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Nerves about labor and delivery.

alli65alli65 member
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FTM chime in STM any tips? I'm not afraid of the discomfort I'm well aware that comes with labor. I think it is the unknown that is really scaring me and the what ifs. I trust my dr but I find it frightening to completely trust a team of people for my son's safety and mine as well. I know they do this everyday, but I do not. What if he gets stuck? What if he goes into distress? Any tips how to calm the nerves would be greatly appreciated!
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  • alli65alli65 member
    @mommymeg143 you are right about attitude 100%. Some days I am good other days I can feel the overwhelming feeling creeping up. I have arranged for a baby basics class and a breastfeeding class. Everything to do with AFTER baby boy arrives. I am thinking I will benefit from a class regarding delivery. I like knowing what plans b, c, and d are beforehand.
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  • mussalynnmussalynn member
    Inform yourself, inform yourself, inform yourself.  Read books, websites, take childbirth classes, do anything and everything to arm yourself with knowledge.  The more you know about something, the less scary it is, and then if something does come up you have a better idea of how you want to deal with it and how to advocate for yourself and your decisions.
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  • lil_shockerlil_shocker member
    Yes, classes and information help to calm nerves. Mostly what helped me was that whatever is going to happen is going to happen and there sin' a lot you can control. Childbirth has a mind of its own, and there are so many things at play, that I just worried about what I could control- and that was getting through the present contraction. And then the next. And then the next. And eventually, how the heck I was supposed to push this thing out.
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  • venussapphirevenussapphire member
    I'm trying to not think about it. It's going to happen and I'm just going with it.
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  • lovingaddilovingaddi member
    100% agree with @KUinCBUS‌
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  • scarlet3egoniasscarlet3egonias member
    I try to remind myself that women have been doing this for THOUSANDS of years. Right now, there is someone somewhere giving birth on a dirt floor with no medical assistance at all. Scientifically speaking, its our bodies most important job to get this done. Our body knows what to do and how to do it from thousands of years of practice. We can do it!!

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  • soulcupcakesoulcupcake member
    moroccojade said:

    I agree with a class.  The crunchier the better.  (Even if you aren't crunchy.)  Learning to trust your body is perhaps even more important than trusting the doctors and nurses.  


    Also consider the fear/tension/pain cycle.  The more scared you are?  The more you tense up.  The more you tense up?   The more it will hurt.  Learn to relax and breathe through pain NOW as pregnancy aches come and go.  Practice really can help.   <3
    This. If you study Hypnobabiea you'll learn that fear and stress counteract labor. It's our natural flight or fight response. It's triggered during stressful situations. If you're in an environment you're not comfortable with it can increase stress, and stress hormones hinder labor progression.

    In normal, physiological labor, "what ifs" are very rare. True obstetric emergencies are pretty rare. There are, however, complications that arise due to the mismanagement of labor. Fetal distress and "failure to progress" along with arrest of descent are uncommon in normal/undisturbed labors. They occur more often in augmented and induced labors. So, as logic states, to avoid preventable complications you should avoid unnecessary interventions.

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  • mommymeg143mommymeg143 member
    Great Expectations: Pregnancy and Childbirth by Marcie and Sandy Jones is a GREAT pregnancy book for you to read.

    Also, The Happiest Baby on the Block by Harvey Karp is a great book for when baby comes.

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    alli65 said:
    FTM chime in STM any tips? I'm not afraid of the discomfort I'm well aware that comes with labor. I think it is the unknown that is really scaring me and the what ifs. I trust my dr but I find it frightening to completely trust a team of people for my son's safety and mine as well. I know they do this everyday, but I do not. What if he gets stuck? What if he goes into distress? Any tips how to calm the nerves would be greatly appreciated!
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  • Havana2014Havana2014 member
    No, you've never done this before, but your body knows just what to do. It's grown your beautiful little baby from a couple of cells! It knows how to finish the job :-) And so does your baby.

    And I totally agree about being informed. It's taken a lot of the fear out of all this for me.

    Good luck!
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  • ColtiersMomColtiersMom member
    Just know the dr and nurses do this every day and they know how to assess you to make sure everything should go smoothly.
    Also, with my son I was never worried until they said ok, Mrs. D your ready to push! My first thought was "Oh, s**t What was I thinking wanting to have a baby. Now I have to push this thing out of my vag!"
    Luckily, nothing went wrong and 4 contractions later he was out :-)
    I also agree with the other women, inform yourself as much as possible.
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  • alli65alli65 member
    Thank you so much for all of your replies I really appreciate it! I have been reading all of them and they certainly have helped!
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