Mom and husband to appointment?

Carlton2013 · August 2014

How many of you bring your mom AND your husband to some appointments? My mom and I have always been very close and my husband cannot grasp why she would go to any appointments...am I being dumb and immature to think my mom should be there? (I'm 29...lol)

MiraK03 · August 2014

DH went to most of mine and I took my mom to the gender scan during my last pregnancy. I don't think there is anything wrong with that.

twinkletoes3126 · August 2014

I brought my Mom to any appointment that my husband didn't go to last time around. I had a few bleeding scares and my husband couldn't get off work, so I was relieved to have her there. I never had them both there though.

katie0919 · August 2014

Honestly, I never even thought or considered bringing my mom to any of my appts. I think, in a way, if your hubby is more comfortable with it just being him there, then I would respect his wishes.....since he's the reason baby is there and all, lol. If he is fine with it, then go for it if that's what you prefer! I personally was very private when I was pg with DS. I didn't want anyone besides DH, not even my mom, in the delivery room. I think it's all personal preference!

sarahchrismck · August 2014

Totally your call. I'd probably bring my mom too, if she lived closer. I know that I would like my mom to be in the delivery room with me because she tends to be a calming presence. I also have a high level of anxiety in medical situations, so she would help.

GR8TDANEMOM · August 2014

I brought my mom to the NT scan because DH couldn't go. Otherwise I think he preferred it be just us to share those experiences.

Ndracer · August 2014

I had always planned on bringing my mom to some. Unfortunately she had a stroke a few months back and I'm not sure she will ever recover enough to go.

I say take your mom and enjoy the mo

maybebride · August 2014

@Ndracer - I'm so sorry about your mom's condition. I hope her recovery goes better than anticipated.

With DS, only DH went to my appointments, but not all of them. He went to the first and second because it was the first and we were going to hopefully hear the heartbeat at the second (we did). He came the of the anatomy scan and the other appointments when we had u/s (I had to have a few and my doctor was awesome to "warn" me so DH could come). I had thought about having my mom come to a random appointment to hear the heartbeat in person, but always forgot to ask. I did not want her there for the u/s because I felt like those were just for me and DH. This time, "Nana" will be the one taking care of DS during appointment times, so it will be me solo or me and DH.

kayteebayb · August 2014

If my mom lived in the same state as me, I'd definitely bring her to appointments. She was there when I gave birth the first time, and though I talked to my husband about it, he really didn't have a say, since I was the one growing and birthing our daughter.

vballgirl78 · August 2014

I think you should do whatever is most comfortable with you. The same is true for in the delivery room- some women want to be surrounded by lots of people and other people want only their husband. Its all personal preference- not a matter of maturity level.

evakatharina · August 2014

I live too far from my mom for her to come to the appointments, but I invited my MIL to my first appointment! I want her along 1) she's so exited and I want her to feel like she's involved with her grandbaby to be (her first) and 2) she's good to have around for medical things because she always remembers to ask all the right questions.

H is coming too, at least for part. He'll probably have to duck out early to go to work though. Hopefully he will be able to stay for the ultrasound though.

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rivieramaya · August 2014

My mom and I are very close as well but I never invited her to any of the appointments with DS. I feel like the u/s appointments are a time for DH and I to bond with the baby. If he couldn't make it to an u/s, then I would probably ask my mom to go with me. The other appointments are usually pretty quick and boring so I would go to those alone.

If both of you are comfortable with it, then I say invite your mom to join.

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