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In an perfect world, how many children would you want to have?

cherylanddougcherylanddoug member
edited August 2014 in Trouble TTC a Sibling
If your ute and DHs sperm were cooperative, what would be the ideal number of children for you and your SO to parent? Why?

In an perfect world, how many children would you want to have? 87 votes

2
27% 24 votes
3
32% 28 votes
4
34% 30 votes
5
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Re: In an perfect world, how many children would you want to have?

  • cherylanddougcherylanddoug member
    I used to want 4 before I had Josh.  Then the reality of parenting and working full time set in.  Now I think we will persue it until we have 2.  But in my heart of hearts I will hope for three.  
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  • CheesyPeasCheesyPeas member
    I've always wanted 3, and I don't really have any particular reason why.  Three just feels right.  I grew up with one biological sister, two step-sisters, and a massive extended family, so I guess 3 just seems like the right balance between a sufficiently busy home and that "OMG I'm never going to be able to retire" threshold.  I still haven't given up hope that my body will work things out before I become too old to pursue a third but I'm also not holding my breath.
    November 2010 - 10.5 week loss  o:) 
    October 2011 - DS (7)  <3 
    July 2014 - Stillborn DD (24 weeks)  o:) 
    August 2015 - DD (3)  <3 
    April 2018 - 5 week loss o:) 

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  • purplehaze11purplehaze11 member
    I used to want 3, but the reality of work, $ and raising children has brought us to 2. Now if only my body would cooperate!

    DD 15.07.2012

    BFP #2 01.18.2014, MMC 04.10.2014 15w5d

    BFP #3 07.18.2014, MC 07.31.2014 5w6d

    DX: RPL due to submucosal uterine fibroid. Hysteroscopy 12/16. All clear!

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  • OnceInLoveWithAmyOnceInLoveWithAmy member
    In this magical world of cooperating utes, is money no object?  Because I would love a small army of children.  Seriously, I want to populate the Earth with people who will care for me in my old age. 

    Honestly though, I've always said 3 or 4.  We'll probably stop at 2 for financial reasons.  

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    Monster #1- Hunter Fillmore! 10.1.11
     MC 3.20.14 -- 8w3d
    MC 7.11.14-- 5w4d
    Monsterette #2- EDD  5.9.15

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  • cherylanddougcherylanddoug member
    OnceInLoveWithAmy said:
    In this magical world of cooperating utes, is money no object?  Because I would love a small army of children.  Seriously, I want to populate the Earth with people who will care for me in my old age. 

    Honestly though, I've always said 3 or 4.  We'll probably stop at 2 for financial reasons.  
    Yes, why not :) 
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  • Missa_gMissa_g member
    In a magical world where money issues, IF, PTL, and losses don't exist I would want 3+ living children. I honestly don't know how many. I just know for sure I want at least one more.
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    Married 9/22/07, began TTC 8/10
    Diagnosed with DOR, LP defect, mild endometriosis and cysts
    BFP #1 EDD 9/10/11, natural miscarriage at 6w
    BFP #2 Medicated cycle, twin boys born 4/4/12 at 29w4d
    BFP #3 EDD 8/8/14, D&C for missed miscarriage at 8w, baby boy with triploidy
    BFP #4 June 2014 CP
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  • kj808kj808 member
    We would love to have 4, ideally.

    But right now we'll be lucky if we can even have 3.
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    DS 10.2.07 | DD 7.27.10 | 4 angel babies
    BFP #7 | EDD 5.15.15 | It's a BOY!
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  • MAdams728MAdams728 member
    In a perfectly trouble-free world, I would want 4. I started too late for that, though.

    DH actually wants to adopt one day, so you never know......

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  • uromysuromys member
    OnceInLoveWithAmy said:
    In this magical world of cooperating utes, is money no object?  Because I would love a small army of children.  Seriously, I want to populate the Earth with people who will care for me in my old age. 

    Honestly though, I've always said 3 or 4.  We'll probably stop at 2 for financial reasons.  
    Agree. If money is no issue and my body would allow it I am so in for a small army of children. MH would only be in it so I would finally allow him to get his 15 passenger van he's been dying for since we were 16. Yeah. This guys in it for a van. His own little following would just be a bonus. ;))

    DH & I are both 28    Together: 12 years    Married: 09/24/2011

    BFP#1: January '12 - DD1 09/16/2012

    Preterm labor 31 weeks. Monitored for Hellp and diagnosed with oligohydramnios July '12

    BFP #2: 06/25 - EDD 03/05/15 MMC confirmed 8/1 - D&E 8/4 retained tissue discovered 8/20

    BFP #3 11/24 - 12/15 Heartbeat detected - DD2 07/29/15

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  • tigerlynx31413tigerlynx31413 member
    I have always wanted 4, DH jokes and says 5 or 6. Financially we'll likely stop once we get to 3, if we can get there.

