5 more weeks of no sex!?

jmhansen11 · August 2014

DH and I are dying over here. We've only had sex once in July because of IVF treatment and have now been advised to abstain through the first tri. I know that if something happened after sex i would never forgive myself, but man this is hard!! I had such a vivid dream last night that I was having O but stopped it early bc I was worried (I can't even get off in my dreams)! Anyone else in the same boat right now? Even semi-of sexy scenes on tv send us both over the edge.

epidemic · August 2014

I wish..my DH hasn't touched me since we found out..and I'm like..geeze, I'm not even fat yet. Just a bit bloated. GL..maybe you guys can get a little hands on in the meantime.

iloveu4ever · August 2014

My man begged me last night.

bowman958 · August 2014

Maybe if it was forbidden I would be into it again.

PassTheNachos · August 2014

bowman958 said:
Maybe if it was forbidden I would be into it again.

Truth.

Did your dr tell you abstain from sex? If not, go for it. Your baby is pretty protected in there.

Texasmomma13 · August 2014

bowman958 said:
Maybe if it was forbidden I would be into it again.

word

knjzacher · August 2014

My OB said only very gentle sex, then at the second appointment said to try to abstain until the 2nd tri. Laaaaaaame. We are in this together lol

delgadomama · August 2014

Man! I can't even imagine!

megs12914 · August 2014

I had partial placenta previa at 19 weeks with my last pregnancy. We were cleared at 29 weeks to go ahead and have sex again and my water broke four days later. I had my c/s at 34 weeks and didn't stop bleeding for 8 weeks. That was a long, long time! I get it. Is it a regular thing with IVF to be on pelvic rest for the first tri?

picklesx · August 2014

We didn't have sex at all while I was pregnant with my son.

It was bliss not having to.

Ohhbaby2015 · August 2014

I feel your pain. I was in the er 3 weeks ago and was told no sex for 3 weeks. Hubs wants to wait until after the first appt to make sure that Dr okays it.....that's not till Sept. 11....ugh. I get it, I of course want to make sure everything is ok too, but gosh it socks not being able to have sex.

This and that · August 2014

I'm on pelvic rest until week 10...only 1 1/2 more weeks (But who's counting?). Though I'm going to bet the DH will be too nervous to do so when I get the "OK".

Murran131 · August 2014

I was put in pelvic rest for a week for a small sch... And now it's been a week and half... And we're so nervous to have sex!!! Want to, very badly, by so nervous!!!

mariannw · August 2014

I almost wish my dr told us no sex right now! My H is such a horndog and wants it when he wakes up, in the afternoon when he comes home from lunch and sometimes even in the middle of the night...while I'm sleeping.

But last week it didn't feel good so I didn't want it for a few days and that turned into a week(oops lol). And it was the end of the world to him...literally.

Maybe just the idea of not being able to, makes you want it more(:

lindzb83 · August 2014

bowman958 said:
Maybe if it was forbidden I would be into it again.

Absolutely! My DH wants it all the time. I'm too tired or too sick to want it. If I'm not either one of those, I usually want to bite his head off. Everything he does annoys me! It's seriously a chore!!!

55 · August 2014

I wish I wanted to have sex! My husband was sweet enough to tell me that he can wait as long as I need him to, and that I should just let know him when I'm in the mood from here on out. We found out on 8/13, and I've been in the mood exactly twice since then.

jmhansen11 · August 2014

snegde said:

megs12914 said:
Is it a regular thing with IVF to be on pelvic rest for the first tri?
Nope. My doctor encourages sex if you are up to it. I've had some pain which is why I am currently on pelvic rest.

Was your pain because of/after sex or just general cramping pain?

stranzm · August 2014

Similar situation (July IVF cycle), but my doctor lifted the "no sex" restriction after the heartbeat at the ultrasound. Perhaps you can ask at your next appointment? Our medical assistant said that one couple asked to use the room to have sex before they left. She didn't let them, but it does emphasize that what you are feeling is common amongst the IVF patients!

mmmd01 · August 2014

My dh really wants it but I have gone right off I did with my 3 boys but as soon as u got to 12 weeks it came rushing back and dh didn't know what hit him I wanted it all the time. At the min I feel like I never wanna be near him again

twinklepits · August 2014

We are in the same boat. Doctor said no sex for the first trimester. I'm going crazy, but I'm making sure dh doesn't have to suffer along with me. He's taken care of lol.

Andie000 · September 2014

Is this no sex thing for ladies that have had IVF treatment only? I have never been advised by my Dr not to have sex and we just did it last night and I'm kind of freaking out!

twinklepits · September 2014

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twinklepits · September 2014

Andie000 said:
Is this no sex thing for ladies that have had IVF treatment only? I have never been advised by my Dr not to have sex and we just did it last night and I'm kind of freaking out!

We have a couple various health reasons and I'm on certain meds inserted vaginally that she advised would be in Hubby's best interest if he doesn't get it on his man-goods. I have heard that it's safe for other couples, though.

Seachele98 · September 2014

Same boat here. As soon as we started our IVF cycle early July, doc said no sex. At our last u/s 2 weeks ago he said still jo, and told us when we are allowed to again, we'll have to wear a condom for a bit because semen can may the cervix contract? I'd never heard of that, but not going to question the doc. At least DH is very understanding. I've head crazy dreams too. But honestly, even if we were allowed to, I don't know that Id feel like it, while awake anyway.

cjury · September 2014

With my first pregnancy my hubby refused to have sex with me for 4 months towards the end of pregnancy. He freaked out he would hurt the baby. This pregnancy the doc advised me no sex until further notice bc of some issues I'm having so it's been over a month. Sucks!

fiscally3 · September 2014

epidemic said:

I wish..my DH hasn't touched me since we found out..and I'm like..geeze, I'm not even fat yet. Just a bit bloated. GL..maybe you guys can get a little hands on in the meantime.

My husband was like this with our first pregnancy. It took awhile to figure it out, but it turns out he was worried that it would hurt the baby. I tried to explain to him that we couldn't hurt the baby. Took Lamaze class then he was okay with it, until I started dialating. Second & third pregnancy its been a non-issue. That being said it was probably 3 month pp until we dtd after our first, so maybe he's making up for lost time.

EmmaSF · September 2014

I am so uninterested in sex. I can barely make it through the day with the MS 24/7. Luckily DH doesn't seem to mind- I don't think I am much of a turn on these days. Hoping to get my sex drive back in 2nd tri- never did during my first pregnancy!!

ImNotARegularMom · September 2014

July IVF too. No sex until 12-13 weeks. 3 more weeks for me. It is hard but I'm not willing to take a chance. We've come this far already.

jmhansen11 · September 2014

Just thought if weigh in again on the no-sex for IVF ladies. If I'm honest, I'm not totally sure why some docs say this. I did read something along the way that mentioned you are still at risk for ovarian torsion for up to 8-12 weeks after retrieval. Besides that risk, I don't really think it's a "special pregnancy" unless you consider a 15k BFP "special!" It still implants and grows the same way, so I'm not sure why exactly. I've also heard in Chinese medicine that you want to keep the uterus "quiet" during first tri, so I thought this might be something similar after so much going on in there in a short period. Either way, we are surviving

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