To plan a wedding... Q for STMs (and others curious)

sagehens47 · September 2014

Good morning ladies!
STMs...when did things start to fall into a routine for you after birth?

I'm really at a loss for when to plan my wedding. My BF and I are older and knew we'd be doing things a bit differently, so we started TTC before an engagement. We're not in a hurry, but really want to figure out the soonest time that neither of us will be: puking, cramping, growing, calming a crying baby, wiping spit up from our shirts, dealing with poop explosions.

It would be kinda cool to have the LO involved somehow. So... Is there ever a time to "breathe" from here on out?

ElizabethSwann · September 2014

When DS was 5/6 months old, i had my first "I GOT THIS," feeling.

Ncountrygal · September 2014

For us around 6 weeks. That's when I felt more like myself, nursing was going better, and baby had started sleeping more predictably.

Sharon&Paul · September 2014

The a tough one. There is always something different. I would say after 6 months may be a good time. Mine started sleeping better around that time and became a little easier.

lindsayanne14 · September 2014

I felt like I was out of the "new baby haze" and starting to feel (and look) like a normal person again about 6 mths. post delivery. Also, if you are planning to BF, the first few months there is a lot going on with the bewbs that makes it difficult/uncomfortable to be separated from the babe for more than a few hours. If it was me planning I would go at least 6 months out.

HZ2012 · September 2014

5 months things got easier. DH and I were in a groove with being new parents, LO was getting the hang of schedules, sleeping, teething, etc,.

LO is now 16 months and life was way easier when he was 6 mos.

ElizabethSwann · September 2014

6 months is such an awesome age. They are so damn cute, and you kinda have a better idea of what you are doing, but most babies aren't quite mobile yet, and they just smile and coo, and eat, and poop.

So just an adorable sack of tators.

Dani428 · September 2014

I think it really depends on the person/routine. I'd say I had no choice but to get confident and act "normal" when I went back to work at 12 weeks. I'd say that around 7 month when she started sleeping through the night and I stopped nursing though that it really got into the "fun" zone and not a lot of stress.

Texasmomma13 · September 2014

3months was a big turn around for us. If it were me, I would go for 6 months though. The schedule is more predicable which makes a big event easier.

Ncountrygal · September 2014

I'm not a good person to answer this actually. We had colic and since them baby still doesn't sleep well (11mo). So yeah, listen to the other pp!

nechmielewski · September 2014

I wouldn't have felt up to planning a wedding until 12ish months. I finally felt like I had my body back at that point.

miahbelle · September 2014

At least 6 months. I helped a friend plan a wedding and then I photographed it (my first shoot since DS had been born) when DS was 3 1/2 months. It was hard!!

bowman958 · September 2014

I didn't feel like I had my body back until I was done BFing at 12 months. But I felt like by six months I had a handle on the situation....still had to drag a pump around if I was going to be away from DD, which was annoying.

mhickey426 · September 2014

That is a hard question. It 5-6 months started getting easier. She has always been a really "good" baby but each stage comes with it's own situations and issues. I think it is one of those things in life where you can always find something to make it harder or more stressful to do. My advice is have the baby and enjoy the pregnancy and being new parents. Then you can enjoy your wedding stuff. If you aren't in a rush then wait until your child is a little older. This way when you get married your little one can really be a part of your wedding and not just an infant sitting there.

nycitygirl1 · September 2014

Definitely do not plan your wedding before your little one is 6 months old. That's the absolute earliest I'd do it, but that's still pretty early on especially if you're BFing. You also don't want to stress about your looks and it takes awhile for the body to get back into good shape after childbirth (there's also exercise restrictions for awhile depending on what happens during your birth) so just something to keep in mind.

I'd say do it a year after.

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