TTC After a Loss

Debbie Downer This Morning

I woke up this morning just feeling so down.  I had really high hopes for 2009, but apparently that's not going to work out.  There is a country song that has a line in it that says, "If you want to see God laugh, tell him your plans."  Feeling like that is so true right now.  DH has accident insurance, but that won't cover everything, so we will have crazy medical bills, added to all my bills.  I looked up my bills last night, we still have 6 months worth of payments to my dr, and 11 months of payments to the hospital.  We're paying between $600-1000 on the medical bills per month.  I'm pretty sure this means no ttc when I get cleared by my dr in a couple more months.  I really don't want to go back to my teaching job on Monday, I love the kids, but the teachers and staff are horrible.  I really have to fight anger and depression when I'm there, and I have been doing so well the last couple of weeks.  I still have 18 weeks left of school, I know that's not long, but it is a long time (that makes sense right?).  Dh is getting ready to tear out part of our foundation so he can raise the house back up and replace that part of the foundation.  It needs done so that we can continue to remodel, but it's going to be a disaster and I don't want to deal with it.  If you've gotten this far, thank you.  I really appreciate a safe place to post all of this.
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Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle!
April 2011 CP @ 5 weeks

Re: Debbie Downer This Morning

  • You are in need of a big hug!    Left HugRight Hug
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  • HUGS from me too!
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  • Aw, honey, I'm sorry things don't look to be shaping up for you yet... I know it's hard (especially for me!) to always remember that God has a plan for us in mind... and I'm sure he's got something good in store for you guys. ((big hugs))
  • ME Too!  Hugs all around!  I am down this morning too.  :(

    Shouldn't all of this be the best, most exciting times of our lives?  Not for us TTCAL's.  :(  As if the loss wasn't hard enough, then we have residual emotions, people who are jerks, accidents, the pressue of trying to get PG again and scared of not being PG or being PG and losing it again.  ADD in everyday problems, the economy and things out of our controll...ugh.

    Sorry, I'll shut up now....

     

    BIG (((((HUGS)))))

  • Hugs to you!
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  • ((Big hugs)) Try and stay positive and know that everything will work out. Hope your weekend gets better!
  • {BIG HUGS} I am sorry the year is starting off rough for you guys....
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    ME Too!  Hugs all around!  I am down this morning too.  :(

    Shouldn't all of this be the best, most exciting times of our lives?  Not for us TTCAL's.  :(  As if the loss wasn't hard enough, then we have residual emotions, people who are jerks, accidents, the pressue of trying to get PG again and scared of not being PG or being PG and losing it again.  ADD in everyday problems, the economy and things out of our controll...ugh.

    Sorry, I'll shut up now....

     

    BIG (((((HUGS)))))

     

    I ditto this! 

    accordingtoabby.com" "From of suffering emerges the strongest souls. The most massive characters are seared with scars." Kahlil Gibran
  • {{{{Big hugs}}}}} I?m sorry you?re feeling so down. Medical bills are no fun, and paying them off especially. I hope that the remaining 18 weeks of school go by quickly. Does Kansas not have adequate health insurance for its teachers? I always thought that the health insurance was the one perk that teachers got---my cousin in SC got her IVF treatments paid for that way.
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  • I know that song well.  It's the name of my blog. 

    Sorry things aren't going your way.  Hang in there!

  • Big Hugs! I hope things work out better for you this year!
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  • ((hugs)) Im so sorry.  It sounds like 09 is not starting off to great.  Just remember New years is just a day.  You can start over anytime.  Hopefully things will start getting better and when that does .... that can be your New year!
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    {{{{Big hugs}}}}} I?m sorry you?re feeling so down. Medical bills are no fun, and paying them off especially. I hope that the remaining 18 weeks of school go by quickly. Does Kansas not have adequate health insurance for its teachers? I always thought that the health insurance was the one perk that teachers got---my cousin in SC got her IVF treatments paid for that way.

    I teach at a tiny private school, so they don't offer any benefits. 

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    April 2011 CP @ 5 weeks
  • Kristy, I am so sorry you are down today.  I am sending you tons of virtual hugs.
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  • Oh honey, I am so sorry this is all going on. I hope some money comes into your hands and you can clear some of these bills. And the staff at your school have made a resolution to be nicer in 2009.

    Thinking of you x?

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  • I am so sorry that you are having a rought day!  You offer so much support to everyone on here, you deserve a baby so much!  I'm sorry I wasn't around earlier, I hope that you are feeling better now!  

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  • ::::: huge hugs:::::

     I know how incredibely unsettling it can be to have outstanding medical bills. My DH had a bad car accident in 2007 and everything is still not worked out! Take it one day at a time. Also, call the hospital that you are paying. Mine allowed us to lower our payments as long as we paid on time and it was interest free. They really tried to work with us, and I hope your hospital does the same. Or, pay agressively now so you can cut back later when you are ready to TTC again.

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