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mweav1025mweav1025 member
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So two days a week I watch another baby.  My husband knows the mom through the student group he advises.  Now up until today I assumed that they shared the rear-facing carseat between two cars.  Dad drops baby off in the carseat and then mom grabs the carseat when she picks baby up.  Today my assumption proved false.  We were outside when mom picked baby up.  I watch her put the baby in the car.  She placed her almost 9 month old baby in a forward facing car seat.  This child in no way has outgrown a rear-facing and probably doesn't fit properly or safely in the forward facing seat.

My question is, any advice on how to approach the mom on this subject.  I cannot just let this go, given the age and size of the child.  I don't want this thread to turn into a debate on when to turn your child forward facing.  I think we can all agree that 9 months is way to young to be forward facing.  So for the safety of the child I want to say something, but I don't want to come across as trying to be a superior parent.  She is young and a first time mom so I don't want to sound like I am belittling her in anyway.  I won't have the baby again until Tuesday so I have some time to formulate what to say, so I figured I would ask you wonderful ladies for some advice on how to approach this subject with the mom.
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  • mancila60mancila60 member
    I agree with @Lia1303‌ if you turn it into a issue of protecting her from getting in trouble then it won't come across as being better than her. Also giving facts also helps like a specific age. I know here the age is 2 years old so 9 months is way too young.
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    Agree with @Lia1303‌. But I don't get why the dad is dropping off the baby and a car seat and the mom is picking up baby and car seat but then putting baby is a separate car seat. WTH is dad dropping off the seat if mom isn't using it? Not that that is the issue here.
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    Lee81 said:
    Agree with @Lia1303‌. But I don't get why the dad is dropping off the baby and a car seat and the mom is picking up baby and car seat but then putting baby is a separate car seat. WTH is dad dropping off the seat if mom isn't using it? Not that that is the issue here.
    It honestly could be very possible that dad doesn't know she isn't using the rear facing seat.  Which also makes me want to bring something up to him because out of both parents he seems the more responsible one.  I am not trying to parent bash either of them, but my interactions with them make me very concerned for their baby at times.
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    edited September 2014
    mweav1025 said:


    Lee81 said:

    Agree with @Lia1303‌. But I don't get why the dad is dropping off the baby and a car seat and the mom is picking up baby and car seat but then putting baby is a separate car seat. WTH is dad dropping off the seat if mom isn't using it? Not that that is the issue here.

    It honestly could be very possible that dad doesn't know she isn't using the rear facing seat.  Which also makes me want to bring something up to him because out of both parents he seems the more responsible one.  I am not trying to parent bash either of them, but my interactions with them make me very concerned for their baby at times.
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    That's weird too, though, right? I wonder why dad thinks she has the seat in her car if not to use it.

    Sorry, again, I know that's not the point. It's just bugging me because it doesn't make sense! Good on you for trying to educate them. I hope they will listen. Keep us updated :)
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  • mweav1025mweav1025 member
    @Lee81 a lot of their parenting choices bug me.  I kind of just brush most of them off as first time parents learning their own style, but this one takes the cake.  I honestly want to bring it up to dad in a very casual way.  Like say to him next time he drops her off 'you know you don't need to bring her in with her carseat'.  See what he says and go from there.
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