Out of town Guests

bebejp · September 2014

Hi all,

I was curious when, or if, you plan on having out of town guests visit you and where will they be staying (with you or a hotel)?

MrsLaLaBug · September 2014

My mom will be staying with a friend of hers when she comes.

allrightmeow · September 2014

Whoever comes is and did stay with us.

marriedinaugust · September 2014

My MIL is coming a few days before my due date and staying 1-2 weeks, my SIL is coming a week after my due date and staying 4-7 days and my mom should be coming a little after that and staying as long as she wants. They will all be staying with us so hopefully there isn't much overlap as we really have no room for guests but we wouldn't have them stay anywhere else.

kefttsc · September 2014

My sister will be staying with us when the babies are born. Before that, while we have a guest room, nobody is invited to stay. I usually get up and use the guest room in the middle of the night and I can't give that up.

PrimRoseMama · September 2014

Hotel. I need my space & if it's my IL I might cut a bitch if they stay at the house when I'm recovering with #3 in the future.

minirella · September 2014

We do not have guests stay with us unless it is an emergency (that happened once during a hurricane evacuation). We don't like to entertain. My husband's family lives here and my dad rents a hotel room if he comes up and stays overnight.

leeann24 · September 2014

PrimRoseMama said:

Hotel. I need my space & if it's my IL I might cut a bitch if they stay at the house when I'm recovering with #3 in the future.

This. My mom will be staying with us to "help" for a few weeks once my husband goes back to work (if we need her, she lives relatively close). My MIL and SIL want to come visit once the baby's born, but I told them they MUST stay at a hotel. I'm also going to discourage my SIL from bringing my 6 year old niece. I love her, but she's a pain in the ass right now and she'd drive us crazy.

divinemsbee · September 2014

When we reach that point only my mom will be actually staying with us. My MIL and I have had a rocky relationship, and while it's getting better, she's also super sensitive and I know I won't have the time or inclination to walk on eggshells for her. Also, I don't need people around that need to be entertained or that I'll have to clean up after. My mom can stress me, but she also is great in high stress situations and she's an easy guest to have. Also, we do a lot of things the same, so I don't have to worry about someone trying to help with something but making it worse or not being able to find things.

bebejp · September 2014

Thanks everyone! Most of you suggested not having anyone stay with you right after the baby comes home. What about a month after? Would your guests still be staying in other locations?

missnacholover · September 2014

We are welcoming guests while we're in the hospital, but when we come home, we'd like our privacy for a few weeks (in other words, get the hell out of town). I'll be navigating BFing, blood sugar wackiness, most likely recovering from a C-section...I just do not want people in my face even if they stay in a hotel. I know folks would come over and camp out for hours and hours on end and the last thing I want to worry about is being modest with my boobs, being friendly, looking presentable, etc. So, yeah. We would love folks to come and meet baby, but after that, give us a little space for a few weeks.

Right now the plan is:
ILs coming right when baby is born/when we're in the hospital. Returning for Thanksgiving (and staying in a hotel).

My parents will come a few weeks after baby is born and will either stay in a hotel or at my sister's house about 40 minutes away.

We don't have a guest room. I think even if we did, I wouldn't want anyone to stay with us for at least a month or so. That may change when we have #2 as grandparents can help with Kid #1, but yeah. Not the time to be entertaining guests, IMHO.

baloneydisc · September 2014

My MIL is the only OOT guest we had. She was originally planning to come when DD was about 2w old and staying in a hotel. She ended up coming when DD was 5mo and stayed with us. She does not stay with us when she visits anymore because our guest bedroom is now DD's room and she doesn't like to sleep on the air mattress.

nolanova85 · September 2014

My parents are 1000+ miles away. I've suggested they just wait and come for Christmas (I'm due Dec. 10th). They agreed but my mom has made a few underhanded comments here and there about not being there right when he's born. But the thing is - there is no way to pin point that date! And my dad can't just take copious amounts of time off of work. So I'm thinking about telling her that if she wants to come closer to the birth that we would love to have her but we request that she stay at a hotel (we have a small house and DH and I just really want bonding time alone with LO).

capulet · September 2014

My sister and MIL will probably be visiting at different times within the first month after this one is born. Since this is our third, a lot of the help will be with taking care of our older kids, plus chores and cooking. I appreciate having guests stay with us if they're genuinely helpful, which my sister and MIL are, and the sacrifice of privacy around people I'm close to anyway is worth having the extra help. With DD they both stayed with us to help after she was born and with DS we were living with my ILs temporarily.

jennypolkadots · September 2014

No one will be invited to stay with us during this very special bonding time. It maybe would be different if my husband couldn't be there for me but he is taking off 4 weeks to stay home with me. I think we will manage just fine and my SIL is going to help me make a ton of freezer meals as I get closer to my due date. I'm sure people will still want to stop by but they will need to call first. Having company always stresses me out so that is seriously the last thing I want after the baby comes home. I want to be able to just sit around in a robe with my hair unwashed and not worrying about rather the house is picked up perfectly or people are annoyed by my 3 pets. We would be more inclined to pay for help (dog walker, house cleaner, post partum doula, etc.) than ask family because I know if someone in our family is over I feel like I have to entertain them. We have a great family though - everyone loves to help and we love them all... we are just weird about accepting help and prefer this to be a really intimate experience.

If everything goes well, we will be able to get home about 4-6 hours after giving birth as we are planning a natural birth out of hospital. We plan to have a little get together for anyone who wants to come the next day at my grandma's house. I feel very uneasy about the idea of many people coming in and out of my home during flu season (feb) with a newborn baby. If the baby comes mid week we might do something the following weekend as well. Our furthest family is only 4 hours away so they can come for the day or get a hotel for just one night, no biggie.

jennypolkadots · September 2014

@bebejp - a month after, yes pretty much all guests would still need to get their own place to stay. I have two good friends, an aunt, and a cousin who would all be welcomed with open arms though... I think it has more to do with the individual person and your family relationships. I definitely wouldn't plan for it in advance because you have no idea how you will feel when the time comes. At just 4 weeks post partum you are likely to still be trying to get in the swing of things. But I really like looking put together and having a very clean home if a guest is coming. I just imagine it being stressful for me shortly after birth and feeling like I need to entertain my out of town family while really I just need to be napping. There is no one size fits all answer though, we are all so different.

Disneygeek77 · September 2014

lt would depend. If the potential guests were kind, considerate and helpful and if there were only two guests who only wanted to stay for 10 days or less, then they might stay with us. However, if the potential guests were over 2 in number, or if they would expect me to cook, clean and chauffeur them around or if they wanted to stay for a while... well they would be getting a hotel

janetngreg · September 2014

I'm in the same boat. How do I tell my dad nicely that I'd prefer he stay at a hotel? We have a guest room and I know my dad will want to visit but I really want privacy. I haven't brought it up so I'm just waiting until he does. I know he will assume he can stay here, ugh...

cinderella4282 · September 2014

My mom will stay with us, but that's because I wouldn't have it any other way.

When DH's parents visited with DD, they stayed with us as well. Our guest room is currently being moved to the basement bedroom, so it will be much quieter for our guests.

firsttimeaussiemum · September 2014

No way in hell is anyone staying over night. Day time visitors are welcome (within reason) but I want to get the hang of everything just j and I.

Should also add even now fiancé and I don't really like visitors

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