Confessions...

herbunmyoven · September 2014

So last night I SERIOUSLY considered installing new flooring in the kitchen to avoid having to clean the kitchen floor. I can' even tell if I am grumpy or lazy on that one!

Also- We decided to get a sitter through Care.com for M while we do my ET on Monday. She seems nice and competent and nannies for a 19 month old. I am calling her employer today and we are meeting with her on Sunday. I am secretly hoping that this works out so we can have some local support. I could totally use more time with my wife. Also, if it doesn't work out, A is just going to come to the clinic, sign in, and leave to go play somewhere with M. I am a big girl and could do the ET myself, but it would be kind sad to not be there.

Anyone have any confessions this week?

ATXmommas · September 2014

I'm wearing open toed shoes today even though the paint on my toes is looking crazy. I'm banking on nobody staring at my toes today!

I'll try to think of something more revealing and post later.

herbunmyoven · September 2014

KLeigh1 said:

One last thing... Why do people insist on trying to touch babies that aren't theirs in public? It's offensive.

Old men try to touch M all of the time! It is so weird and gross! Also, now that he is a little older, random strangers try to "high 5" him...get your grubby stranger hands off of my child..okay thanks.

Jazibel · September 2014

herbunmyoven said:

KLeigh1 said:

One last thing... Why do people insist on trying to touch babies that aren't theirs in public? It's offensive.

Old men try to touch M all of the time! It is so weird and gross! Also, now that he is a little older, random strangers try to "high 5" him...get your grubby stranger hands off of my child..okay thanks.

This!!! The other day I was practically dancing with a stranger in the grocery store trying to keep Owen in the ergo away from them. I get wanting to look and talk - but really don't touch his face or hands.

ATXmommas · September 2014

Jazibel said:

herbunmyoven said:

KLeigh1 said:

One last thing... Why do people insist on trying to touch babies that aren't theirs in public? It's offensive.

Old men try to touch M all of the time! It is so weird and gross! Also, now that he is a little older, random strangers try to "high 5" him...get your grubby stranger hands off of my child..okay thanks.

This!!! The other day I was practically dancing with a stranger in the grocery store trying to keep Owen in the ergo away from them. I get wanting to look and talk - but really don't touch his face or hands.

-------

I had Ash in his stroller (w/ infant seat) in the grocery store when he was a few weeks old and the cashier tried to put his pacifier in his mouth! Um, noooooo, not appropriate!

KH826 · September 2014

ATXmommas said:

herbunmyoven said:

KLeigh1 said:

One last thing... Why do people insist on trying to touch babies that aren't theirs in public? It's offensive.

Old men try to touch M all of the time! It is so weird and gross! Also, now that he is a little older, random strangers try to "high 5" him...get your grubby stranger hands off of my child..okay thanks.

This!!! The other day I was practically dancing with a stranger in the grocery store trying to keep Owen in the ergo away from them. I get wanting to look and talk - but really don't touch his face or hands.
------- I had Ash in his stroller (w/ infant seat) in the grocery store when he was a few weeks old and the cashier tried to put his pacifier in his mouth! Um, noooooo, not appropriate!

We have started using a blanket in the grocery store to cover Will's legs and feet when he is in the carrier. Will hates having anything on his feet, and he kicks off socks or fusses until we take them off, so his little feet are always bare. I can't tell you how many people have tried to touch his feet when one of us is wearing him. So now we use a blanket and wrap it around the carrier and tuck it up under his legs, but he isn't a huge fan. He hated being swaddled as a newborn, and this is too swaddle-esque for him I think. He just likes being free to kick, etc. Anyway... it is a continued struggle. I just want to have a no-touch bubble around him or a sign that says "paws off please!"

bfonz619 · September 2014

ATXmommas said:

herbunmyoven said:

KLeigh1 said:

One last thing... Why do people insist on trying to touch babies that aren't theirs in public? It's offensive.

Old men try to touch M all of the time! It is so weird and gross! Also, now that he is a little older, random strangers try to "high 5" him...get your grubby stranger hands off of my child..okay thanks.

This!!! The other day I was practically dancing with a stranger in the grocery store trying to keep Owen in the ergo away from them. I get wanting to look and talk - but really don't touch his face or hands.
------- I had Ash in his stroller (w/ infant seat) in the grocery store when he was a few weeks old and the cashier tried to put his pacifier in his mouth! Um, noooooo, not appropriate!

