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This will NOT be happening again

miahbellemiahbelle member
in April 2015 Moms
I'm so mad right now. DH and I specifically told the few people we announced the pregnancy to that we weren't ready to go public yet. Since then various family members have spilled the beans. His step father and mom told the step-grandparents (like within an hour of them finding out) and then I told my grandfather very quietly off to the side at a small family gathering and my sister starts yelling "I don't think uncle and nana heard you! They didn't hear you. Did y'all here her? They didn't hear you mention the baby!" I was ready to kill. Then another one of my sisters told their neighbor because he just asked her if I was pregnant and she said yes instead of dodging (although I can actually forgive this one because my younger sis isn't so great socially). Then my FIL (not the step) told his sorta ex girl friend (a really complicated relationship) this weekend. So forget it. I told DH that next time we aren't telling ANYONE until we are ready to announce to EVERYONE. Honestly, how hard is it to keep your mouth shut?!
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  • kariemomokariemomo member
    I've told a few people at work, my boss, and the other two that are second in charge, and a girl that is a few weeks ahead of me. While today the new girl said I heard you were expecting from so and so. And I'm like. Uhh don't you think that's my news to share. And since I've already had some issues I'm nervous incase something happens. Ugh people
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    @kariemomo‌ - I would tooootally have a come to Jesus mtg with so and so about their rude big mouth. Put them on notice that they've just blown any trust at future news of anything. Bravo.
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  • bowman958bowman958 member
    That's the risk you take when you start telling people - you can only trust yourself to keep your mouth shut. It sucks, but that's the way it goes. Hope you can find a way to have fun announcing to those who aren't in the know yet.
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  • picklesxpicklesx member
    This is a big part of the reason we haven't told my in-laws yet.

    Sorry your family couldn't keep their mouths shut!
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  • Dani428Dani428 member
    Boooooo!!! I'm so sorry. Seriously what's wrong with people!

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  • jk3610jk3610 member
    our families are a bit gossipy too, so we are waiting til 12 weeks to tell.  (well, i'll be 11w5d on the day we decided to tell, but close enough)  both our moms would have been a problem lol.  good luck!
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  • ally3242ally3242 member
    This is exactly why you shouldn't tell anyone unless you're ready for a number of people to know. It's the kind of exciting secret that eats at people. We told our parents and since then my dad has been nagging me to death about when he can tell everyone....this has been going since I was 4 weeks pregnant....I'll be 12 tomorrow....it's annoying as hell.
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  • NcountrygalNcountrygal member
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    I feel your pain! My MIL used the news (after we expressly told her not to share) o make it all about her. So selfish. Next time, she gets to wait like everyone else!

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  • k8knitsk8knits member

    Ugh! Why do people act like it's their news to share? So inappropriate!

    I only told one girlfriend at work, and made sure to tell her that she was the only one I was telling. If anyone else finds out about it, we'll both know who told!

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  • cwiceangelcwiceangel member
    My mom wants to tell people so bad. But luckily she won't until we do. Mostly she wants to tell people she works with, which I was like well that's fine. I know like two of them. But then she brought up that she has a bunch of my friends on her FB and doesn't want them coming across something one of her coworkers may post. So at least she's being considerate. ;)
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  • saratroia05saratroia05 member
    What on earth is a DH?
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  • JaneShopsJaneShops member
    Very frustrating, but that's how it works
    I learned the hard way, as well

    Even my mother, being very respectful, asked if as can spill the beans to a couple people. It's hard for people to keep good news a secret
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  • JaneShopsJaneShops member
    saratroia05 said:

    What on earth is a DH?

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    DH- dear husband (or boyfriend, sig other, fiancé etc)
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  • saratroia05saratroia05 member
    Ahh, gotcha! Haha...I'm new to all this lingo and that was one I could NOT figure out!! Thanks :)
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  • nirasha1nirasha1 member
    I am so glad I came across this post! We revealed our pregnancy to a few of our closest family and friends. I've received phone calls from my mum's family to congratulate me, this after requesting for everyone to please keep quite until 12 weeks. I approached to ask, I was made to feel that I did something wrong by asking. Now no one wants to have anything to do with me- my family that it is! Spent 5hours crying over this situation and I am not sure what to expect.
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  • miahbellemiahbelle member
    nirasha1 said:

    I am so glad I came across this post! We revealed our pregnancy to a few of our closest family and friends. I've received phone calls from my mum's family to congratulate me, this after requesting for everyone to please keep quite until 12 weeks. I approached to ask, I was made to feel that I did something wrong by asking. Now no one wants to have anything to do with me- my family that it is! Spent 5hours crying over this situation and I am not sure what to expect.

    Yeah, I was pretty frustrated when he tried to make it seem like I was being unreasonable! I honestly don't know how it will turn out for you. Hopefully the excitement of baby will help them get over their totally unfair irritableness about you getting upset.
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  • Pix3llePix3lle member
    My MIL guessed!
    (admittedly i did run off to have some morning sickness at her house)
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  • 2015Baby32015Baby3
    We don't plan on making ours public till after the 1st tri. Just encase something happens. However, I went for my confermation appointment at the OB and as I was walking out and the nurses were all congradulating me. I looked at the check out counter and there is my step-sons MOTHER.....UGH....we haven't gotten along sence we were children. So she went home and got on her facebook and started bitching about me being knocked up and that I'm a whore and all kinds of stuff. I have been getting calls left and right. I keep telling people not to believe everythign you hear but I don't know how long I can keep this up. I just want to cry everytime I have to lie to people :( I really want my children to announce it in a cute way after the 1st tri. But I think its wrecked now :(
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