I am hosting a shower for a friend in February. She asked me if I would do the poem for books instead of cards. I have been to a few showers that have done this and I have always disliked it. It seems like you are being greedy - buy me a gift and a book. I don't want to include the poem in the invitation, but I feel bad because this is her shower. What would you do?
Re: book instead of card, thoughts
I like the idea, because books are always a good thing for a child to have.I doubt she expects people to bring a gift and a $20 book. You can find some very cute books for cheap on clearance racks at B&N or Borders any day of the week, easily cheaper than most "baby" cards you can find at the store.?
I know if I asked a friend who was hosting my shower to do something like this, and then got only cards because she ignored my request, I'd be upset. If it looks greedy, then SHE looks greedy, not you. And I don't think it looks greedy anyway; maybe if she specified Dr. Seuss books (which are pricey) I could understand, but not in general.?
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That's ridiculous. Do people not make registries, which is essentially "telling" guests what gifts to bring (or what would be most appreciated?) How is asking for a cheap book instead of an expensive card (that will get trashed) any more greedy than having a shower in the first place? She isn't TELLING anyone what to do, merely specifying what she would appreciate the most. People can ignore it, or follow it, the choice is totally theirs.?
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Ditto.
I realize you get off on your snark but this is ridiculous. It is no different then registering or having a wishing well.
I Think it's a great Idea. I'm going to do it.
If people (that are invited) to the shower don't want to do it or think it's too expensive...they just won't do it. End of story.
Plus most people get excited about buying shower gifts anyway, they'd love a fun theme like that!!
Go for it
We're doing it at mine in February. If people don't want to do it, they don't have to. But why buy a card that is about 4-5 bucks when you can buy a book that will last a long time? My best friend did it a few years ago and I just bought her two inexpensive little books from Babies R Us. I honestly didn't think it was rude at all.
I really want to do this at my shower, my husband and I are both huge readers, and people have been buying me books as gifts since iIwas in grade school. The most noticeable feature of our home are the huge bookcases literally overflowing with books. So I'm hoping people will see this as being apropos to who we are. But if someone doesn't want to bring a book, no biggie.
I don't think this is any different from the gazillion showers I've been to where I've been asked to bring diapers! Books last longer, and quite frankly, if you buy smart are way cheaper than diapers too.