venting about MIL

Re: venting about MIL

• tamarar5 member

  September 2014

  I don't have issues with my mil right now... but my husband is being a stupidhead, if that helps! My mil lives 500 miles away and came down to visit the week over labor day, and she stayed with my BIL &SIL in Chicago- but planned to come up and see the new baby 8 days after being discharged from the hospital with a c/s. And my 18 month old came down with chicken pox.
  
  DH told her not to come up.

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• cdseno member

  September 2014

  My MIL isn't crazy like that, but she is a crotchety old lady and doesn't think before she talks usually and it always offends me and H never notices the stupid s**t she says so I just look crazy for being upset. With DS1 she would joke about calling CPS on me for stuff like taking him to Arizona to see my sister and cutting his hair. I never found it funny because why would anyone joke about calling CPS on someone, especially a FTM who is already crazy from PP hormones?! Then she called DS2 a brat when he was having a fussy day and didn't want to be held by anyone but me and she was offended that she couldn't get him to stop crying.
  
  But I guess I should go easier on her because it appears she quit smoking so I don't have to have that fight anymore.

  
  

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• alphaxi614 member

  September 2014 edited September 2014

  My MIL is crazy but not as crazy as yours!
  
  My MIL seems to think we had this baby for her and ignores my husband and me when she comes to visit. Except to ask if we can go out that week so she can babysit... She was over last week when LO was constipated and had spit up twice and then got offended when I wouldn't let her feed/change him. When we put him down for a nap she sat next to him and talked to him. When H asked her to let him go to sleep she said he wasn't sleeping his eyes were open, well duh your talking to him! When I pointed this out she just walked out and left. Granted I wasn't very nice, but she wasn't responding to nice. This is my daycare option on the rare times H and I overlap working...
  
  On she also thinks my FB page is my son's apparently and posts things on it she shouldn't, so I've locked it down so no one can see anything at all now...

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• jenniferurs member

  September 2014

  Bitches be crazy.

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• midwestFNP member

  September 2014

  I'll bite. My in-laws live 12 hours away (thank God) and this is their first grand baby. They visited when LO was 3 weeks old and my primal motherly instincts kicked in and everything MIL did drove me absolutely insane. She lectured me about her diaper rash, checked my daughter for a fever and everything in between. She told me i shouldn't take the baby out of the house bc it's too hot. WTF. Yes it's hot but my vehicle is garaged and has air conditioning and I obviously don't leave her in the car.I about lost it on her. Every time DH or I picked her up or did anything with her for that matter she would jump and act like we were going to drop her or something and tell us to "be careful!!" in this frantic voice. No, MIL I'm not going to drop my child, I'm just picking her up as I've done 100x a day since she was born. MIL is crazy and unstable I could go on for days. She cried (MIL not baby) like 6 times while they were here about God knows what-how cute and precious the baby is, how she's not going to see the baby for a while etc etc. It's all a big guilt trip. They stay in our house when they come in town and having to be cooped up with them about did me in. I told DH that his mom is crazy and has boundary issues and I think she's depressed. He is an only child so it's hard for him to say anything to her. Well now DH wants to trek up there while I'm on maternity leave! FML. I know we need to go but I can't do it. Mentally I'm afraid I will freak out on his baby-hogging basket case of a mother. I asked to stay in a hotel if we go up there and he said no-it would hurt MILs feelings. Now what?! Sorry had to vent.

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• midwestFNP member

  September 2014

  MrsDuarte8185 said:

  I consider it a miracle and it reinforces my faith in a higher power that H turned out to be such an awesome person with a mom like her.

  ^^this^^ my H is the greatest, most well-rounded person you'll ever meet and I can't believe he really came from his parents!!
  

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• sobored76 member

  September 2014

  Everytime I try to put my LO down for a nap she picks him bk up and wakes him and then when LO starts crying bc he's tired she asks me why is he always crying!? Plus she will remind me 100x that when my H was little he nvr cried. Or if I am holding my LO she will come over and start rubbing his back or patting him and when I ask if she wnts to hold him she says no bit proceeds to just keep rubbing his back so I hv to sit there all awkwardly so that she can continue to do so. She's raised my H on formula but I am BF my lil one and she doesn't understand that he needs to eat every 2-3 hrs and constantly makes comment like he's hungry again is there something wrong w him. On the other hand when LO is crying excessively all she wnts me to do is feed him. Plus she will say things to make both me and H feel super guilty. Thank god she leaves far away.. When she first came to meet LO. The first thing she said is when will u hv a 2nd... And honestly I don't rememebr her saying anything nice about LO she did call out that all he does is clenk his fists and that there could be something wrong w his hand. She's staying w me another week and H will be at work , staying to help me out ... No thanks I am not looking forward to this week at all!!!! I don't know why she won't let LO. Sleep and then I Am up all nite w my LO trying to calm him down to sleep bc he's overly tired!

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