Doing anything different?

mpiemont · September 2014

The logical side of me knows/understands that I did not do anything to cause my miscarriage. I realize it was something that happened that was beyond my control. But now being pregnant again, I can't help but think of the things that are within my control that I question as "safe". Did you/are you doing anything differently, even if it's "silly"? (I go to Zumba twice a week, I lift my sons (22lbs & 35lbs) every day...things I've considered stopping despite my dr saying it's OK. ) You can tell me I'm being crazy...

peggels24 · September 2014

Besides the usual - limit caffeine, give up alcohol, stopped smoking - I am not really doing much different. I continued to work out for most of first tri until I was so exhausted and sick that I couldn't get up at 4:45am anymore. I still lift items that I'm used to lifting (i.e. a case of water which one of my friends freaked out about) and I still basically do anything I was doing before as long as I feel comfortable doing it.

However, if giving up certain things makes you feel better and eases some worry/stress/concern - I say go for it.

carlsonbaby2014 · September 2014

I've done things differently this pregnancy than my first, why? I'm not sure other than it just felt right to me. I stopped going to BodyPump (an aerobic weight lifting class) when I found out I was pregnant, whereas I kept going a few times a week with my first pregnancy. I also was much more strict about what I ate and drank this time around. The first time I allowed myself to have a cup of regular coffee a day, this time around, I've had strictly decaf. I think a lot of us reflect on this because there is so much that is outside of our control, it's nice to consider what falls under our control and focus on some of that. So, no, you're not crazy. Or you're at least not alone

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christia10 · September 2014

I am more strict on the rules and try to drink a lot of water per my OB. No coffee which is torture. I also don't push myself. If I need a rest, I need a rest and I take a break. I really really really want coffee. One nice cup! I also try to limit junk food and sweets. I take baby aspirin, progesterone and folgard in addition to my prenatals. I pray a lot too

pblge · September 2014

At this point I'm really paranoid. I was going to do an exercise video for the first time today, but I'm still spotting from a pap yesterday, so I decided not to. I have told OH that we'll have sex after the first trimester, and he said he'd be willing to wait the whole nine months if it increased the chances of a real baby. We follow every rule in the book and then some others! Maybe I'll relax a bit after the first tri, but maybe not!

BackstreetPixie · September 2014

I have stopped taking hot showers. I like my showers HOT. I mean really hot. So now I've stopped that. And I also dread taking a shower now... I know it may be silly but makes me feel like I'm doing something to help. Also following all the other rules, googling different foods to be sure they are safe to eat, recooking deli meat to steaming, no soft serve ice cream... all that.

Mel&John2013 · September 2014

carlsonbaby2014 said:

I think a lot of us reflect on this because there is so much that is outside of our control, it's nice to consider what falls under our control and focus on some of that.

This exactly. I followed most of the rules last time around, but this time I follow every single one I know of. No caffeine, no really hot showers, no soft cheese, skipping the scanner at airports...it makes me feel like there is something I can control. I need that.

mikeANDjen448 · September 2014

I say if it feels right to you to abstain then do it

at this point I don't think any of us are crazy for what we do/don't do. I hold my daughter still (she's around 20lbs and I'm almost 20 weeks). Not sure how long that will be able to continue though.

mpiemont · September 2014

Thanks for weighing in ladies. I"m glad to know that some "paranoia" is normal. I would sit on my couch and do nothing and only eat vegetables if I thought it would get me my rainbow, but unfortunately, I know that's not the case.

There's a few things I have stopped. But for now I think I'm going to continue Zumba because it's seriously the most fun 2 hours of my week (not really, I just really enjoy it). I'm limiting lifting my boys to when I absolutely need to. And following all the rules food/drink wise.

:-*

heathersf11 · September 2014

I did everything right the first time and I still didn't have a normal pregnancy. I realized after that, that there are just some things in this world that I can't control.

goldengirl84 · September 2014

BackstreetPixie said:

*snit* no soft serve ice cream... all that.

No soft serve?? I've never heard that. Great! I'm afraid to eat anything!

I didn't cut out caffeine with my first loss - I still had one cup a day. Now I only drink water and maybe some juice. I also started my progesterone at 2dpo so that is helping calm my fears because I waited until after BFP last time. I've been trying to stay active by cleaning my house, running errands, etc. I don't overdo it and I take rests during the day and an occasional nap. I do lift my son and he's 31 pounds. I lifted a really heavy rug a few days ago. So many things to worry about! :-<

Yaz14 · September 2014

I don't really do anything differently. The only thing I've consciously changed is the amount of caffeine I consume. I've cut it out almost completely. Mind you I don't feel like coke at all which I usually love. Apart from that I don't do as much exercise because I just don't have the time or energy. I used to do crossfit at least 3 days a week. I haven't been once since my BFP because I'm far too sick and tired. I don't think I'll go back while pregnant though anyway because many of the exercises are not exactly pregnancy friendly (lifting heavy weights etc) but I'm thinking about joining a prenatal yoga class. My diet is actually worse than before I got pregnant. The things that I feel like eating are mostly junk. As I start to feel better I'm trying to eat better.

I totally went off track there lol.

dragonfly1809 · September 2014

Is is strange to say I've probably been even more relaxed about stuff with this pregnancy than I was with Finn?
I'm not sure why... I stressed about everything last time, still ended up with high blood sugar and pressure. This time I know I'm eating well, sleeping well, and getting some light exercise - so the odd cup of coffee or even cranberry wine (yum!) doesn't worry me.
So far I'm much healthier this time around.

While pregnant with Finn my mother went into hospice and died a few months later (breast cancer) ...during that time I spend every day at her bedside - stressed, not eating well, in a sad depressing environment... The whole experience weighed heavily on me.

This time I'm not under any pressure, can eat what I want when I want (not hospital food), I have time for yoga daily, acupuncture a couple times a week ...most of all - no stress (or at least none i can't walk away from) ..

So though I'm not going out of my way to do things differently, life is just so different now.
I think it's making a difference.

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