DW and I talk about how we will handle this when we have our LO. The thought of random strangers touching our child it a bit horrifying.

@kleigh1 I completely hear what you're saying when it comes to feeling as though your job is just a means for money. I am constantly trying to think of ways that I can work from home and make the same money to the point of even considering moving to a place where the cost of living is less.

Also, when it comes to short hair I am right there with you, there is nothing worse that it being too short to style! Before DW started cutting my hair, there were a couple of times where this exact scenario brought me to tears. FX it grows out quickly!

doodah1013 · September 2014

Confession: Our niece is so well behaved, congenial, funny, brave and cute... And sometimes I worry our kid just won't stack up. Oh lord. It is so hard to see that in print.

Karlamo · September 2014

Along the lines of everyone's confession, my confession is I don't mind people touching/looking at R. When he was a newborn, we were cautious but once he went to daycare we relaxed and realized he will get exposed to stuff that we can't control. We're lucky that he has never even gotten a cold so far.

Nothing warms my heart more than seeing how much joy a baby, my baby, brings to complete strangers. There is so much hate and hostility in this world. I love the fact that a baby can still touch the human heart in such a way that even old men want to stop and see him. Maybe I'm an odd duck.

Plus he's washable :P

Jazibel · September 2014

Confession: I am so excited for our little nephews arrival - but at the same time I have just a little sadness mixed in. This nephew has biological ties to EV's family and well there's just a difference to peoples excitement and support. I am worried about how this impacts EV especially.

I am not losing any weight - not really. It's so frustrating. The same thing happened with Kaden, the whole time I nursed I couldn't lose weight. The first couple of weeks of weaning I shed 10lbs and kept losing. It's hard to not be a little conflicted by this. I treasure my nursing relationship and I know I'm lucky to have a healthy supply. But I wish there was a way to also make some progress on reaching my goal weight....

trisholio · September 2014

I missed M and K while they were with another foster family, but I wasn't as ready as I thought for them to come home.
I was so worried after Adalyn being in the Nicu, I don't feel like I really started to bond with her until we got home.
I didn't think night time feedings would be a big deal because I'm not one to sleep well, but I am really struggling with them.
I think that's all for now.....

KH826 · September 2014

Confession: I am conflicted about weight loss and how much I currently care. I really want to be back to my goal weight so that all of my nice clothes will fit. I also just want to feel like I am my "best version of my self." But I have a different relationship with my body image now than I did pre-baby. The scale tells me I need to lose 50 lbs, but honestly, when I look in the mirror I don't hate what I see as much as I "should." I am shocked by this. I was a size 6 pre-TTC, and now I am a 12. Part of me wants to work my butt off to get back to being a 6 as quickly as possible. Part of me thinks life is too short for that, and I should just live a healthy life and take everything in moderation and just "see what happens." Honestly, I just want a sandwich. With bread. I am in such an overwhelmingly good place with life in general right now that I am afraid that is coloring my thinking on this. Maybe I am just too happy and giddy to realize I am fat! LOL

I haven't changed anything with my aggressive diet this week, but I have wanted to.

I will weigh myself tomorrow, see how much I lost this week, and then go from there...

I think I do honestly want to lose weight, I just don't want to have to think about it so much right now because life is good and full and happy... and I don't want to bring myself down by being overly restrictive, etc.

This may not make any sense to anyone. And I reserve the right to change my mind if I weigh in tomorrow and that somehow makes me want to push myself even harder. Though I am not sure I see that happening.

Karlamo · September 2014

@trisholio, hang in there! This too shall pass. The newborn days are so hard, nothing can prepare you for them.

redrockmama · September 2014

@KH826 eat those sandwiches girl! What I really mean is I hope you can be compassionate towards yourself. You just GREW a human, and are working full time and taking care of him. I hope you just soak up all the good and happy that is right now.

You can also just tell me to take me opinion and shove it!

I'll have to think of a confession and come back later...my brain is nonexistent these days.

2momsinCA · September 2014

Confession: this is probably a crappy thing to write when I know it's real "poor me" but I've lost too much weight. I'm down to my pre-TTC weight which I'm not thrilled about since I wonder if being too thin impacts my milk supply. NICU stress took the 30lbs I gained while pregnant right off in about 2 months. Now that the boys are home just general time management stress has made me go even lower. I'm eating lots of healthy fats- but it's not sticking.

