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Is 7 months too young to let them cry?

jpoindahousejpoindahouse member
in February 2014 Moms

I'm wondering if anyone has tried crying it out and what the thoughts are on this. LO is 7 months old now and is becoming very demanding. If a object is taken away (which happens often because he gets his hands on things he shouldn't), he throws an absolute fit. If I put him down in his pack n play for 15 minutes to do dishes he loses it. I don't want to neglect him and I want to soothe him, but at what point do you just let them cry a little?

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  • ramfan05ramfan05 member
    Yep, I'm with @RondackHiker as well. 
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  • RondackHikerRondackHiker member
    I keep going back to him getting his hands on things he shouldn't often.

    It really sounds like you need to babyproof.


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  • jpoindahousejpoindahouse member
    Thanks. When I offer him another toy he is so far into his crying jags that he doesn't even take it. He just loses it very quickly and intensely.
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  • RondackHikerRondackHiker member
    jpoindahouse said:

    Thanks. When I offer him another toy he is so far into his crying jags that he doesn't even take it. He just loses it very quickly and intensely.

    Then try to offer the other toy first, as long as what he's holding isn't really unsafe. Tickle or playfully poke or boop him with a toy a few times and then offer it to him and remove the other thing. Or swoop him up and tickle and toss and until he drops it.

    And keeping things out of his reach is good. I know some say that if you supervise and teach the kids well you don't need to baby proof... But kids don't get discipline or rules for a long time and you need to pee at some point. Baby proof.

    DD looses her mind if I take something from her. I try to avoid it and comfort her or offer other toys. I'd be mad if I was her as well. She's not being demanding.

    She just wants to eat all the paper. Especially library books.


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  • jpoindahousejpoindahouse member
    RondackHiker said:
    Thanks. When I offer him another toy he is so far into his crying jags that he doesn't even take it. He just loses it very quickly and intensely.
    Then try to offer the other toy first, as long as what he's holding isn't really unsafe. Tickle or playfully poke or boop him with a toy a few times and then offer it to him and remove the other thing. Or swoop him up and tickle and toss and until he drops it. And keeping things out of his reach is good. I know some say that if you supervise and teach the kids well you don't need to baby proof... But kids don't get discipline or rules for a long time and you need to pee at some point. Baby proof. DD looses her mind if I take something from her. I try to avoid it and comfort her or offer other toys. I'd be mad if I was her as well. She's not being demanding. She just wants to eat all the paper. Especially library books.

    this is a good suggestion.
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  • jpoindahousejpoindahouse member
    Does anybody have any suggestions on how to get him to like things like his jumparoo more? Like I said before, I don't want to neglect him, but getting a good 30 minutes to do stuff once or twice a day would be AH-MAZ-ING
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  • breadpuddingbreadpudding member
    When I need M to play and be happy while I do dishes, something for my toddler, laundry, etc. I give him one of his big brother's cups,
    or one of his plastic bowls. Giving him something that is new to him and nothing like a toy, really does distract him and keep him interested. I can hand him a toy and he will cry, throw it, and cry some more making me think he just wants to be held, but as soon as I hand him something interesting (bowl, cup) he is fine.

    Maybe try something like that?
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  • jpoindahousejpoindahouse member
    Thanks guys for being non-judgmental about this and offering helpful suggestions. I was worried I was going to get a lot of "you're a horrible mother for even wanting to put your baby down" but you have all been great with the advice. It may be that I just need to hire someone to watch him a few hours a week to get some work done and preserve my sanity
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  • CodypupCodypup member
    Totally not judging, but I think you'd feel a bit better if you readjusted your expectations. 30 minutes of independent play is not realistic at all. 

    Basically, the only time I let her cry is if I'm on the toilet, or I'm in the middle of making her a bottle and will be right back. She's recently entered a separation anxiety phase, where she essentially wants to be in my lap at all times. If I put her in the jumperoo and leave the room, she flips out because she can't see me. Even in the jumperoo, I only get about 10 minutes MAX before she's sick of it.

    I do what PPs have said - distract with toys, let her crawl around underfoot, and redirect constantly. Like your LO, W gravitates toward objects that aren't toys - remote controls, cell phones, tissue boxes, her nebulizer machine (?? weirdo child.) I pick my battles. 

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  • rexgirl06rexgirl06 member
    I have a pretty high maintenance baby as well. I'd say do your best to prevent him/her from getting into things that aren't baby safe. But sometimes for your sanity you need to get some things done. Just make sure they are put in a safe place. A few months ago I'd put LO in his crib and wind his mobile and as long as that was going he'd be pretty happy. My hat is off to moms who claim they keep their babies happy all day and don't let them cry it out, but for my sanity, I've had to. Maybe not for 20 minutes at a time, but 5-10 minutes here and there as long as they are safe and have a few toys, I think it's just fine. They have to eventually learn how to play by themselves!  
    We also sleep trained and believe me, there is plenty of crying at bed time and nap time but we survive. Sometimes just 5 minutes of washing dishes is the recharge you need! 
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  • CerisrichardCerisrichard member
    RondackHiker said:

    You're reading way too much into it.

    He's not being demanding or naughty.

    He's too little to get discipline. Try to keep things he shouldn't have away from his reach and swap with another toy or distract with tickles if you can.

    I try to do things when then kids are happily playing, or have DD playing underfoot while I do chores. I have had to let her cry when I run to swap laundry loads over before (usually because the cloth diaper loads can't wait because I need them).

    I try not to let her cry at all. I just think there are ways around it. Babies and children need lots of focus and attention. They're not being demanding. It's a real need. Trying handing him a wooden spoon while you wash dishes, or a dry rag and a pot to imitate you (he won't get it get, but he will eventually).

    I understand what your saying but I don't think original poster was being unrealistic. Babies are demanding on you even if it is a real need. I try my best not to let LO cry but at the moment he has extreme separation anxiety. I have to take him everywhere with me and cannot go out of sight for a couple of seconds without him crying. He often cries if I walk away from him in the same room even if I am talking to him and making a fuss of him and he wants my constant attention playing with him.

    I try to do chores when he sleeps but it is not alway possible and I tend to think if he can see me and knows I 'm there talking/ singing to him, sometimes I have to let him cry for short periods. It would be lovely to avoid it but I would never get anything done. I only do short jobs while he is awake but still I feel like he cries too much. I think it's just normal though as all the mums I know say the same thing!
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  • MissDemeanorMissDemeanor member
    jpoindahouse said:
    Thanks guys for being non-judgmental about this and offering helpful suggestions. I was worried I was going to get a lot of "you're a horrible mother for even wanting to put your baby down" but you have all been great with the advice. It may be that I just need to hire someone to watch him a few hours a week to get some work done and preserve my sanity
    I think this is a great idea! My niece just spent a couple days here, to play with LO while we got a few things done. Since I was still home I could check on R, and reassure him since he has separation issues lately, but I didn't have to be with him every second. 

    I've looked into it, and I could actually get someone in to clean, for the price I'd pay for day care. Personally, I'd rather go with Option A.
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