Today I got the first "please talk to the boys about bus behavior" from the bus driver. I asked if he could separate them, they are separated in school this year, and I think it's the only way for them to be successful. He said yes. That was all we really talked about … I live on a very busy street. The bus driver told the teachers this morning that the boys were being "fresh" and talking back which was an email I got from Nathan's teacher earlier today. I know the bus is going to be hard for them. It was the part of school I honestly dreaded the most. Sitting still is really really hard for them. They've going from 5 point harness booster seats to no seat belts, a bus full of kindergarteners, and no monitor. I feel so bad because I know it's not the drivers job to be reprimanding them, but I don't know how to get them to follow the rules if I'm not there to enforce them. We talked a lot about it tonight because they really want to ride the bus and I told them they may not get to because they have to be safe, blah blah.
Also we do a sticker for each day they have a good day at school, after 10 stickers they get a prize - ice cream treat, toy from Five Below, trip to Chuck E Cheese, that kind of thing. Today was their 10th day, but I didn't give them the sticker because of the bus problem. Now I assume their behavior on the bus hadn't been great either (and I just had no idea), but he was giving them a learning curve and now that's up.
So what do I do? We had issues in PreK with attention, focusing, and sitting still. We continue to have this issue.. throw in some impulsivity. We are seeing a psychologist for trying to tease out some of their behavior issues… we both feel like we're looking at ADHD diagnoses, but she really thinks giving them some time in K separated possibly up til 1st grade before it's definite. We did fill out a rating scale at the pedi that put them in an at-risk category, but still within limits for their age (like they do sleep amazing and are in bed by 7pm, sleeping 5 min. later, and they can sit once focused and complete school work with minimal if not any errors). Do I give them some more time re-emphasizing the rules? Throw in the towel and drive them? The psych and I were kind of at the point of waiting for them to fail in school and then saying "ok what are you going to do about it?" Because testing wise I know they'll test just fine … maybe low in social/emotional, but my district would give 2 shi** about that. Suggestions?
Re: bus trouble