Clicky Poll - Abusive spouse?

Re: Clicky Poll - Abusive spouse?

• needanustart member

  September 2014

  The idea of actually being around a partner that is physically abusive to me is so foreign that when my older sister told me her boyfriend hit her (and ruptured her fucking ear drum) my first response was, "on purpose?" I couldn't even wrap my head around domestic violence happening to someone I actually know and not just a Lifetime movie. I am shocked and saddened by how naïve an assumption that was.

  

   

  

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• ilovemarfa member

  September 2014

  I threw a box of cereal at him right after I had our firstborn. I was sleep deprived and in excruciating pain from a 4th degree tear and he told me to suck it up when I was complaining. That's the extent of abuse in our relationship.

  

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• ASmallWonder member

  September 2014

  Zero physical abuse.  We both can dish it out but nothing verbally abusive.  We just both have a very high tolerance for being told to fuck off, so to speak lol  

  
  

  
  

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• LaBellaVida member

  September 2014 edited September 2014

  ::Poof::

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• cynthia2007 member

  September 2014

  No physical abuse and he knows that there is NO 2nd chance if he ever did. Physical abuse and cheating are absolute deal breakers in my book and we are both clear on that. He does have a temper and we can definitely get a little loud in a heated fight but it never lasts long and rarely happens now. this was a little early on in our relationship. 

  

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• RedCherry1109 member

  September 2014

  No physical abuse on either part since he grew up in an abusive house with his step dad. Sometimes there maybe little verbal abuse but it's from both of us.

  
  
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• lioness13 member

  September 2014

  A few weeks into my relationship with DH we were crazy about each other and we had a conversation about our "ugly sides." He confessed to me that he had punched his fist in a wall and kicked down a door when he was with his ex. He said she brought out the worst in him because she hit below the belt when they argued and got a kick out of pushing his buttons. It bothered me that he blamed her for his unacceptable behavior. Even though he didn't hit her his violent behavior was a big red flag. I wondered if he would do anything like that around me. Thankfully in the 14 years we've been together I've never seen him that angry at me or anyone. I'm glad that type of behavior is way in his past.

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• MorganWP member

  September 2014

  I've seen SO get really mad at something. Like PP's H, he throws/breaks etc things when he's really upset but I don't think he'd ever actually hurt a person.

  
  

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• megaroo64 member

  September 2014

  No abuse here - actually, my H is probably the calmest, slowest to frustrate person I have ever met in my life.  He even stays crazy calm during any argument we have ever had. 

  
  

  I was in a terrible abusive relationship in college.  It was a very dark time in my life and I will never put myself in a situation like that again.  But my H is the polar opposite of my ex, so I am not really worried.  

   

  Bennett Andrew- 6/4/13      Nora Elizabeth - 10/3/14

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