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Personal questions?

kabarnaukabarnau member
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We went on our hospital tour today and the guide had mentioned that the doctors will ask you very personal questions that you may or may not want your significant other to be in the room for....anyone know what those might be?
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  • kabarnaukabarnau member
    I have nothing to hide either...just wondering what the questions might be
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  • lookame3639lookame3639 member
    I have nothing to hide so i answered all questions in the room however they do ask if you have ever been abused and/or forced to have sex.
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  • Havana2014Havana2014 member
    Previous pregnancies. Any I abuse in the relationship. Previous drug use. That's all I can think of from my first appt.
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    sftballgal12 said:

    We went on our hospital tour today and the guide had mentioned that the doctors will ask you very personal questions that you may or may not want your significant other to be in the room for....anyone know what those might be?

    Umm, no.
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  • britabbritab member
    Weird! DH was there the whole time. Nothing that would have made him more uncomfortable than the birth process.
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  • EveryusernameistakenEveryusernameistaken member
    Wow, I never encountered any of this. Interesting how things vary from region to region. I can totally see how these might be really helpful policies for some women.


     

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    shinyredsmartazz said:


    Everyusernameistaken said:

    Wow, I never encountered any of this. Interesting how things vary from region to region. I can totally see how these might be really helpful policies for some women.

    This. I didn't get any of these types of questions when I gave birth. 

    This is me too.
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  • aodom52309aodom52309 member
    Previous pregnancies including miscarriages and abortions.

    Drug use

    History/current STDs

    Abuse

    This probably sounds small, but you would be surprised how many people have secrets about these questions.
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  • Pips09Pips09 member
    When my H left the room, the nurse asked me if I felt safe with him and if I ever felt like he would hurt me. She said it was standard protocol and they have to ask everyone. 
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  • rae_dylanzmomrae_dylanzmom member
    Interesting to see the different responses.

    History with pregnancies is all they asked me, but my pregnancies were all with DH, so it never occurred to me that they might be 'personal' questions. Nothing about abuse, drugs, or feeling safe.
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  • kellyfo14kellyfo14 member
    ready-or-not said:

    The only question they asked that I didn't want to answer in front of DH (or anyone) was my pre pregnancy weight vs last check up weight lol




    Absolutely this!!!
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  • mrsH1112mrsH1112 member
    kellyfo14 said:
    The only question they asked that I didn't want to answer in front of DH (or anyone) was my pre pregnancy weight vs last check up weight lol
    Absolutely this!!!
      This is me too!  We were admitted to L&D over night for monitoring...and during they did my pre registration and asked all the questions they were going to ask.  I specifically have asked my DH to look away when they are taking my weight at the appointments hes gone with me.

    She asked how tall I am, and then I KNEW they were going to ask my weight.  I felt a surge of panic.  I didnt want DH to know what the # was not that he would care, but it was a source of pride for me, he never knew how much I weighed.  I finally just said how much...then she asked about my pre pregnancy weight, I couldnt bear to say another number so I just said "ummm it was 15 more than now"  (ive lost weight because of GD).

    It was funny at the time.
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  • Justabean3Justabean3 member
    edited September 2014
    I think it is more that questions are personal. I mean there are woman who don't want to poop or even pass gas in front of their husband and have been married 8 years. The questions they ask even LmP for some are hard to answer. They have nothing to hide but questions like this embarrass them.

    To me I don't care what DH knows and if he is uncomfortable he can leave but I do remember they asked a bazillion questions, family history, my history, parter history (vague), stds... All that
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  • jessandmike2013jessandmike2013 member
    Asking about STI is standard.
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  • Weezy56Weezy56 member
    They asked me everything in front of DH, but I'm surprised they did. 

    For example, my doctor had in my chart that this was my second pregnancy. It was my first/only, but they had just switched systems and some of their information was incorrect. They asked me to clarify if this was my first or second pregnancy in front of DH. Although it wasn't a problem for me, it could definitely be a problem for someone else for obvious reasons. 


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  • Kitty HollandKitty Holland member
    It's not about "hiding" anything, but it can be quite uncomfortable to talk about abuse, rape, STDs, abortion, miscarriages, etc. with your partner in the room as you are about to give birth.
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