, etc).

I told them I was kind of scared about their reactions - and they were like WHY??? It's a baby - nothing is more exciting than a new baby!!

Good Luck

ETA: Typing issues...

GemmaLouise94 · September 2014

mbm1983 said:
i'm unmarried, but my man and i were together 7 years before having our first daughter. we came to them as if we were excited! and so were they. naturally the first thing they will say is, "well when are you getting married then?" but honestly you do that when you guys are ready to. not just because you are knocked up.

if you are young, this is a new relationship, you don't quite have a steady job or barely making ends meet now, you have to realize that a lot of their potential concerns could be very valid. try to think of answers to the questions they might have before you tell them and they will see that obviously you've thought this through. really our parents just want what's best for us.

Yeah my big thing is that I'm young, my family don't live in the same country as me and me and my boyfriend don't live together just yet. Were finding it hard to afford things as I don't make a lot of money my hours get cut I rely on clients. And he pays child support for his other child who they do adore. Thank you for replying you're right they do want what's best for us. They know I'm trying my best to provide for myself so hopefully they understand it's just hard to blurt it out

GemmaLouise94 · September 2014

Also I live with my brother, I'm 19 years old. It's scary. Haha

I've never been into clubs and drinking I grew up pretty young because I had a lot to do. I was caring for a family member with cancer when I was 18. They know I'm more older than my age. I just hope they accept my child their grandchild and help me through the pregnancy

GemmaLouise94 · September 2014

I was thinking of showing them the ultrasound.

vickersh1 · September 2014

GemmaLouise94 said:

I was thinking of showing them the ultrasound.

I think showing them the ultrasound is a great idea. I did the magnets and after all the hugs and questions of how far along, when was I due, etc...I showed them the ultrasounds!!! I think it is harder to deny and be made once you see the little blob.

knlouis · September 2014

Ugh I'm so sorry that you have to go though this...I know the feeling all to well! Just bite the bullet and tell them. Expect the worst...I'm married and my mom's reaction was still shocking! Good Luck!

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