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Should I call and apologize??

minerswife17minerswife17 member
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What I love about this board is I know you mamas will tell me if I overreacted or not. ;) 

MIL called and invited DH, DD and me out to lunch this weekend, with her H and DHs niece. Well, everything was great and smooth until about halfway through. DH excused himself from the table and MIL was sitting beside DD and was talking to her, playing, and giving her food, etc. Then she went to give DD Coke. I might have had a slight panic attack. I didn't go all crazy but I calmly and jokingly said " whoa, she doesn't need help in the energy department." She just looked at me and didn't really say anything. I told DH when we left and he said I was much more polite than he would've been. I get along great with MIL, but I don't want her to be offended, but geez, DD is only 17 months. I'd rather her not drink soda until she's 17!!! 

How would you have handled this?
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Re: Should I call and apologize??

  • Aussie45Aussie45 member
    I would've acted a lot worse than you. Your DD is 17mo old, she doesn't need a coke FFS. Your MIL can get over it. I wouldn't call and apologize or even bring it up again. You handled it at the time and it's good now.
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  • minerswife17minerswife17 member
    Thanks ladies. I'll just let it go and not bring it up, unless it happens again. DH told me that his father had told him that she would give it to him when he was a toddler, so I guess she was just going off of what she used to do. It always made DHs dad so mad. I can totally understand why. Haha 
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  • minerswife17minerswife17 member
    scatteredtrees said:
    Did I miss something? Did she cry or complain to your H? Why would you apologize?
    No, I just didn't want her to think I was still mad about the situation, or for her to think I had my panties in a wad. 
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  • Aussie45Aussie45 member
    minerswife17 said:


    scatteredtrees said:

    Did I miss something? Did she cry or complain to your H? Why would you apologize?

    No, I just didn't want her to think I was still mad about the situation, or for her to think I had my panties in a wad. 

    Unless you totally jumped down her throat which it doesn't sound like you did, then I think you're good. You told her not to give your child a coke. If her feelings are hurt by that, then she's in for a rough life ;)
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  • ababymaybeababymaybe member
    You handled it fine. Well, even-- it can be hard to be assertive with IL sometimes!

    I actually think she should have asked you first anyway, but maybe I am biased due to my ODS having so many allergies.
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  • orangegogglesorangegoggles member
    Team no apologize needed .
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  • bumpuser8448316bumpuser8448316 member
    I wouldn't apologize

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  • UnofficiallyLOUnofficiallyLO member
    Also team no apology. I like the jokey spin as well.
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  • ArnegardArnegard member
    edited September 2014
    Haha!  When DD1 was just turned 2, MIL Was coming to look at houses with us and handed DD her diet coke, "I shrieked, "What the hell do you think you're doing?!"  It was totally a knee jerk reaction, but it was years before she game them coke again.  LOL.

    PS and I never apologized because though I may have overreacted, seriously who give a 2 year old diet coke?
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