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January 2015 Moms
BriannaCaitlin
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Venting because all I do is cry
BriannaCaitlin
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Literally. It's all I do anymore. I've never had acne this bad, and it usually goes away within a day or two if I did have a tiny outbreak. The twins are taking over and my face looks like a pepperoni pizza. But I've never been big on makeup and can't cover this up to go out in public to save my life. I feel so ugly. And I'm gaining weight all over now too. It was just my belly, but over the last week or so I notice my face and arms getting fatter and it's to the point that I'm too insecure for T to even look at me with the lights on to have sex. I CRY every time. And then my dad asked what car seats we are buying and YES we know they are more expensive that anybody we know would pay, but they are what we have found and feel safest about. We aren't dumb, we know they all have to be safe or they wouldn't even be allowed to be sold and they all have to pass all of these certain things. We get that. But some things about the car seat we have chosen for the twins just makes us feel like it's a better decision. And nobody seems to understand that and everybody keeps saying "waste of money" and how the "cheapest ones you can find are just as safe just don't look as good". AND?! We have the money saved up to get them just let us do it! Why does everybody feel like their opinion should change ours?! They aren't their children. If we want to pay extra money for something just to put our minds at ease or for whatever reason, why should there be an issue with that?! I cried when he left for work today. This is getting out of hand... I hate being alone 
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Re: Venting because all I do is cry
It puts my mind at ease and cars are dangerous enough as it is.
I'm sorry you are sad. I was really emotional with my first pregnancy. Do some meditation. Go for a walk. Yoga. Write down your feelings in a journal. Have a bath or long shower.
Feel better
Hugs and love! You are totally allowed to buy whatever carseat you have decided on, especially if you are the ones paying for it.
Just remember this too shall pass...I know it doesn't make it easier to deal with but there is an end date for the crazy hormones and with twins to chase after that should help with any of that baby weight that is causing the insecurities.
About the car seats, we got a Graco and then Britax, and those were both good for us and kind of mid-range for price. But if you want to spend more and have the means to do so, that's your business. People are going to have opinions about your child-rearing choices, and many of them will be unsolicited. I've learned to say to my mom, "Thanks for your perspective and advice. I will talk it over with DH, and then we'll decide what's best for our family." Or you can just say, "Ok, thanks," and then do what you want.
The acne will eventually go away. Brush on some oil-free foundation powder to help even out your skin tone and then forget about it. No one else is analyzing your pores the way you do - they're all amazed you've still got it together to go out at all.
The weight is to help nourish your babies. It's more water than fat and it will all start coming off in another 20 weeks (give or take). If sex is still on the table - even with the lights off - you're doing better than some!
The best car seats are usually expensive. Sure, the cheaper ones are certified, but maybe you want something more awesome. Or purple. Or shiny. Whatever. It's your money and your babies.
Have a good cry, then some chocolate, then remember that you're growing two babies (and most days that's more than enough!)