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Postpartum Before Birth?? Stressed Out!

dreab737dreab737 member
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Emotional rant.
I am 33 weeks and this pregnancy hasn't been the easiest. Constant sickness and pain. I'm still working and I planned on working until 37 weeks but instead I cut back to 35 which is literally 2 weeks away but I'm at my breaking point. I work 8-12 hours a day 6 days a week among anywhere from 90-110 inmates in a direct supervision jail.....Yea I know..... my husband works full time as well but I don't get paid maternity leave so money will be short when I take my sort 4-6 week leave. I am beyond stressed to the point that when I come home I don't want to even talk to him bc I don't think he understands how I feel even though I've told him time and time again. All he worries about is me staying as long as I can bc we need the money and I understand that but I know I'm pushing myself too hard and that he doesn't get. Then he wants to baby me and tell me I shouldn't do certain things bc I'm pregnant but hello I'm 9 months pregnant and work one of the most dangerous jobs there is out there. Marriage is a partnership and I feel decisions have to made together but I also feel that if I don't make this decision for myself that it will be bad for both the baby and myself. Either way I go it's added stress that I don't feel like facing. How do I dig myself out of this hole.
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  • sarahgann05sarahgann05 member
    I don't know how to dig your self out but I understand where you are coming from. I don't work at a jail but I work with Addicts and Alcoholics as a Residential Counselor at a Rehab. It's super stressful and NONE of my coworkers help me even though I'm almost 37 weeks. I'm still expected to do everything in my job (including driving non air conditioned vehicles all day, and standing outside in business casual attire for hours) as if I wasn't getting ready to push a baby out any time. It is so super stressful and then coming home and having to be a wife and take care of things. 
    I guess i'm just saying know that you are not alone and sometimes you need to just have a good cry (or scream session) and let it all out. I have had several of those and feel much better afterwards. AND really how many times in our lives can we just cry and scream and be able to blame it on crazy hormones?! :) Keep your chin up you're almost there!
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  • JubilantSquirrelJubilantSquirrel member
    Can you talk to your doctor about getting a medical note to be moved to a light duty position? My FIL is a CO and while he's never been pregnant he did have surgery on his back earlier this year and when he returned he was given light duty work for the first few weeks. Does your work not offer STD? I didn't have paid maternity leave but I did get 6 weeks STD at 50% pay.

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  • dreab737dreab737 member
    sarahgann05 said:

    I don't know how to dig your self out but I understand where you are coming from. I don't work at a jail but I work with Addicts and Alcoholics as a Residential Counselor at a Rehab. It's super stressful and NONE of my coworkers help me even though I'm almost 37 weeks. I'm still expected to do everything in my job (including driving non air conditioned vehicles all day, and standing outside in business casual attire for hours) as if I wasn't getting ready to push a baby out any time. It is so super stressful and then coming home and having to be a wife and take care of things. 

    I guess i'm just saying know that you are not alone and sometimes you need to just have a good cry (or scream session) and let it all out. I have had several of those and feel much better afterwards. AND really how many times in our lives can we just cry and scream and be able to blame it on crazy hormones?! :) Keep your chin up you're almost there!

    I'm sorry to see that you're going through something similar but thankful for your kind words.
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  • dreab737dreab737 member
    dreab737 said:

    sarahgann05 said:

    I don't know how to dig your self out but I understand where you are coming from. I don't work at a jail but I work with Addicts and Alcoholics as a Residential Counselor at a Rehab. It's super stressful and NONE of my coworkers help me even though I'm almost 37 weeks. I'm still expected to do everything in my job (including driving non air conditioned vehicles all day, and standing outside in business casual attire for hours) as if I wasn't getting ready to push a baby out any time. It is so super stressful and then coming home and having to be a wife and take care of things. 

    I guess i'm just saying know that you are not alone and sometimes you need to just have a good cry (or scream session) and let it all out. I have had several of those and feel much better afterwards. AND really how many times in our lives can we just cry and scream and be able to blame it on crazy hormones?! :) Keep your chin up you're almost there!

    I'm sorry to see that you're going through something similar but thankful for your kind words.
    I haven't been with my job long so I don't get a lot of benefits. I asked them if I could move to another location and they just blew me off. They are pretty much some a holes around the joint. Thankfully my husband has started to see the light and told me i could leave when i felt i needed to
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  • sarahgann05sarahgann05 member
    That's good that your husband is starting to see the stress it's putting on you! It certainly will make things easier on you. I hope you can get things worked out and as un-stressful as can be that way you can focus on your little one coming!!
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