I lost my shit...and it felt so good.

JulieSC81 · September 2014

So, MIL is an enabler and a control freak. That's enough back story lol. We were at her house tonight and she was asking SO about the 12 step program and looking at his "big book" (a book of addiction stories). As he's explaining step 1, she starts arguing the steps! WTF? Step 1 is admitting you are powerless over the substance. She is arguing and saying that SO has power over it and the steps are wrong. Im sitting there wondering W...T...F is she thinking?????? So i lost my shit. All of a sudden. I just lost it. Stood up, SLAMMED my hands on her table, and YELLED at her "stop screwing with the steps!!!!! Back away from the steps!!!!!! The steps are part of his recovery!!!! Stop arguing the steps!!!!!!!". She closed the book and pushed it back to SO. I sat down and finished sipping my hot tea. :-\"

JulieSC81 · September 2014

It felt amazing

. It was an uncontrollable, unannounced, unpredicted, complete outburst. Ahhhhhhhhhh....lovely. 8->

bowlwoman · September 2014

Good for you.

erynpdx · September 2014

Perfect!!

JulieSC81 · September 2014

It felt so good. Im still smiling

JulieSC81 · September 2014

And MIL seriously jumped back when i slammed my hands lol.

nesenotes · September 2014

Good for you! Who the hell questions the steps? Lol

melanchitty · September 2014

Haha yes! I love it when losing your shit at the most appropriate time pans out. You go girl.

nopegoat · September 2014

Haha!! Awesome girl!!

britgil89 · September 2014

The steps are there for a reason! Good for you, because the last thing someone trying to recover needs is an enabler!

feeshah · September 2014

HellYea!

JulieSC81 · September 2014

Oh yay! I love Chandler Bing lol

MaineMama · September 2014

nesenotes said:

Good for you! Who the hell questions the steps? Lol

Seriously, they are THE STEPS for a reason! Good for you, standing up to her!

JRod13 · September 2014

Haha- I bet that felt AWESOME. Good for you!

mrsrroberson · September 2014

G'head with your bad self mama!!! I applaud you! =D>

katykat03 · September 2014

Way to go!

JulieSC81 · September 2014

I kept wondering WTF she was thinking. I had no idea i would explode lol. Seriously...who argues the steps?????!!!!!! Who????? She is such a control freak that i dont think she could handle the word "powerless" and wanted to "rescue" SO again. I was getting so frustrated but even i did not expect my outburst. It felt awesome. She had nothing to say. Lol.

JulieSC81 · September 2014

My tea was good. I was not leaving my tea lol. It was a glorious moment that will go down as one of my proud moments in history lol.

efgallarday · September 2014

You go, girrrrrl!

CandEChicago · September 2014

That is great. Just thinking about it makes me giggle a little but on the serious side it's good for SO to see you stand up for him and his program like that.

I am betting MIL control freak tendencies were meant in a good way of..."you are strong enough to handle situations and recovery" to help her son progress but didn't recognize that he needs to do that himself and it takes time to progress through the steps, deal with fall out/baggage, gain support, and then to recognize and accept some power over the situations and triggers (overly simplified)

So once again...brava!

hellopartyof5 · September 2014

Omg what was she thinking?!?! This is not something to mess with! Good for you for putting her in her place.

...its not like the steps have been proven to work or anything. MIL obviously knows better.

taylojade57 · September 2014

I thought this was going to be a post about constipation...

Good for you for standing up to MIL!!

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abcmom12 · September 2014

DAMN.....you GO GIRL! =D> What was SO's reaction? I'm dying to know!

meanie3 · September 2014

Good for you dear! You have handled this whole situation so well!

rshamos · September 2014

=D> :x ^:)^ \:D/

good job!!!

JulieSC81 · September 2014

I would like to believe that MIL was just trying to be helpful but i know her too well. She couldnt stand the word "powerless" because control is so important to her. SO was trying to explain the step to her and that it means that he has no power over the drug once it enters his body...that if he uses again, he will go right back to active addict status. She would not STFU and kept arguing that he has power over it. Um, no he doesnt. I listened to her argue it for a few minutes before I lost it. I was like a volcano that erupted lol. @abcmom12‌ ....SO had that "deer caught in the headlights" look when i sat back down and looked at him. He had this half jaw dropped/half smirk on his face. There was a second of awkward silence while i sipped my tea and then the conversation moved on to something more casual (i cant even remember what! Lol). Everyone, including me, was shocked by my reaction. I am typically more level headed. It felt great!!!!!!!!!! \:D/

JulieSC81 · September 2014

Crazy is fun

<:-P

nolanova85 · September 2014

Good for you! I get so sick of people thinking they know more than tried and true systems that have worked for thousands of people. *cough - my mom too - cough*