WWYD - Too soon after birth for a concert?

MrMrsandBaby · August 2014

DH sent me a link to a concert we have a chance to go to on 11/20 in the city, about an hour from home. LO will be a month or so old. We can't take LO right? It is at the House of Blues...we would be gone for like 4 hours so I would likely need to pump or something during the concert...

It is too soon right?

MsMacual · August 2014

Depends- some couples wouldn't even think of being away from LO this early, while others will. I think it comes down to what you are comfortable with.

If you are bf, you could nurse right before you leave and your sitter would probably need to feed once before you are back bc a one month old typically eats about every 2-3 hours. This could be a good test to see if LO will take a bottle if you didn't try introducing one sooner.

MrMrsandBaby · August 2014

I don't mind leaving LO, my mom would be thrilled to watch the baby and DD. I'm more thinking about the amount of time we would be gone...it is an hour there and back, about 2 hours for the concert so 4 hours minimum and I couldn't really pump during the concert right?

Bleh, if it was 6 or 8 weeks I would be ok...but 4?

duckr · August 2014

Our instructor in our baby classes said to get a sitter once LO hits 3 weeks and have a date night. I'd just bring a hand pump just in case.

hbelle331 · August 2014

I'm having the same issue, due date is Oct 10 and my husband and I have a wedding on the 25th!!! Although yesterday at our doctor appointment we got told little guy may be here way before then because he and I are measuring much further along

narabug · August 2014

MrMrsandBaby said:

I don't mind leaving LO, my mom would be thrilled to watch the baby and DD. I'm more thinking about the amount of time we would be gone...it is an hour there and back, about 2 hours for the concert so 4 hours minimum and I couldn't really pump during the concert right?

Bleh, if it was 6 or 8 weeks I would be ok...but 4?

Could you pump in the car on the way back as soon as the concert is over? Or would that still be too long?

angeltennis3 · August 2014

I would go. Could you pump in the car on the way home? If you nurse right before you go and pump in the car on the way home, you would only be going about 3 hours.

DH and I have our first date night planned around 7 weeks, but we may do a dinner just the two of us one night around Thanksgiving while DH's parents are visiting so they can get some quality time with LO and DH and I can get some baby-free time.

MrMrsandBaby · August 2014

I may get the tickets...if I don't have any BFing issues and can pump enough for a bottle while we are gone I will feel better. It may be a "game day call" on if we actually go or not.

My luck is this baby will be a week late and only 3 weeks old and no way will I go out!

FWP

lisamahrt · August 2014

Go! With the holidays around the corner it will be a fun event! Looking back, I always wished I did a date nights sooner with our first. My mom is coming in November to help out and plan to have a few date nights in there while she is there! And going to see Mockingjay is on my top list of things to do.

nightowl1989 · August 2014

I'm on the fence. If it's close and you'll only be away for a few hours, which it looks like you will, and YOU are comfortable leaving LO that early, then I say go for it. There is a concert I really want to go to in December, so not the same situation. She'll be much older at that point.

Liss1481 · August 2014

I've pumped in the car before - could you do that on the ride home?

ashie0610 · August 2014

Eek, tough call.

I went to a concert when DS when 2 months old and I'm glad I went. However, I had to pump the second we got back in the car or my boobs may have exploded. The concert was also only about 15 minutes from my mom's house which is where he was staying.

I'd probably err on the side of going if you really want to!

MrMrsandBaby · August 2014

So I will check that my pump has a car adaptor and if not I will get one!

krysngreg · August 2014

Go, it's four hours. You will deserve it.

I waited way to long after my first. She was almost six months old before I would leave her with my mother. I drive myself nuts. Of course I have no clue of breast feeding. I never produced with my first

I'm hoping now that I'm older my body will get with it.

mkw1013 · August 2014

FamousEa said:

I would pump and go if it were me, DH are planning on seeing Mockingjay when it comes out in November and I'm looking forward to getting out of the house.

me too! My birthday is on the 26th so we plan on having a date night and ordering in food then going out to the movies while someone watched LO. Im so excited for it already.

SusieBW · August 2014

If you are able to get the tickets and then make the call that day or the day or two before, I would do that. I would be more concerned about the stuff that @Nicb13 mentioned than so much about pumping/leaving LO. I went out for a girls' night dinner for a few hours when DD was just about 4 weeks old, leaving her home with DH, and everything was fine. I needed to pump pretty much the second I got home, but I also didn't have any prolonged bleeding or discomfort or anything like that. If I had, I likely wouldn't have felt comfortable going out.

Also, I'm nosy about what concert you're going to.

Starfish17 · August 2014

I think you'll be fine. Just pump before you go. You may feel a little engorged by the time you get home, but you can either pump or feed or then to relieve it. I went and saw a movie when DS was only a couple weeks old, and a concert when he was about 6 weeks.

MrMrsandBaby · August 2014

@SusieBW and @cocohkn - it is Chase Rice at the HoB in Chicago.

cshade07 · August 2014

We are going to the Elf christmas musical in the middle of November. (My edd is 10/15). Both DH and my parents have insisted it will be perfectly fine and if I need to, pump on the way to the show (which is also an hour from our home). So I say go for it!

andrieya · August 2014

Plan on going! If you don't feel up to it--stubhub! Just pump before/after and have a great time!

Duder · August 2014

I totally agree with @Happyin14‌! I used to bring my hand pump everywhere with me, and it made things soooo much easier. It fits in a purse, and you can just hop in a bathroom stall and pump real quick.

Emerald27 · August 2014

Pumping-wise, you would be fine. Nurse before you leave LO and immediately upon your return. Bring either a manual hand pump, plan to hand express, or even bring your double electric and a power converter for the car, and pump for 5-10 minutes as soon as you get there and then right when you leave (if you're feeling full and uncomfortable).

ETA: You would be pretty uncomfortable going 4 hours between nursing sessions, but 3 is manageable. If you nurse just before you leave, you could even just pump or hand express once while you're away, in the car on the way back.

Emerald27 · August 2014

Nicb13 said:
I'm sort of surprised that BF'ing and pumping are the only issues folks are bringing up. There are lots of other factors to consider

Lol - I didn't want to be a Debbie Downer. :P I wouldn't have felt up to 2 hours in the car and a concert just 1 month postpartum: and it could be less than that if baby is late. I also am not up for leaving baby for the first forever (though OP said she has someone she trusts with LO and it's not a problem for her). But if she wants to go and it would be so fun and a nice break from parenting 2, why not?

MrMrsandBaby · August 2014

@nicb13 - I'm not worried about leaving LO that soon, it doesn't bother me and we did it with DD pretty early too. But the stuff you brought up (bleeding, tired, feeling like crap) didn't even occur to me! With DD I didn't bleed heavily or for long (I don't remember how long exactly) and I didn't get really tired until around 6 weeks for some reason? But also, by 6 weeks we were doing formula so that wasn't an issue. If BFing is successful this time around I don't want to do anything to cause even a little setback! If i don't have any milk stored then I won''t go - I can't leave LO without food for four hours!

I think I will try and get the tickets and then make the call the day of the concert.

MrMrsandBaby · August 2014

Oh my god, I hadn't considered a c-section! Yup, most likely a day of call! Thanks everyone, great ideas and really helped me at least go for the tickets! They are free so if I don't go, no loss right!

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