TTC After a Loss

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SWMcFarlandSWMcFarland member
edited September 2014 in TTC After a Loss
Hi all, 

Dx with ectopic on Friday, had D&C then methotrexate on Friday night, so hoping for tomorrow's HcG levels to be low.  This has been a super long and drawn out process as we thought the actual miscarriage took place over 2 weeks ago but my HcG kept hovering and rising (ever so slightly).  Very low HcG to begin with so they are hopeful that one round of methotrexate will do its job.

I just want this process over with ASAP.  The actual M/C started nearly 3 weeks ago.  

I don't know when I will have the courage to try again, even when I'm cleared.  My daughter was born 7 weeks premature and it took me almost 6 years to come to terms with that and now this.  

On the plus side, since I had severe preeclampsia that turned into HELLP and now this they have gone ahead and tested me for MTHFR and they are willing to examine my tubes to make sure there is no scar tissue due to Mirena, etc in December.  

So that's my story.  Outside of this fun stuff, I like to shop and work in real estate.  My love is staging homes and shopping.

Nice to meet you all in advance.

SWMcFarland
3/22/09 - Lily Grace, born at 33 weeks, 2 days
9/12/14 - M/C @ 7 weeks, 1 day (ectopic)

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  • Fightersince83 - thanks.

    With respect to the methotrexate--I've had very mild pain today and a very small amount of bleeding today.  I asked at my follow up appointment today and the dr. was certain the meds were doing their job--did you experience this too?
    3/22/09 - Lily Grace, born at 33 weeks, 2 days
    9/12/14 - M/C @ 7 weeks, 1 day (ectopic)

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  • I don't have any experience with an ectopic but I wanted to say that I'm sorry for your loss and welcome to the board.
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  • So sorry for your loss - welcome to the board.

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  • Thanks for the title update. I'm sorry for your loss OP, welcome to the board.




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  • Thanks all!  And sorry about the title.  I've been around here long enough to know better, but I totally forgot.  I am sorry!!


    3/22/09 - Lily Grace, born at 33 weeks, 2 days
    9/12/14 - M/C @ 7 weeks, 1 day (ectopic)

  • Welcome to the board. I also had an ectopic and was given MTX. My OB tracked my hcg down to 1. For me it took about 2.5 weeks. I remember feeling intense abdominal cramps about 4 days after the shot, and bleeding for a about a week. Good luck, and I'm so sorry for your loss. If you ever want to chat, feel free to PM me.
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     Cycle 1- Clomid CD3-7 & Trigger-BFP • EDD 1/12/15 
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  • I don't have any experience with this, but wanted to say I'm sorry for your loss.
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  • Welcome to the board and sorry for your loss. Take time to heal.
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  • I am so sorry for your loss *hugs* I hope you find the comfort and support you need here.  This is an amazing group of ladies. 
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  • I'm sorry for your loss ((hugs)).  I don't have personal experience with MTX, as my ectopic was removed surgically, but I'm glad to hear that although it has been a weeks long process for you they are being thorough in testing your betas through it all and keeping you safe by acting appropriately along the way. That isn't always the case for some women, unfortunately. 

    What I do know about MTX is that you will have to wait three months to TTC again, as MTX completely depletes the body of folic acid stores and blocks absorption of it for some time.  I'd like to assume your doctor already advised you of this, but it's surprised me over my time here to find many women come here without having been told this.  Please take care of yourself as you take the time you need to heal.


         

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  • I'm so sorry for your loss and for everything you're going through. Big ((hugs))
    Married 07/2006, TTC since 2010
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    10/2011: Clomid 100mg, IUI --> BFN

    04/13: Clomid, IUI BFP --> MC at 6w1d
    05/13: Femara 2.5mg, IUI --> BFN  , 08/13: Femara 2.5mg --> BFN
    03/14: Femara 5mg, IUI --> 1 follicle @ 27d --> BFP! EDD 12/02/14--> blighted ovum, missed MC 6w6d --> D&C
    4/23: D&C...starting over again, with a little part of my heart broken off
    5/31: Femara 7.5mg --> cancelled cycle, no follies
    7/14: Femara 5mg + brevelle + menopur + IUI --> converted to IVF, ER 7/28 --> ET cancelled due to severe OHSS.
    9/20/14:  Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP--> EDD 6/6/15 --> MC at 5w3d 
     
