How often do you have sex with your SO?
Love 2010 | Marriage 2011 | TTC #1 since 2012
PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole
GTKY (N3TR, NSFW) 72 votes
ED or EOD only during fertile window, other times it's not often
Less than 4 times a month (or only during FW)
Only once a month (such as those TTC via IUI, IVF, etc)
SS (please explain) or I just want to see the results
I'm becoming a parent on my own/no SO
Re: GTKY (N3TR, NSFW)
Me: 28 MH:35
Married September 2012. TTC since September 2013
June 2014 - Dx w/ significant PCOS and referred to RE.
July/August 2014 - Testing complete: Testosterone & AMH very high, FSH slightly high, Vitamin D low, tubes and lining all lovely. DH SA: A+
Cycle 1 (Nov 2014): 2.5 mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI = BFN
Cycle 2 (Dec 2014): 5 mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI - BFN
Cycle 3 (Jan 2015): 5mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI - BFN
WTF consult scheduled for 1/29
Me (29) DH (37)
Married 7/11
Actively TTC 3/12
DX: PCOS
Current treatment: Break from IUIs until after the holidays
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Me- 26 PCOS
DH- 28 MFI
10/13 IUI #1 (1 follie)- BFP!
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01/14 IUI#2 (1 follie) BFN
02/14 IUI #3 (3 follies) BFN
03/14 IUI #4 (2 follies) BFN
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Me (29), DH (38)
Oct 2009 - Married
Aug 2011 - Started TTC
Jan 2012 - OB Referred to RE
Feb 2012 - RE Visit #1
Apr 2012 - HSG (Normal), PCOS - DH SA (low count and low motility)
June 2012 - Provera, Clomid, TI - BFN
July 2012 - IUI #1, Provera, Clomid 50mg, Trigger Injection - BFN
Aug 12 - Feb 14 - Break
Feb 2014 - New OB referred to new RE
Mar 2014 - New RE visit #1
Apr 2014 - TSH level elevated, need to retest.
May 2014 - TSH retested, higher than 1st test. Start on Synthroid. DH SA (Normal)
June 2014 - Start on DHEA, CO-Q10, New brand of Prenatals
July 2014 - Cycle came on its own, b/w on CD2, TSH (normal), Femara CD3-CD7, CD14 - u/s + Ovidrel + baby aspirin regimen. IUI #1 B2B on CD15/16 - BFN
August 2014 - u/s on CD3 normal, Femara CD3-CD7, u/s CD12, Ovidrel on CD13. IUI #2 B2B on CD 14/CD15 - BFN.
September 2014 - u/s on CD3 normal, Femara CD3-CD7, u/s scheduled for CD12
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Me (29), DH (38)
Oct 2009 - Married
Aug 2011 - Started TTC
Jan 2012 - OB Referred to RE
Feb 2012 - RE Visit #1
Apr 2012 - HSG (Normal), PCOS - DH SA (low count and low motility)
June 2012 - Provera, Clomid, TI - BFN
July 2012 - IUI #1, Provera, Clomid 50mg, Trigger Injection - BFN
Aug 12 - Feb 14 - Break
Feb 2014 - New OB referred to new RE
Mar 2014 - New RE visit #1
Apr 2014 - TSH level elevated, need to retest.
May 2014 - TSH retested, higher than 1st test. Start on Synthroid. DH SA (Normal)
June 2014 - Start on DHEA, CO-Q10, New brand of Prenatals
July 2014 - Cycle came on its own, b/w on CD2, TSH (normal), Femara CD3-CD7, CD14 - u/s + Ovidrel + baby aspirin regimen. IUI #1 B2B on CD15/16 - BFN
August 2014 - u/s on CD3 normal, Femara CD3-CD7, u/s CD12, Ovidrel on CD13. IUI #2 B2B on CD 14/CD15 - BFN.
September 2014 - u/s on CD3 normal, Femara CD3-CD7, u/s scheduled for CD12
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What a great community this is! Where else can you ask a large group of women who are TTC and (and struggling with it or not...) to admit how often they get busy? And where else can you confidently talk about your satisfaction, or lack of satisfaction, with your own response to that question?
My DH recently said "we should try to do it every day for a cycle or two and see what happens." Neither of us want it that often. We're 2-3/week people (and generally on the weekends, not during the busy work week) during the three weeks where AF isn't visiting. I worry that trying every day will take the fun out of it and cause dissatisfaction.
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TTC since Dec, 2012. Me: 33; DH: 34
- Ultrasound to look at "lay of the land": normal
- Blood work: normal
- OPKs and ultrasound to confirm ovulation: Yes
- SA for DH: Normal (a couple numbers on the low side of normal)
- HSG: Normal
- Doing several cycles of Letrozole, TI and progesterone
- Aug cycle of Letrozole, TI and progesterone came back with a BFP-MC at 7 weeks.
