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My Heart Aches For Others (IRL loss/PTL mentioned)

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Baby KMW and myself are doing just fine, so no worries about us :) I did fail the 1hr glucose test today, do the 3hr Monday, but I'm not too upset about this. 

PGAL brain sucks and my heart is so heavy right now. I know being PGAL makes us all hyper-aware of loss but it's been a really bad couple of weeks for me IRL. A coworker ended up having an ectopic and had to have one of her tubes removed, she came back to work this week. Another friend who's EDD was 2 weeks before me went into preterm labor and delivered her lil guy at 25weeks. So far lil man is hanging in there, but it is some scary stuff (blood pressure issues, oxygen levels, etc etc).  And today on facebook a childhood friend posted about another childhood friend who delivered her little guy at 23 weeks yesterday, he didn't make it.

On a semi-related, lighter note, my heart also aches for everybody here and on ttcal. The announcement of another royal baby, whoop-d F'n do. It sucked having to experience that the first time and now a second time. Although I'm pregnant now, I'm still not happy or excited about another royal baby, I think it goes along the lines of feeling "passed by." My first thought/emotion when I heard the news was anger and heartache for all of the wonderful ladies on pgal/ttcal/if  who are having to experience this, again. So much love ladies.

That's all. I'm just a big ball of emotions and I don't think being 'AL ever gets easier.

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  • E&B0811E&B0811 member
    ((((hugs))))

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  • footprintfootprint member
    I'm so sorry that you are going through this. ((hugs)) I wish I knew something wise to say, but sometimes, things are just really, really sad. 

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    BFP: January 8, 2012
    Due: September 5, 2012
    DS: August 14, 2012

    BFP: November 5, 2013
    Due: July 11, 2014
    MMC Detected d&c: December 29, 2013 12w5d

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  • Poppy715Poppy715 member
    I saw the post you are talking about on FB. My heart just breaks for her. It brings back so many emotions. I wish I could just hold those parents and give them love and support. Hang in there K. (((Hugs)))

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  • heathersf11heathersf11 member
    I'm so sorry. My husband's coworker delivered her baby at 25 weeks last year and she made it. I will be praying for your friend's little one. I'm sorry to hear about the losses that you mentioned too. 
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    Married DH 8/1/11
    7/21/13 SA poor morphology/ low count
    BFP #1 11/18/13, EDD 7/22/14 
    MC Blighted Ovum 12/4/13 @ 7wks
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  • TVLilyTVLily member
    Sending you lots of love KMW, and all my AL ladies; TTCAL, PGAL and PAL. This journey is hard and I'm thinking of you all constantly.

    I'm sorry to hear of the losses of your friends and praying for the sweet preemie.

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    EDD 10/15/14, CP 2/8/14
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  • Cheekers2010Cheekers2010 member
    ((hugs)) It really doesn't get easier.  I find my heart aching a lot of the time for others.  There is so much sadness.
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  • goldengirl84goldengirl84 member
    You and your IRL friends will be in my T&Ps. I'm so sorry you are having to watch them go through such hard times right now. (((hugs)))
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    DS: 10/12/12 via ECS (blood clot in umbilical cord)
    BFP 1/25/14 mc at 6 1/2 weeks  EDD: 10/4/14
    BFP 4/10/14 mc at 4 1/2 weeks  EDD: 12/15/14
    BFP 5/14/14 mc at 5 1/2 weeks  EDD: 1/20/15
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  • HorseLover11HorseLover11 member
    edited September 2014
    I'm sorry (((hugs))) it's very difficult being pgal and something that is not talked about openly, but somehow I've come to appreciate all that it's taught me in life and makes me a lot more understanding and empathetic to others and that is something I would not have otherwise. It has allowed me to open up more and be closer to others who are struggling and I'm glad I can be that person for them as I really appreciated the few in my life who understood what I was going thru. I also had a friend deliver at 23 weeks and has very vibrant and healthy one yr old. I'm not sure if I responded correctly to your post but just know these ladies are lucky to have someone as compassionate and understanding like you by their side.

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    Second BFP 9.12.13, EDD 5.29.14, heartbeat of 114 at 6w1d, mmc discovered on 10-18-13, D&C on 10/23/13 (baby girl/Trisomy 10) 

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  • JessicaG220JessicaG220 member
    Sending you hugs and thinking of those going through tough times.  I also took it hard when I heard the news of William and Kate's second baby.  Last year she was due a few weeks after I was due with Ava, and still today it hurts my heart knowing she has her baby at home with her and I don't.  

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  • RustyGirl3RustyGirl3 member
    Lots of (((HUGS)))

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  • luciddreamer106luciddreamer106 member
    ((Hugs)) all around. My first thought about another royal pregnancy was similar to yours. I remember how hard it hit me last time, too.
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    BFP #1: EDD 4/16/13~~blighted ovum w/ 2 gestational sacs~~Loss on 9/18/12
    BFP #2: EDD 9/3/13~~Slow HB at 1st U/S~~MMC -Loss on 2/13/13
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  • PinkCaminoPinkCamino member
    My heart goes out to these families.
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  • carlsonbaby2014carlsonbaby2014 member
    KMW - my heart aches for those families.  Sending them all of my ((((HUGS)))) and T&Ps. Also - agreed about the whoop-d-f'in-doo on the baby news for the royal family.  Many ((((HUGS)))) to our TTCAL and all AL ladies.
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    BFP 3.31.2014 EDD 12.10.2014 Baby boy Carlson born 12.19.2014 
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  • Samuelismomma Samuelismomma member
    Huge hugs. Pgal sucks and ttc, ttcal sucks too. I still have friends waiting on rainbows and friends just waiting...I deal with guilt for being pg and with pgal. It's terrible!
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  • Denise91980Denise91980 member
    I am so sorry that you are going through such a difficult time. Loss is so awful and difficult and as much as it sucks when we go through it, it is so hard to see those we care for going through it. It also is a PTSD moment for us sometimes and just brings you back to those difficult moments. I often think of the TTCAL ladies as well.

    Big ((hugs)) to you and T&Ps to your friends who are struggling.

    You have a big heart lady ((hugs))!!
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