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relationship with dad

MargotshaMargotsha member
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For the first 6 weeks I had to pump and bottle feed dd due to her being born early. After 6 weeks,I was able to bf full time. At this point, dd decided she didn't have much need for my dh, and is very fussy with him. Did anyone experience this? Once you weaned your lo, did the relationship get any better since dh could feed your lo again?

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  • CNYBride05CNYBride05 member
    I agree with everyone. My DH has been primary bath giver, soother, and nap time master (when he is home, so weekends). He was a little sad when we stopped supplementing and went EBF, but got over it quickly when he saw how much less stress it was and how easy boobs are compared to bottles.
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  • opheliainwadersopheliainwaders member
    I had a really similar experience to you -- DD was 4 weeks early, and DH and I had to tag-team feedings at first thanks to a rather grueling BF/pumping schedule. That said, she was more attached to me at the beginning - whether because of boobs, or just because I'm her mama, I'm not sure - but that really did shift a bit now that she's older.

    DH just had to find his own ways to bond with her that weren't about food! Which is tough at the very beginning, because they want to nurse all the time - but that does change over the course of the first year, and now at 14m, DD still nurses, but is totally happy to spend the day with her dad.
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  • surpriseadditionsurpriseaddition member
    Another thing to mention....a lot of babies go through what I called the witching hour from around 5-8pm (yes, it lasted longer than an hour for us).  If that is when DH is getting home from work, it may seem like your LO is cranky just for him, when she was happy with you all day.  A lot of young babies just need to blow off steam at that time, and it unfortunately correlates to DHs arrival.  Give it time.  My DH has a great relationship with all 3 of our kids, and they were all BF long term.  He just became an expert at burping, bathing, etc. like everyone else mentioned.


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