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School/Daycare teacher advice

edited September 2014 in Working Moms

My daughter is 2.5 years old, we have had her at the same school since 5 months old. She has been through a few classrooms/teachers and up until now no complaints. They have all treated us and her with respect and love. She started in a new classroom in June, one of the teachers I have found to be not as kind as the rest and a little impatient but it wasnt an everyday thing, she is now gone on maternity leave. So a new teacher took her place, she has been in the class for 3 weeks now.This teacher has great potential but she is so rude to the kids, she does not use her manners and I find it disrespectful. It is hard to explain without you seeing it but she says things like "Zachery come get this paper...Zachery are you not hearing me", "Peyton get up off the floor, put those crayons back now, I know you hear me". And this is all said in a very loud degrading tone with no please or thank you! Then yesterday she asks my daughter to come get her paper, my daughter did ignore her and I said go get your paper please and she walked over shly and took it, saying thank you, the teacher looked at me and said I swear I need this day to be over.  Maybe this sounds silly to some but my daughter has great manners and I would hate to see that decline because her teacher is not using hers. I truely believe you teach respect by giving repsect. I just dont like the way she talk "at" the kids.

So the advice I am looking for is Im wondering should I speak to this teacher personally or go to the director and ask that she speak to the teachers as a whole (without mentioning this particular teachers name) to remind them to use manners especially around the kids.

Also she nicknamed our daughter calling her Pay Pay ...WTH....is it silly for this to really annoy me?

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Re: School/Daycare teacher advice

  • edited September 2014
    amy052006 said:
    The nickname wouldn't bother me, TBH.  

    The other stuff, yeah, that would bug me.  I'd be more inclined to mention it to the director than her directly.
    Thank you! Do you think I should just make a comment about the teachers as a whole or pin point this teachers out?
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  • I would talk to the Director. She sounds burnt out or, at the very least, not the right fit for that age.

    I am usually a fan of addressing the teachers first but this is a matter to take up with the Director.

    I am fine with firm (yet gentle) words when disciplining and teaching independence and expectations. However, you will not be rude and condescending to a child.  That's unacceptable behavior.

  • Be specific and have examples.

  • I would talk to the director.  And I'd also be specific and give examples.  At DS's DC, they are sometimes firm but they don't yell and aren't condescending/rude to the kids.  This lady sounds annoyed or like PP said, burnt out.  I have a tendency to over think things but I'd totally be wondering how she talks to them when parents aren't around.

    The nickname thing wouldn't bother me so much.  DS has one teacher that calls him "Sammie" and it makes me want to gag, but I look at it as a sign of affection.  
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  • I just did this last week when I had issues with how a new teacher was talking to the toddlers. Be specific with examples. The director listened to my concerns and said she'd speak with this teacher. Turns out this teacher who I thought was new has been in the pre-K room for three years so it may be a matter of resetting her expectations for the kids and treating them in an age-appropriate way.

    I was way nervous about the conversation as I've never complained about a specific teacher before. But it went way better than I was imagining. Just be sure to report concrete things you saw or heard.
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  • If you talked to her directly I would worry that she would take it out on your kids even more...
  • We had a teacher like that last year. She no longer works for the school. I have no idea whose decision that was, but I don't miss her. :)  (I had nothing to do with it. My son was not in her class, though that didn't stop her from saying stupid things to him)
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