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Talk me out of baby No. 2

Alondrasilva10Alondrasilva10 member
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I won't make this long. I feel like I'm constantly thinking about having baby 2 but it's pretty much the last thing my husband wants right now. Which is good because we are absolutely not ready for a second. I'm still in school working full time and having a second child means staying home (daycare for two kids is crazy money) and that would also mean no more school. Plus, we don't live in an area we would like to bring up our children and I would at least want a small house (live in apt) by the time the second one comes. 

I know it's just baby fever. I know it's not the right time. But I CANNOT stop thinking about it. I cannot stop brining it up to my husband and I can tell he's tired of hearing about it. 
My daughter turns two in November. 

Any advice? Or tips to constantly remind myself of why it's important to wait? 
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Re: Talk me out of baby No. 2

  • HelenahhandbasketHelenahhandbasket member

    How old is your LO?

    I mean all of the reasons you listed inyour OP are excellent reasons to wait.  I would maybe re-read your post a few times when you are feeling baby fever hit you. 

     

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  • Alondrasilva10Alondrasilva10 member
    She is 22 months old. 

    Re reading this did help actually!
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  • foreverapartofmeforeverapartofme member
    Baby fever is tough!  You listed a lot of good reasons already.  Plus you never know what your next LO's temperament will be.  I just had my DS and he has colic.  For you, that would likely make working full-time and being a student very challenging on top of meeting your LO's needs.  
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  • sandrabrookesandrabrooke member
    Hey--I think its good your realizing its not a good time.

    Just keep thinking of all the negatives....:)

    (I mean, there are positives, of course...but for your sake think of the negatives!)
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  • jennypolkadotsjennypolkadots member
    Just try to keep your sights set on your family's future. Won't it be nice to finish your education, get a better job, and purchase a house in a nice area before your daughter starts school in a few years? You mentioned you don't live in the area you want to raise your kids so I will just guess that the area you are in is not the best schools and it would be more expensive to move to where you want to be. Having a baby right now sounds like it would seriously derail your plans and even be detrimental to your daughter's education/upbringing.

    The bottom line though is it takes two to tango. Your husband does not want a second child, period. That is all the reason you need to squash the baby fever and put this on the back burner until you both feel ready, keeping in mind he may just not want a second at any time and that is fine too. 
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  • TaraGoldenCOTaraGoldenCO member
    Set up goals for yourself to accomplish before you have another child, and perhaps you won't realize all of them, but if you focus your energy on achieving those other things (e.g. finishing school) in order to be ready for having a second child, maybe it will help? 
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  • bearfootzbearfootz member

    You already talked yourself out of it. If you need more reasons then post your phone number and I'll call you ever 45 mintues from midnight to 4 AM and scream in your ear...sometimes that reminder of how a lack of sleep feels is the like the ibuprofen for baby fever.

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