And so ends my time here on the bump...

spudshirley · September 2014

I just joined not too long ago, and already I'm deciding to leave. I had asked a fairly simple question (what people eat while pregnant) and I pretty much got told to "calm down… eat normally… why can't people understand the concept of leftovers…. why don't people think there are more than just sandwiches… just eat like you normally do" as if I'm suppose to be born with this knowledge. Maybe I'm the only one who has ever heard of women being told they shouldn't eat particular things. Not to mention I was called "overly sensitive" and they "don't know how people who are sensitive can survive in this world" Really nice, right?

I did not join this site, as a brand new expecting mother, and expect people to be snarky towards women who are first-time mothers to be. I figured I'd post this here because you ladies have the same birth month as I do, so I'm hoping there will be no judgement passed. So thanks for the little bits of info I did learn from some of you. That part of the experience was great. But as for the rest, I don't deal with nonsense in my every day life, so I don't want to deal with it here. I want to enjoy my pregnancy and not be bashed for asking a question.

Pink724 · September 2014

So, the thread that I see you got "hammered" on was posted in 1st Tri. If you're not familiar with The Bump, that board is a place where questions like yours do get treated in that way. Generally, the BMBs (like here, May '15) tend to be more of a safe place because we get to know one another and genuinely care about our pregnancies. I suggest you stick around here instead of venturing over to the Tri boards.

spudshirley · September 2014

I've already contacted The Bump and asked them to delete my account. I have never been most disgusted with people in my life. Apparently we are all suppose to be born with this ability to know exactly what to do when we are pregnant. I guess I didn't get the memo! Most of the women who responded on that board aren't even currently pregnant. It seems like the typical "I had a baby so now I know everything and so should you" situation. I'm sure I'll get slammed for that comment now, but it is what it is. I thought 1st Tri was a safe place for that post because well, I'm in my first trimester and I assumed other people within that board would be too.

Pink724 · September 2014

Ok, so then I guess I don't see much point to this post if you've already decided you're going to leave. To scold us, who had nothing to do with that particular post?

kayteebayb · September 2014

You've never been more disgusted? I'm kind of confused. I read the responses to your first tri thread. You asked a question, people answered it, you got defensive. No one even got snarky with you until you started getting upset.

I'm sorry you feel that way, but if you get upset that easily, it's probably best not to stick around on the bump. Most people here are very honest and won't sugar coat things for you. Many of us appreciate that, but it's not for everyone. GL with your pregnancy!

Sunshine4020 · September 2014

Yeah, it's an interesting dynamic on the Bump. The May mommies and board are very supportive and I have enjoyed it here very much! But some of the women on other boards do indeed need to get actual lives and not take so much pleasure in being internet bitches lol. Sorry you had a bad experience with them. Hope your pregnancy goes well!

Sunshine4020 · September 2014

@ramy3695 I am active in another board and have the opinion that May 2015 is by far more supportive and enjoyable. No bashing, just stating facts.

marijaa333 · September 2014

Internet rule number one: take what you like and ignore the rest. :-) Guided by this rule, i also avoid the first trimester board.

MiraK03 · September 2014

OP you did ask a simple question on 1st tri but you got very defensive and upset very fast. There wasn't really anything for you get upset over. You asked a question on the internet and people answered you.

Also, if you have a problem with 1st tri and are having your account deleted why did you decide to come here to tell us?

katie0919 · September 2014

Okay I really don't mean for this to come across snarky, but if she got her panties in that big of a wad over that post on the first tri, where yes - women tend to be very blunt and unforgiving to defensive reactions - she'd never last on here anyway.

Contacting the bump to delete her account?! Geez, dramatic much??

MiraK03 · September 2014

@katie0919‌ I agree 100%

gsancho · September 2014

I was thinking the same as @katie0919 .

I am sorry you had a bad experience, but this site tends to lend itself to more blunt, sarcastic, snarky comments. Some boards have a heavier dose of it than others. There are some people who are a better fit on Babycenter.

sabriel1 · September 2014

Bye

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OnceInLoveWithAmy · September 2014

So wait, you got upset about a post on a different board, so you decided to GBCB here?

Cool.

#ByeFelicia

LO95 · September 2014

This is a weird post. I don't get it.

Sunshine4020 · September 2014

Not bashing "another board". Telling it like it is about some posters. And yes, only 19 posts because I don't need to tell every other poster when I feel they are doing or saying something wrong like all the "internet bitches" I'm referring to. I actively read through many posts. Anyway- my original comment was to offer some support to OP, but I have to say, I did go read the original convo on 1st Trimester and it was really weird. Not sure that anyone was bashing?? :-/

jwm29 · September 2014

Odd post...a little melodramatic for my liking!
Good luck with your pregnancy!

allrightmeow · September 2014

Sunshine4020 said:

Not bashing "another board". Telling it like it is about some posters. And yes, only 19 posts because I don't need to tell every other poster when I feel they are doing or saying something wrong like all the "internet bitches" I'm referring to. I actively read through many posts. Anyway- my original comment was to offer some support to OP, but I have to say, I did go read the original convo on 1st Trimester and it was really weird. Not sure that anyone was bashing?? :-/

This is exactly why it's advised that the original post should be read before we WK for people. OP overreacted times 1000.

kayteebayb · September 2014

Nicoleashlee26 said:

Pee sticks are barely dry and there's already a GBCB lol good luck OP.

This is our 2nd GBCB! haha We're not even all here yet!

Nita2603 · September 2014

Bye!

Word of advice: you better get a thick skin really fast, because in my experience nothing, and I mean NOTHING, gets you judged as harshly, fast and often as being a mom. Everyone has an opinion and most of them will get on your nerves. Playgrounds are vicious, man.

Anyways. Bye.

OnceInLoveWithAmy · September 2014

I just read the original post on 1st Tri. Holy over reaction, Batman.

Edit, although I think GM could have cooled it on the rudeness. I don't blame first time moms for reading into the hype. They don't know any better.

rivieramaya · September 2014

mmmk bye.

Sunshine4020 · September 2014

Agree. New favorite saying = white knight :-) I think I was born with a little WK in my blood. :P

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