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Tell me a little about CIO...

lba0614lba0614 member
in December 2013 Moms
LO is such a bad sleeper...for naps and bedtime. It seems we have spoiled him by not doing some kind of sleep training yet...

He typically sleeps most if not all nights in his swing still, and has to be held to fall asleep. He also wont let us put him down once asleep usually with his naps.

its gotten sooo much worse though...i dont know what to do anymore. Any basic CIO tips for me? Havent thought to read up on any of this until now when im at my breaking point.

Right now LO definitely needs a nap so he is CIO in his crib but he stands so...what should happen? Will he eventually lay down? Im so confused...the screaming is starting to really get to me.

sorry this was long but thanks for any advice.
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  • 74dragonfly74dragonfly member
    Have you read any books on sleep training? I like 
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    IMO the first step is get a consiseant routine down, then identify what problem to fix first (id start with the swing). 




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  • SnoopylovesbelleSnoopylovesbelle member
    Yes he will eventually sit down and go to sleep.
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  • BoothBabyBoothBaby member
    I also recommend Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child.  If you're going to do CIO (without checks), then yes, you just leave him alone (in his crib) for up to an hour for naps, and unlimited time at night.  It's really really hard to hear them cry, but worth it in the end as they gain a valuable skill.  GL!
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  • KMKaiser07KMKaiser07 member
    We chose CIO without checks at almost 6 months and LO was STN on the fourth night. We are all so much happier now that we have a baby who sleeps from 6 pm to 6:30/45 am every single day. If CIO is the route you choose, consistency is extremely important. It is very easy to set back and progress. Also know that now that your LO is older and more set in his ways, it may take a little longer to get to your goal. It is hard listening to your baby cry, but in the end just remember that good sleep is crucial to their development and your sanity!

    If it's any encouragement, after going the CIO route we now have a baby who the instant is put in bed, rolls onto his side or tummy and goes straight to sleep. It's like he welcomes and looks forward to his bed now. He won't even fall asleep in my arms. Once he is done nursing he will either lay there in a daze or fight being held. Prior to that, LO needed to be nursed to a deep sleep before being transferred and eventually that quit working and we had to bed share so he could nurse all night and I had to go to bed when he did because me leaving would wake him up.
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  • frantastic12frantastic12 member
    edited September 2014
    Yes, he'll eventually go to sleep. 

    Consistency is super important.  LO had no problem going to bed, but the MOTN wakings were a big problem.  We tried CIO on and off but couldn't be consistent because LO kept getting ear infections (I didn't want him crying and making himself more congested than he already was). The week he got tubes in his ears, we did a week straight of CIO and he has been STTN since.

    Prior to CIO, there were nights where we spent hours trying to get him back to sleep. The week that we did CIO, his total "crying time" over 7 nights was less than 2 hours (one night it took about 30min before he went back to sleep--every other night was 15min or less).  He spent less time crying with a week of CIO than he sometimes did in one night of us trying to get him to bed. 

    ETA: He still wakes up occasionally, but cries for less than 30 seconds and is back to sleep. Even if we were to go in to check on him, he's done crying by the time we get to his door. 

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  • greenbeanqueengreenbeanqueen member
    edited September 2014
    The sleep lady's good night sleep tight has a great schedule planner and gives a gentle CIO method. I can't stomach CIO but it might work for you instead of no checks.

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  • lifesaverzlifesaverz member
    Loolaide said:

    I feel like it's unfair to just leave your kid in the crib to cry without following any sort of sleep training method. Most of them follow routines so your kid knows it's time to sleep by some clue other than just when you dump them in the crib. Basically any book/method would be better than not following anything at all.

    I agree with this. You need some kind of plan/system, & honestly with all the issues you have going on right now I don't think it's fair to jump straight to CIO in a crib when it sounds like he hasn't even really slept much in there before. I would work on one issue at a time, & slowly work towards your goal. Like maybe have him spend some "play time" in the crib for a few days first so that he can get used to it/comfortable with it. Then introduce a transition comfort object, like a lovey that he can try & connect with. THEN decide on your bedtime routine, & I'd start with still rocking to sleep then putting him in the crib. He will still cry, but I think a slow transition is better. Maybe even leave an article of your clothing that smells like you in there since he's used to sleeping on you.

    Also know that CIO doesn't work for every baby. It didn't work for mine. BUT she sleeps pretty great now regardless. I still rock/nurse her to sleep, & she cuddles with her lovey in bed & does just fine.
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  • lifesaverzlifesaverz member
    Also I've read on here that when sleep training it's good to start with the night time sleep first, then naps.
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