- Pregnancy
- Baby & Toddler
- Parents
- Getting Pregnant
- Baby Names
- Product Reviews
-
Registry
- Community
-
More
Want a personalized experience?
Download the free app
December 2014 Moms
JulieSC81
member
He is home. Rehab update.
JulieSC81
member
I went to the family matrix program last weekend (two day counseling program for families @ 8 hours a day). I learned some good stuff but mostly it helped me process all of this and bring my anger level down. It taught me to separate the addiction and the person so that I can be angry at and hate the addiction but find some love and compassion for the person. I learned that many of his choices (such as lying and talking to that girl) were a result of his drug addiction. SO came home on Thursday after a 30 day rehab stay. He went directly from the rehab facility to the outpatient facility to sign up for IOP (Intensive Outpatient Therapy). He will attend 3 days a week for 3 hour sessions each day. It will last 16 weeks i think and he will get random drug tests. On top of that, he is attending meetings. His goal is 90 meetings in 90 days. He went to his first meeting on his first day home. He will need to continue meetings for life. Once IOP is done, he will continue with individual counseling (and couples counseling) once a week. He quit cigarettes willingly in rehab and is willingly attending the other services. DS is very happy to have his dad home. I told SO that i will agree to work on this ONE DAY AT A TIME FOR EACH DAY THAT HE IS HONEST AND SOBER (and not one day more...although hoping and praying that he does not relapse). I will stick by him through urges and cravings but if he choses to act on those urges and relapses...i stand by my decision to leave and request full custody with a restraining order. So far, he is doing good. He has a good eating/sleeping pattern and is helping a lot around the house. We all attended church together today. Im not doing cartwheels or anything yet and i know that he has a long long road of recovery ahead of him. But under the "one day at a time" mind set, he is doing well. The big stressor is that, as of now, he does not have his job back. But we are tackling one problem at a time. Thank you ladies for all your support during this stressful time. 
This discussion has been closed.
Re: He is home. Rehab update.
D14 November Siggy Challenge: The feels of 3rd trimester...
Married: 5/21/05 **~** Emery Aylin 6/30/12
BFP#1-11/5/10- Surgery for ectopic pregnancy 11/15/10 BFP#2-11/1/11 Due 7/8/12 Born 6/30/12
Oops we did it again... BFP 03/23/14 Due 12/6/14 Nora Born 11/23/14
, 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Don't let him skip his meetings and IOP. There may come a point where he might feel he can skip one, or two and then three. No! He needs to keep going. I say this from an addict's perspective.
I wish you the best.
BFP#1: 2/2/13 ~ exact m/c date unknown but around 3/20 at 10 weeks ~ diagnosed with PMP ~ D&C on 4/5 ~ TTA for at least 1 year due to PMP ~ cleared to TTC 1/14
BFP#2: 2/7/14 ~ m/c 2/20/14 ~ possibly due to chemical pregnancy ~ TG no D&C is needed
Surprise BFP#3: 4/4/14 ~ super duper extra happy (and nervous) about this one - EDD 12/9/14!!!
John Joseph was born on 12/12/14 at 7 lbs. 11 oz. He is the most beautiful rainbow baby we could have wished for!
BFP #1 5/12/12; EDD 1/20/13; Eliana Grace born 1/25/13
BFP #2 12/11/13; EDD 8/23/14; M/C 6 weeks
BFP #3 4/3/14; EDD 12/13/14