    10/16/14: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFN
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    3/20/16: PGS-tested Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP, Living Child born 12/1/15
    6/6/17: Fresh IVF Cycle --> Severe OHSS, 5 PGS-tested embryos frozen
    2/23/18: PGS-tested FET --> BFN
    3/30/18: Cancelled cycle due to lining 4.2mm
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  • I am sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board.

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  • So sorry for your loss. Welcome.
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  • Welcome to the board, I'm so sorry for your loss.

    Started TTC Nov. 2011 

    1st clomid cycle June 2012- No response :: HSG August 2012- Left tube blocked, right tube clear :: 2nd clomid cycle Aug. 2012 BFN :: 3rd clomid cycle Sept. 2012 :: BFP Sept 30th :: DS born 6/15/13 :: BFP #2 7/29/14 M/C 8/5/14 :: BFP#3 10/20/14 DD born 7/1/2015 :: Applied to be surrogate April '17 :: Transferred 1 Embryo for IFs Dec. '17 :: Surro Babe born 9/11/18 :: Started 2nd Journey May '19 :: Transferred 1 Embryo for new IFs 9/24/19 :: HB 138 at 6w6d


  • I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you find some comfort here. Welcome.
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  • Thank you all for the kind words.

    Yes, they mentioned waiting for 3 months post mtx, but yesterday she was all, "6 weeks" and I sort of gave her a look of crazy.  The rate this is going, I won't be back to 0 until December, so 3 months is a pipe dream anyhow.

    My HcG went up again yesterday to 122 (not a huge increase or anything and I know it is the drop between day 4 to day 7 that matters) but I got irrationally upset over it last night.  I was hoping it would miraculously drop and this would finally be over, but no dice.

    So now I wait to be poked and prodded all over again on Friday.  
    3/22/09 - Lily Grace, born at 33 weeks, 2 days
    9/12/14 - M/C @ 7 weeks, 1 day (ectopic)

  • I'm so sorry for your loss and for the additional struggle you are going through. Welcome to the board, these ladies have been so wonderful to me. I hope you also find the support you need here.  

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  • Welcome, I'm so sorry for your loss. (((hugs)))

    Me 34 DH 31, Together since 2003, Married August 20, 2011,  TTC since May 2013
    BFP #1 August 24, 2013! MMC discovered Oct. 3, 2013, D&C Oct. 4, 2013
    BFP #2 December 17, 2013! MMC discovered Jan. 28, 2014, D&C Jan. 30, 2014
    Testing done: male with complete Trisomy 16, not hereditary. Tested me for clotting disorders, all normal.
    Feb. 2014 all clear again to TTC!  Will start progesterone supplementation with the next BFP just in case.       Oct. 2014 more testing just because, thyroid and autoimmune panels = normal.  Diagnostic U/S = no abnormalities.  Will keep trying for 3-6 more months, doctor still optimistic!

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  • Welcome. I am so sorry for your loss!

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  • I'm sorry for your loss. Welcome, I hope you find comfort here.
  • Again, thank you all so much for the welcome. I've fully inundated myself with Dr. Google and anecdotal evidence, so I'm trying to just chill until Friday.  Hoping I don't need a second dose, but have been passing some very small amounts of tissue and very small amounts of blood.  I realize this could also be a result of the D&C on Friday, but I'm trying to think positively that the meds are finally working. 

    A la Tom Petty -- the waiting is the hardest part.
    3/22/09 - Lily Grace, born at 33 weeks, 2 days
    9/12/14 - M/C @ 7 weeks, 1 day (ectopic)

  • I'm so sorry for your loss hun!! Prayers go out to you during this difficult process. I've been there.

    I'm new here too. And I think we are in good company. Hopefully, your stay here will be a short one.
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