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Child getting kicked out of preschool

AnnaRedheadAnnaRedhead member
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I need y'all's advice on this...I've written about this before. My son goes #1 with no problem but can't seem to get #2 down and has an accident about 80% of the time. I've tried EVERYTHING to get him to g and nothing has worked.

He had an accident last week and then had another one today. The preschool director talked to me and he has until the 26th to get things under control or he's going to be kicked out.

Is this a reasonable request to y'all? Is this a common policy in preschools? Our family seems to think that it's pretty strict and unrealistic but I don't know what to think...

I am just so sad and frustrated that this is happening! I'm feeling so defeated by all of this!!
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  • ashiscuteashiscute member
    I agree with PP that you need to look into another school for your son.  There are some schools around here that require the child be completely potty trained at 3 and others that do not.  
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  • JENandJEHJENandJEH member
    Yes, that's how most preschools I've been around or heard of are.  Unfortunately, it stinks because some kids (especially boys) are just not ready to fully PT right at 3 but it has to do with licensing and how preschools are staffed.  If you can look into another school, that would be your best bet.  Trying to force the issue with your son and doing so urgently is likely going to turn it into a battle and make it more detrimental in the long run.  

    If they're giving you until the 26th, you could keep trying but do so in a calm, nonchalant manner.  Really celebrate the pee success and just remind him that poop goes in the potty, too.  Casually throw up a sticker chart to see if that entices him.  He may just not be ready or have the control to hold his poop.  I'm sorry this is stressing you out but it is a normal policy for many preschools.  
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  • vjmc21vjmc21 member
    How does licensing work in your state? I don't think it's unreasonable if they let you know before you started that being 100% trained was required per state regulations. Preschools without daycares are a different licensing category than daycare/preschools where I live, and have different regulations. My son goes to a preschool without daycare, and they were very clear that all students had to be 100% potty trained due to licensing regulations. Actually, all of the preschools that we looked at were clear about that. I'm guessing that your son's school is the same way. Like PPs have said, daycare/preschools might have different regulations to abide by, and might more willing to work with you. It's probably best to look into something else, rather than push potty training.
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  • AllTheTeaInChinaAllTheTeaInChina member
    I don't think its unreasonable.  My DD is only 2 but I've started looking online into preschools for next fall.  For the 3yr old class, they require the child to be potty trained. The class is 2.5 hours, 2 days per week, the teachers shouldn't be taking time to change diapers for 15 kids. 
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  • AllTheTeaInChinaAllTheTeaInChina member
    amy052006 said:
    I don't think its unreasonable.  My DD is only 2 but I've started looking online into preschools for next fall.  For the 3yr old class, they require the child to be potty trained. The class is 2.5 hours, 2 days per week, the teachers shouldn't be taking time to change diapers for 15 kids. 
    Lol. There are no scheduled diaper changes. I've co-oped in my kid's school in the 2s class, and I've seen how it operates with the threes. If a kid poops, yeah, they get a diaper change. Trust me it's actually probably less time consuming than the kids who are potty trained asking to go every five minutes in addition to the time already scheduled to take them.
    I get that but they are teachers not child care providers.  Its not really their job to change diapers etc.  If they have a stated policy requiring kids be potty trained, they have the right to remove the child from class they are not.

    Its too bad for OP's son but its not as if they are telling him he can't come back tomorrow.  They are giving him 3+ weeks.
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  • ttimmermanttimmerman member
    LalaMama81 said:
    Eh, plenty of higher quality programs have same policy, ours does. Only the 2s are allowed in diapers. I am so mixed right now on my feelings about normal potty training, I'm not sure if it's appropriate or not. Considering our school has no problem filling classes, there are plenty of 3 year olds that are potty trained. I have 2 kids that easily trained at 27 & 29 months, though.
    Agree. All the programs around here, including ones through a school and private ones, require the 3s to be fully potty trained. That is not abnormal at all and not some aspect of "lower quality" programs. 
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  • jesselayne8jesselayne8 member
    ttimmerman said:
    LalaMama81 said:
    Eh, plenty of higher quality programs have same policy, ours does. Only the 2s are allowed in diapers. I am so mixed right now on my feelings about normal potty training, I'm not sure if it's appropriate or not. Considering our school has no problem filling classes, there are plenty of 3 year olds that are potty trained. I have 2 kids that easily trained at 27 & 29 months, though.
    Agree. All the programs around here, including ones through a school and private ones, require the 3s to be fully potty trained. That is not abnormal at all and not some aspect of "lower quality" programs. 

    I agree too. Our Montessori school has this policy and it's not cheap. The minimum age is 2yrs 10 months and they must be fully potty trained.


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  • emberlee3emberlee3 member
    It's a legitimate policy and may be based on licensing for a particular type of school.

    If it doesn't work for your son, try to find a school with a more flexible policy. Do not pressure your child, but gradually help him develop a comfortable routine for pooping at home. That way it is less likely to happen at school.
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  • caseysue55caseysue55 member
    That really sucks.  My nephew is 4 1/2 and still has #2 accidents - like daily.  His daycare never kicked him out!

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  • RamaLamaDDRamaLamaDD member
    Our daycares / preschools here have a policy that you pay an extra $10 per day if your child isn't potty trained (b/c they have to have extra staff to help with potty / changing).

    I think it's a little extreme - we ended up going with a sitter (lady does "daycare" out of her house) b/c of those rules. LO is only 2.5 and I can't imagine forcing her to start potty training now just so that the day care is more comfortable / cheaper.
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