Does attitude matter?

MoFree · September 2014

Do you think there is an emotional component to a successful IVF cycle? I don't mean 'relax and you'll get pregnant, ' but if you think attitude is a factor.

I trigger tomorrow evening, ER is on Thursday but will have to wait at least another 6 weeks because I'm doing PGD on 5-day blasts (assuming any make it that far). I'm already think that this cycle is a bust. Will my negative attitude become self-fulfilling?

BabyKsMommy · September 2014

No, I really don't think it does. We only did IUIs but after 10 failed cycles in a row I was just going through the motions. After so much failure I just couldn't be that hopeful month after month.

I hope you are successful though even if it doesn't feel like you will be.

mdiblasi10 · September 2014

I don't think your attitude will change the outcome of your IVF cycle, no. But I do think it can help with your overall well-being. I also know that that's easier said than done, so no preaching from me. I also hope you are wrong about thinking this cycle is a bust. Good luck on Thursday!

Ruthie04 · September 2014

Truthfully, no, I don't think it makes a difference in the outcome. I was beyond convinced my last cycle would fail. I told DH I was done, selected an adoption agency, and requested an application packet. I was shocked when they said it worked and floored when they saw two heartbeats.

However, I do think a positive attitude can make a difference in how you handle the med side effects and stress of the appointments. Just seems like you'd be a bit more calm and happy. Not that I was ever positive- I had nine BFN phone calls, so I wasn't the happy go lucky, everything will work out, gotta stay positive type of patient. That's just not me and being more prepared for bad news is just a better way to cope (for me).

queenbone · September 2014

No, it is maddening,but the whole thing is so completely out of our control. Like an idiot I have hope every single cycle, whether I'm on meds/treatments or not. That positive attitude seldom yielded positive results over the duration of my 30s. Sometimes I think a little pessimism is a good thing, because it can protect you from disappointment. IF is such a mindfuck.

GL this week!

ccam · September 2014

No, I don't think your attitude will effect a cycle. I tried really hard to just remain sort of neutral, but I always went between super hopeful / excited and doomed for failure. I think how you're feeling is totally normal.

That being said, I believe being positive makes the whole process a little "easier" and is much better for your well-being.

Wishing you the best of luck this cycle!!

SKLH · September 2014

I don't think attitude matters ONE bit.

IVF#: I was 100% positive and confident. BFN!

FET#1: Again postive and confident. BFN!

FET#2: Feeling frustrated and over it. BFN!

FET #3: Feeling pretty hopeful and exicted (new batch of embryos). Chemical!

FET#4: COMPLETELY over it. Going through the emotions so I could look back without any regrets. BFP!

You just never know when a transfer will finally work!! but I say attitude makes ZERO difference!!

itsmevkb · September 2014

What is that saying? Hope for the best but prepare for the worst.

I've always had HOPE that my cycles would be successful but, at the same time, I've always been realistic in knowing the odds. I think that has helped me not be completely crushed if the cycle failed while still feeling like I was being positive during my cycles.

mcgeeva · September 2014

I really don't think it affects anything if your getting sleep and eating decent. Now if you were depressed, not eating and making your body suffer then I would say yes.

Dragonfly1226 · September 2014

When we were TTC #1, we had a tough journey. It got to the point where I was sure that I would never get pregnant and stay pregnant. During the IVF cycle when I conceived DS I was sure it wouldn't work. I had bright red spotting before my beta and POAS just to see a BFN so I could drown my sorrows in a beer. I was shocked to see a BFP. After that I literally sat in the waiting room before every u/s crying because I was sure that I had a m/c and the baby had stopped growing. To say that I had a bad attitude would be an understatement. But DS is here to show that my bad attitude didn't cause my cycle to fail. I have everything crossed for you!!!

Allison7 · September 2014

I don't think your attitude really matters no matter if you are using ART or not. I had so much hope the first time we used clomid and nothing. Same thing with the first IUI. By the time I got to the retesting cycle, we tried because we tried every cycle, but I was convinced it was kind of pointless...and the results came back DOR that cycle, so then I was just waiting for AF so I could start stimming for IVF1. That unmedicated TI cycle which those horrible numbers was the cycle that worked, despite my negativity.

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