- Benched until Jan
- Starting Letrozole, TI, Progesteron and HCG Trigger in Feb cycle
PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole
Me: 28 MH:35
Married September 2012. TTC since September 2013
June 2014 - Dx w/ significant PCOS and referred to RE.
July/August 2014 - Testing complete: Testosterone & AMH very high, FSH slightly high, Vitamin D low, tubes and lining all lovely. DH SA: A+
Cycle 1 (Nov 2014): 2.5 mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI = BFN
Cycle 2 (Dec 2014): 5 mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI - BFN
Cycle 3 (Jan 2015): 5mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI - BFN
WTF consult scheduled for 1/29
TTC #1
Me: AMA, DH: MFI
Official DX - MFI due to Hemochromatosis
IVF #1 Nov. 2014 - ER 11/10 (10R 6M 6F) - ET 11/13
3DT of 3 embies - no frosties - CP = BFFN!!!!
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Honestly, DH and I hardly (no pun intended) ever "get busy". This is the first time I am talking about this outside of my closest friend. I don't know what the problem is but it seems like the longer we are married, the less active we become. We will BD during the FW but outside of that, its a big fat no. It sucks to say the least. I am definitely the "guy" in the relationship because I'd prefer 3-4x a week.
My two cents...
DH: 30 SA-Low motility
Married: July 27, 2007 NTNP: 2008-2013 Actively TTC: Since October 2013
IUI #1: 10mg letrozole (3-7), trigger shot (5/31/14), procedure 6/2/2014 SA - 5mill post-wash BFN
IUI #2: 10mg letrozole (3-7), trigger shot (7/1/14), procedure 7/2/2014 SA - 23 mill post-wash BFN
IUI #3: 10mg letrozole (5-9), trigger shot (7/30/14), procedure 8/1/14 SA - 28 mill post-wash BFMFN
DH: 30 SA-Low motility
Married: July 27, 2007 NTNP: 2008-2013 Actively TTC: Since October 2013
IUI #1: 10mg letrozole (3-7), trigger shot (5/31/14), procedure 6/2/2014 SA - 5mill post-wash BFN
IUI #2: 10mg letrozole (3-7), trigger shot (7/1/14), procedure 7/2/2014 SA - 23 mill post-wash BFN
IUI #3: 10mg letrozole (5-9), trigger shot (7/30/14), procedure 8/1/14 SA - 28 mill post-wash BFMFN
Bring it up to him. Guys are clueless and aren't usually big talkers when it comes to this stuff. He needs you to tell him directly. Just put it all out there (in a nice way). I would start with "I would love to have sex more often. Is there something I can do to make you more comfortable or in the mood?" And just see what he says. Don't place any blame anywhere and don't get upset, just talk calmly.
PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole
@theholmanherd Thank you for that suggestion!
DH: 30 SA-Low motility
Married: July 27, 2007 NTNP: 2008-2013 Actively TTC: Since October 2013
IUI #1: 10mg letrozole (3-7), trigger shot (5/31/14), procedure 6/2/2014 SA - 5mill post-wash BFN
IUI #2: 10mg letrozole (3-7), trigger shot (7/1/14), procedure 7/2/2014 SA - 23 mill post-wash BFN
IUI #3: 10mg letrozole (5-9), trigger shot (7/30/14), procedure 8/1/14 SA - 28 mill post-wash BFMFN
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Me: 31| DH: 36
TTC #1 Since 07/2010
DX: Unexplained Infertility
TX:
IUI #1 on 7/3/14 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI (44 million sperm, 1 dominant follie) = BFN
IUI #2: on 7/28/14 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI (23 million sperm, 2 dominant follies) = BFN
IUI #3 on 8/22/2014 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI (53 million sperm, 2 dominant follies)= BFP MMC @ 7weeks
PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole
-----------------------------------SIGGY WARNING-------------------------------------
Me: 31| DH: 36
TTC #1 Since 07/2010
DX: Unexplained Infertility
TX:
IUI #1 on 7/3/14 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI (44 million sperm, 1 dominant follie) = BFN
IUI #2: on 7/28/14 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI (23 million sperm, 2 dominant follies) = BFN
IUI #3 on 8/22/2014 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI (53 million sperm, 2 dominant follies)= BFP MMC @ 7weeks
PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole
Seriously throughout this very long IVF process we have probably only had sex maybe 3 times since May. I had to click SS because I didn't see a response for never. When I'm hopped up on all these meds I just don't feel like it. My husband is so understanding and I know we will get back to normal when I'm not on all kinds of meds making me feel like shit.
PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole
True but those 3 times was in 1 week. :-) I had a 1 week window in between ER and before I started meds for my FET the first of July. Last year when I had my 3rd mc we had a 3 month dry spell because of pelvic rest with my pregnancy, then more pelvic rest with a D&c, then more waiting for an HSG. Were getting really good at not having sex.