I think I'm going to have a mental breakdown

leoandethansmom · September 2014

haha @twolittledogs I thought you were just having an off day. It happens to the best of us.

rshamos · September 2014

I am so sorry! There is nothing that I can add, but I am so sorry your mom is so horrible.

ebilbao · September 2014

This is so shitty. I'm so sorry she did that to you. I hope you and Junkie can meet up-it sounds like she has some good stuff and is super generous.

mlee116 · September 2014

I am so sorry

. I'm mad as hell for you. Those things were definitely not hers to sell or give away. Based on what you've said, she probably sold them then felt bad so she said it was given to a girl at church to sound better. Either way, it was really messed up for her to do that and put you in this position. And to not even mention it at all. I really hope you can find some new stuff between borrowing/hand-me-downs/consignment/gifts/etc.

If it were me, I'd be putting some distance between us at least for awhile.

ColeyCannoli · September 2014

Eora3 said:
Wow! This is exactly the kind of thing my mom would pull (and has). Sadly, I think you need to remember this for the future. I would limit contact for a while so she understands that she has really messed up and her b.s. excuses are not cutting it.

Not to add fuel to the fire, but
you probably also need to consider what kind of relationship you want your child to have with her. She sounds unstable and deceitful. Do you really want your child experiencing this same feeling of disappointment and helplessness that you are feeling now?

Completely agreed with this. My mom has pulled similar shit with mine and my sibling's things over the years. It took me a long time To realize she won't be the one who changes.
I really feel for you. I know how much it hurts and how frustrating this is on so many levels. I hope you are able to replace things for cheap. I'd definitely explain things to the shower guests however you feel comfortable doing it. I bet your family wouldn't be that surprised by the truth >_< ((creepy internet hugs))

ColeyCannoli · September 2014

ashtonkitty1 said:

twolittledogs said:

I would not even try to get it back. That girl will think tou are crazy, even though your mom had no right to give it away. I see cheap lots of lot he's all the time on the local FB swap and sell groups. I'm so sorry your mom sucks.

Yeah I also would not try to get it back. Even though it's yours, it would be super awkward.

Awesome that you and @junkiebrewster might be able to meet up.

Maybe I'm wrong, but I fully doubt that there is some sad little church girl to even find. That sounds like another lie. Who knows what really happened to it.

Disneygeek77 · September 2014

Dude, I highly, highly doubt she gave it away. She sold it.

You could try googling her number and see what comes up, or try looking at Craigslist around April and see if there are any familiar looking baby items for sale.

Of course all of it won't matter in the long run. It's all gone.

I'm kinda a vindictive you know what, but I wouldn't rule out taking her to small claims court although it might be difficult to prove that she didn't have your permission to sell your stuff and it would probably cause you more stress.

Please know I am so very sorry this happened to you and I would probably have a mental breakdown too.

mammatoomc · September 2014

Wow this just makes me feel so bad. Nothing like finding out at the last minute too and putting all the pressure on! Sorry to hear about this! I swear by yard sale pages these days. If you have a FB search local yard sale groups and ask to be added. Im on several in my area and more baby gear is added daily. Some stuff is practically brand new and people are looking to get rid of it for next to nothing. So things like bouncy seats, high chairs, swings etc can cost you next to nothing. Hopefully this helps. So sorry to hear about this

Drgn30 · September 2014

just ((hugs))

freakyfast · September 2014

Wow! I am pissed for you.... All I can say at this point is move forward, don't go looking for the stuff, who knows what it has been through the last 4-5 months. (((Hugs)))

@JunkieBrewster =D>

brittandjp · September 2014

Holy shit! I'm so sorry she did that to you. I'd definitely be livid!! I'd also demand that she help replace at least some of what she basically gave (or sold??) away.

I agree with the fb groups. I see people posting ISO (in search of posts) all the time and tons of people comment with the requested items. You can also check out your local second hand stores.

Again, I'm really, really sorry.

amedbery · September 2014

Jesus. That is some fucking bullshit. I am so sorry. You know, ever since I let people know I was pregnant, tons of people have offered me hand-me-downs. People may assume that since you aren't a FTM that you have it covered - I'd put the word out that you need stuff to friends with older kids who won't have more. Other than clothes, what do you need? I can keep an eye out from the Carolina side of the Georgia line! I know someone who is about to have a yard sale with their baby stuff so if you give me a list I'll see what they have. I know they have a crib. And I want to kick the shit out of your mom - no offense...

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