Next confession- I miss alone time with my wife. I wonder if/when we will have that again. We have made a concerted effort to try to feel "normal" by taking the babies and dogs on long evening walks. We wear the boys in their ergos, which they love and they sleep and we can chat and feel like regular people but back in the house it's back in the trenches of the fuss-feed-play-sleep (not always that 4th one) cycle. We are always together but so totally baby oriented. I miss my wife even though she's right here.

Final confession- I'm scared to death of my milk supply dwindling. I eat my weight in fenugreek and oatmeal each day and am seeing no difference. 3-4oz each pump. Awesome for a singleton. Not cutting it for twins. I tap into the freezer supply daily and that will be gone eventually. If we end up going to formula it will be ridiculously expensive because the boys can only tolerate elemental, hypoallergenic formulas (elecare, nutramigen, allimentum) which cost upward of $40 per canister. We learned this the hard way when they started fortifying my breastmilk in the NICU. Since they were so premature I feel like the most important thing I can do for their immune systems is EBF/BP the first year. Ordering domperidone today, I think.

1blueridgemama · September 2014

My confession- I've been in hospital for observation, monitoring and frequent testing. Have developing pre-e and gestational diabetes. They give me the blandest food and I've been about to explode if I don't get anything sweet. Like pregnant mama meltdown explosion. My wife brought me chocolate mousse yesterday and I've been taking secret bites. I feel like a 4 year old with a hidden candy stash hoping to not get caught! I think once the babies are delivered, I'll need a vat of chocolate like in Willy Wonka.

2brides · September 2014

KLeigh1 said:

Haha! My pediatrician and I seriously thought about making a iron on for parents that says if it's not your baby don't touch! To attach on carrier covers, strollers, outfits, whatever. I think it'd sell for sure

Too late!

My co-worker has this one (there are several versions out there!)

mallory4284 · September 2014

herbunmyoven said:
So last night I SERIOUSLY considered installing new flooring in the kitchen to avoid having to clean the kitchen floor. I can' even tell if I am grumpy or lazy on that one!

Also- We decided to get a sitter through Care.com for M while we do my ET on Monday. She seems nice and competent and nannies for a 19 month old. I am calling her employer today and we are meeting with her on Sunday. I am secretly hoping that this works out so we can have some local support. I could totally use more time with my wife. Also, if it doesn't work out, A is just going to come to the clinic, sign in, and leave to go play somewhere with M. I am a big girl and could do the ET myself, but it would be kind sad to not be there.

Anyone have any confessions this week?

I don't blame you for wanting her there. I would have been super sad if J hadn't been there for our transfers. And I know she would have been, too! Good luck with your meeting! In hope it works out for you!

mallory4284 · September 2014

doodah1013 said:
Confession: Our niece is so well behaved, congenial, funny, brave and cute... And sometimes I worry our kid just won't stack up. Oh lord. It is so hard to see that in print.

Fwiw, I feel the same way about our future child. My niece isn't perfect by any means (she's only human she throws fits every so often) but all things considered she is so good! She was the easiest baby. She's smart as a whip. She's got the biggest imagination EVER. She's so funny...

And I'm just sure that I'm going to end up with a super fussy, colicky, clingy, baby that no one wants to be around!

mallory4284 · September 2014

I can't remember if I've "confessed"
this before. Sorry if I've complained about it before....

But I hate J's job. I know she's not in love with it either and she's just biding time until she feels like she has enough managerial experience to try and find a new job... But I can't wait until the day she comes home and tells me that she's going to look for a job closer to home!

The downfall is that she make really good money at her current job, but that is always contingent on her employees performing well. (She is a manager at a collection agency so her commission check depends in whether her team hits goal) <---- this is what I hate. That our well being depends on other people's performance.

And the biggest thing I hate about her job is the hours. She has to commute an hour and fifteen mins to get to work and she'll often work until 6,7,8:00 at night. And since I have to be at work at 5:15 in the morning, the nights that she works late, I'm in bed by the time she gets home.... Or I go to bed shortly after she gets home.... So I feel like the only time I see her is on the weekends.

Sorry for the long rant!!

2MamazInSeattle · September 2014

1. We realized today, our child being 23 days old, we had only bathed her twice. Since birth. So today was bath #3. Bad mamaz.

2. A few times I have chosen to pump vs. feed her at the boob because it's faster and less taxing on my boobs.

3. We have decided to keep using disposable diapers at night for a while, but sometimes I use them during the day too, even though the cloth are handy and available.

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