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My baby led weaning backfired on me

crunchymamaof2 crunchymamaof2 member
in March 2015 Moms
I had to exclusively pump with my first son and after a few month long battle was able to nurse our second. Because we thought he'd be our last I said (insert hippy, airhead voice) "he'll wean when he's ready. I can't possibly disrupt this beautiful bonding experience. I'm sure hell magically stop when he's two anyways!"

Yeah, no, he turns 2 in a couple days and pretty much rips my nips to shreds every night. Nursing started to hurt as soon as I became pregnant and just went downhill from there. If I refuse he just screams for hours or then wants to get up and play and no sleep equals awful sickness for me. It's a lose lose. 

That's my vent for this morning. 
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Re: My baby led weaning backfired on me

  • cesquercesquer member
    I think it's ok for you to stop now. He'll stop crying soon.
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  • selena61307selena61307 member
    edited August 2014
    I am sorry. Not sure I'd it helps but I Did baby led for both and it was like a light switch. One day they both just didn't want it. The day before they had asked. Maybe he will just decide to stop soon. Crossing my fingers for you.

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    I'm sorry you're going through this.  *hugs*
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  • StephUngStephUng member
    I feel your pain! I'm weaning my 18 mo, and it's not easy! I didn't want to stop until "we both felt it was time," but with you: my nipples hurt and having him pressed against my stomach is not so nice feeling.
    I'm cutting out his nursing sessions that seem least necessary and going from there. It helps to try to give him more food and drink BEFORE he would want to nurse. I'm also giving him his favorite food when he wakes up from a nap, instead of nursing. At bed time, he cries bc I don't nurse, but he always goes to sleep.
    My point: distract! Both you and your babe. Trust that you are making the right decision for the two of you.
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  • AlinnJoAlinnJo member
    I completely understand. My dd will be 2 at the end of September and we are still nursing twice a day. My nipples have been so damn sore since I became pregnant too. OUCH! I will be working on it this week. We are going to talk about how the milk is about gone and we are almost all done with momma's milk. Before bed at night won't be as bad as nap time. She always falls asleep nursing at nap time. I don't want this to make us lose nap time!! Good luck!
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  • crunchymamaof2 crunchymamaof2 member
    cesquer said:
    I think it's ok for you to stop now. He'll stop crying soon.

    I wish it were that easy. He's day weaned. It's just night time. I'm probably going to have to start leaving at bed time (and sneaking back in) because he's fine if he thinks I'm not home. But if I'm in the house? Forget it. It's basically do I deal with the pain until that switch flips or risk feeling terribly sick from the lack of sleep the crying will cause.
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  • cesquercesquer member
    @crunchymamaof2 sorry, didn't mean to sound insensitive. I know it's not easy. You've done an amazing job already. He will be ok. Maybe think of what you can replace it with? Bribes? My friend promised her "big girl" a mani if she went 5 days without.... It worked after a couple of tries.
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  • Adele 1981Adele 1981 member
    Ugh this is my 3rd day not nursing at all. Before that we had cut back to just bedtime and first thing in the morning. It's going horribly! L cries not just at night and in the morning when she would usually nurse, but seriously all day (way more than normal). She's 17 months and now I'm starting to feel so guilty about quitting. Even though it was so miserable. ..

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  • MrsLaurenandDanMrsLaurenandDan member
    It can be rough. I'm hoping to let him self wean but he'll be 3 in less than a month. That said, nursing is a relationship, and it has to be working for both of you. You are awesome for having nursed this long. Can you try setting a timer and reducing the amount of time each day until you are basically done? It might be another way other than leaving the house (which if it works is also a great option!).
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