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October 2014 Moms
halleyann821
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Where do i start?
halleyann821
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I am going to have my 2nd child at a different hospital than my first (it was truly awful) and having a new Dr. I'm not sure where to start asking questions. A lil background, I had an emergency C-section with my first and was also given drugs to stop my panic attacks bc they were preventing dilation. I'm planning on a VBAC but they haven't even asked about that yet...not sure what the deal is with an epi and VBAC and not sure what procedures differ between hospitals and so far the DR has been on maternity leave so Im 33 weeks and have yet to meet a Dr. Not feeling very good about this but too late to make changes now and would feel much better with info but everyone is cold and trying to get me out the door as quickly as possible. Any suggestions?
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MuffinMom14 member
You asked where to start. It doesn't matter if we had your whole story, our answers are the same. Your doctor. If you have no problem taking yoruself to another hospital, you need to research hospitals in your area that allow VBACs and start there. Like. NOW. Why do it THAT day? Find this information out right now and plan for it. And demand that you talk to a doctor. Any doctor. The office staff should know if your doctor even does VBACs.
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Re: Where do i start?
It took me 2 months to find a provider that could take me and I literally don't have another option geographically or financially. As for not letting me attempt a VBAC they CAN'T make me have a C-section and I have no problem telling me that so they can kiss my butt lol
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
This! If the Dr does not do vbacs or it is against hospital policy you will have to do a c section. If you refuse they may claim you are endangering the baby.
I fully understand the Dr./hospital can refuse but then they can transfer me and I really wouldn't care. However after my last child and being railroaded by the Dr.s and Nurses over EVERY little thing I REFUSE to be treated like a med chart with no brain, if they had listened to me my baby would not have been born dead the first time (he's fine now :-) ) and they refused to believe I was even in active labor. I have NO trust left for docs or hospitals and if a midwife had been an option I would have jumped at the opportunity.
So you had a c/s with your first and are pregnant with your second. You're 33 weeks, but have not met your doctor. Who have you been seeing for your prenatal appointments, a nurse practitioner with the practice or another MD?
You would like a VBAC, which is awesome, but have you discussed with a doctor whether or not you're an appropriate candidate for VBAC? Have you checked your hospital's policy regarding VBACs? (I know PPs asked too, but I'm still confused).
Have you considered hiring a doula who can be your advocate in the delivery room or even the OR if you NEED a c/s? You might want to do some research on your birth preferences both for vaginal and cesarean delivery, and have a birth plan to discuss with your doctor. Even when c/s is medically necessary, you can make your preferences known and have the best possible birth experience. Things like immediate skin-to-skin and even initiating breastfeeding very soon after birth are totally possible: so talk to your doctor!
I would be terrified to be 33 weeks pregnant after a cesarean without having discussed any of this with my doctor, or even having met him! I really do wish you well and hope that you have a positive birthing experience.
I appreciate the comments but I left this alone for a reason. In response to a few things however
1. There of course are other Dr.s in my area but not knowing I was pregnant til 5 1/2 months and their patient load none were available to take a new patient.
2. I have no problem, as I previously stated but maybe not so clearly, transferring MYSELF to a dif hospital
3. My dr. went on maternity leave the day before I was supposed to meet her and all the other DR.s were full up
4. It's kind of hard to discuss birth options when there isn't a Dr. There to discuss it with
5. I discussed VBAC with my previous OB and he considered me to be a perfect candidate the C-section had nothing to do with me and everything to do with the baby and its been 3 years I don't see how that would have changed.
6. when they removed my son from my stomach he was DEAD as in no breathing or even heartbeat. They didn't believe me when I said something was wrong bc I was a 1st time mom and they thought they knew my body better than I did, they were wrong. My son was in distress for 9 HOURS and the Dr. on call didn't feel like doing a damn thing about it.
So thanks to everyone with helpful comments but I retract my question, I'll figure it out on my own.
And I certainly don't know why you are upset with the responses you got!!!
I knew my question wasn't clear and said so very early in the discussion. I would have deleted it til I figured out exactly what to ask but im on my phone and cant figure out how to work the site properly on it, I don't have all the info necessary on here and I realize that so when I get comments about how im making excuses when the whole story clearly isn't on here (and trust me I realize the lack of info is my fault) it tends to piss me off that's why I left this alone in the first place, I had no intention of being rude and if it came across that way I apologize but Im really done with this.