I hope I wasn't that annoying

haylo33 · September 2014

My co worker is 8 weeks pregnant. We are nurses. She told everyone as soon as she found out at 4 weeks. She is constantly talking about how terrible she feels, what she can't eat, she can't move patients, can't clean up body fluids (unfortunately a big part of our job), and basically talks about being pregnant 24/7. She says she feels the baby move all the time. And the worst (in my opinion) she sees the high risk OB just because she wanted to and bugged them until they said yes. She is young and healthy with no risk factors. I didn't even tell anyone I was pregnant until 13 weeks. I hope I wasn't that annoying. All my co workers are complaining and saying I was nothing like that. I know I should probably sympathize with her but I just can't. How bout you ladies... Did you complain more than you should have or did you suffer in silence??

bazingaa · September 2014

Suffered in silence. Didn't tell any coworkers till I was 20wks. I didn't want anyone counting how many times I'd sneak off to the bathroom to throw up!

spacepotatoes · September 2014

At work, suffered in silence. We also waited until 2nd tri before saying anything but even after that, I only talked about it when people asked or if it was relevant - I was substitute teaching last year and towards the end, I had to request not to be called to certain schools because the drive was too long for me to handle physically.

Feeling the baby move a all the time at 8 weeks? LOL. She must have a ton of gas.

LunaBug924 · September 2014

I told work early, but mostly because there is only a single bathroom for the whole office (small private practice) and I was not quiet when it came to MS. I figured it was better to just be out with it, rather than try faking it. I didn't do that for sympathy, though, and I never said I couldn't fulfill an aspect of my job because of being pregnant.

A nurse really thinks she can feel the baby move at 8 weeks? Ha.

caycelee · September 2014

Didn't complain much mainly because of a previous loss so I would hate to have to listen to someone complain like that when there are so many others that have a hard time getting pregnant or can't have children at all and would give anything to be in her position. She should slow her roll.

AngelaAmy · September 2014

I definitely complained more than I should have. Probably due mostly to the fact that I was off work and being hike alone was driving me crazy so whenever I was around people I talked way to much!

FlemDance · September 2014

Suffered in silence, though I had to tell a few people at work. I had MS all day, so there was no hiding it from some co-workers, and they were concerned that it was my Crohn's getting bad again. So, if I was close with them I told them the truth, and if they were just nosy I just played it off. Everyone knew at work once I was 13 weeks. Once I got past the MS, I felt awesome for the most part. My Crohn's was actually more under control than it ever had been before. Even when I started having cervical issues at 28 weeks, I felt great! I had some discomfort, sure, but complaining about everything to everyone is just dumb.

bridetobe9132013 · September 2014

I suffered im silence pretty much but I did complain to my DH! I started a new job when I was 8 weeks pregnant and my first day I did explain to my co worker (toddler classroom) that I was pregnant and would need to snack throughout the day so I didnt get sick. I assured her it wouldn't affect my job performance and I hardly ever talked about it. I quit when I was 18 weeks because I was sick of being harassed by my bosses. I came home crying almost every day. I was so stressed i would start cramping. I think being so sick made it feel 100 times worse.

ho11yday · September 2014

First pregnancy I complained a lot. Second, no body knew until close to 20 weeks. I was really bad my first pregnancy. Really bad. Almost as obnoxious as my SIL.

gutsysneakers · September 2014

I didn't tell family/work/friends until I was 16 weeks and I wasn't sick at all. Yeah, I was that pregnant gal.

RachelCA29 · September 2014

I told my work at 11 weeks because a few people found out accidentally (overheard a doctor phone call, etc - I worked in a group office) and they were getting really bad at keeping quiet. So anyone who worked near me wasn't surprised at all, but in an excited way. Except for the really oblivious girl that worked at the same desk as me, she had no clue some how.

After I announced it I didn't want to be the pregnant lady that just talks about being pregnant. A lot of my coworkers were either young girls that were really excited (like not married, years off kids) because I was the first pregnant person kind of their age group they knew; or older ladies way done having kids. So they were always asking me about how it was going, boy or girl, names, plans, etc. I answered their questions but tried to not make it my only topic of conversation, even though it's all they wanted to talk about some days.

We had a lot of interns who I'm sure didn't care, and since it was an open office plan I didn't want to bore them.

frasey · September 2014

I told my 2 office-mates/friends pretty quickly - we were planning a trip later in the yr that I had to be taken off of, and they would notice quickly that something was up. But I didn't tell anyone else until I was pretty far along. Also, I only had 2 really bad weeks near the beginning, but I don't think it was too obvious to anyone outside my friends, as I suffered in silence too!

britab · September 2014

I suffered in silence. I had a male student teacher, so he was in the room all the time. It was nice when I needed to run out but I also was hiding it from him. I was extremely nauseous all the time but put on my teacher face and made it work. I told work at 14 weeks and my students around 17. I worked until 39. My load wasn't lightened at all. I had to do more work planning for subs for my doctor's appointments.

Some people just love attention.

whimsy515 · September 2014

I had trouble getting pregnant. I didn't tell co-workers or friends about tests and procedures. When I did get pregnant, even though it was easy I didn't complain to anyone. There was plenty of awesome food I couldn't eat (GD) and I still didn't complain! But, at the same time I had a whole bunch of pregnant friends that announced right away and then did nothing but complain. They still complain but now it's all baby stuff not pregnancy stuff. I was annoyed at it all,so I get where you're coming from!

Helmink0804 · September 2014

I was silent unless asked about things. I did give updates when I went to the Drs but we're a pretty close knit group. The one girl was becoming a first time grandmother and all she would talk about was her daughter in laws pregnancy. I felt I was living two pregnancies that I knew so much about her daughter in laws.

flockofmoosen3 · September 2014

I would have given her a serious eye roll and bitch face by now, OP.

I am close to my boss and a couple of my co-workers. Since I was so afraid of a miscarriage and it was my first pregnancy, the only person I told besides my mom and my husband was one coworker friend at 4 weeks. I just needed her to know that I was pregnant in case it didn't work out.

The next person I told was my boss as soon as my morning sickness started at 6weeks. He was super supportive, and kept it a secret, and didn't mind me coming in later in the morning, or leaving early depending on how I felt. He also would come with me to get the snacks I needed to keep nausea at bay. After my 12 week ultrasound I told my other immediate co-workers, esp because I was still so sick.

After I told those coworkers, I let other ppl know only if they asked or if they told each other. I never brought it up to others on my own unless it would affect work somehow (when i had to tell our Dean so we could plan staffing in my absence).

haylo33 · September 2014

I definitely gave her the side eye. I also told her she was crazy to see the high risk doc because you wait for 2 hours at every appointment. He is very in demand and busy so I get annoyed she is taking an appointment when a mom with a serious problem needs to wait.

operaghost · September 2014

I didn't tell work until 20 weeks and even after that I never talked about my pregnancy unless specifically asked. I'm there to work, not chitchat.

kat8805 · September 2014

Now, we all know you "suffer in silence" ladies are stretching the truth. Sure, you were silent, when your fingers were clickity clacking your gripes and moans here.

I bitched up a storm. I was also potty training a 3 year old, harassing a real estate agent about selling our townhouse, and on my own for a few weeks while DH was a few states over, working. He was a bitch the entire pregnancy too though. Come to think of it, I may need to make him POAS since his vagina is still sandy.

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