    BFP #1 7/6/2012, EDD 3/13/2013, Delivered 3/14/2013

    BFP #2 1/7/2014: EDD:9/14 MC: 1/9/2014 (confirmed via blood work)

    BFP #3 7/5/2014: EDD 3/11/2015 MC: 7/15/2014

    BFP #4 11/7/2014: EDD 7/17/2015~~Please be my RAINBOW!

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  • ellebelle2384ellebelle2384 member
    We have always wanted three.  DH and I both come from families of 3 and my parents both come from families of 3.  It just feels right.  But we will be lucky if we ever have 2 at this rate.
    Me: 31     DH: 33
    Dx: Me: Recurrent Pregnancy Loss; DH: Low Morphology (2%)
    BFP#1: MC 3/1/11 at 6w1d - EDD 10/21/11
    BFP#2: 5/3/11 - EDD 1/9/12 - DD Born 1/6/12
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    TTC #2 since 12/13
    BFP#3: MC 2/8/14 at 4w5d - EDD 10/13/14
    BFP#4: MC 5/6/14 at 4w4d - EDD 1/9/15
    BFP#5: MMC discovered 8/4/14 at 9w1d - D&C 8/5/14 - Baby Boy with Trisomy 16 (maternal origin) - EDD 3/8/15
    BFP#6: CP 11/6/14 at 4w2d - EDD 7/14/15
    IVF #1 with ICSI & PGS: May/June 2015, ER 6/3/15, 17R/17M/15F
    IVF #2 with ICSI & PGS: July 2015, ER 7/16/15, 16R/11M/9F
    PGS results = 6 normal embryos (4 boys, 2 girls)
    FET 9/23/15 = BFFN
    Natural FET 11/4/15 = BFP!
    Beta 9dp5dt = 92

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  • barackollamabarackollama member
    In my magical world, I say 4. In the real world minus fertility issues, I'm good with two. I don't like odd numbers!
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  • jennadesignsjennadesigns member
    I used to think I wanted only two, but after loosing my third pregnancy, and the fourth, I've decided I do really want one more. Due to infertility issues, my children are spaced pretty far out in age - 11 and 5 (and then a newborn if we ever get there). It's nice though, because only one is in daycare at a time. But I'm not getting any younger either. :)
    BFP 3/30/13, MMC and D&C 4/19/13
    BFP 4/8/14, MMC 5/5/14, D&C 5/9/14
    BFP 8/26/14 Due date 5/8/15

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  • princessctoprincesscto member
    I voted 2. I would really like to have just 1 more! :)
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  • lebradfordlebradford member
    I'm going with 4. My husband and I each have a child from a previous relationship. They are 10 and 11 and I don't want our next child to seem like an only child, so I'd like two more at least. We'll see if that actually happens. It'll be hard to afford another round of IF after we have one baby with 3 kids and either an infant in daycare or one less income. I'm really hoping we can make it work though.
    **siggy warning**  **everyone welcome**

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    DS- 11.07.02
    DSS- 6.26.04
    Married- 6.29.13
    TTC Again- Sept. 2013
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    Test Results/Diagnosis- HSG & SA totally normal
    DX: 3/2014 Prolactinoma/Hyperprolactinemia- Started cabergoline 2/2014
    5/2014 Possible mild PCOS in addition to hyperprolactinemia??
    7/2014 Adding probable tubal factor to the diagnosis list
    9/2014 And now adding hypothyroid to the list- Started synthroid 9/2014
    Cycles 1-4 - Sept.-March- All Anovulatory 
    IUI #1 March/April-  Clomid 50mg + Clomid 100mg +Trigger + IUI #1 = BFN
     IUI #2 April/May-Clomid 100mg + Clomid 150mg + Trigger + IUI #2 + Endometrin=BFN
    IUI #3- June- Follistim 75iu + Trigger + IUI #3  Benched due to a 40 mm cyst. :-(
    IUI #3- July- Follistim 75iu + Trigger + IUI #3 + Endometrin = BFP! on 7/25/14
    Slowly rising betas - Ectopic suspected on 8/8/14 & confirmed on 8/11/14
    Methotrexate on 8/12/14 -HCG negative on 9/2/14
    IVF #1- November- Antagonist protocol: 11/1: start stims, 200iu of Follistim; 11/12 ER 17R/14M/14F; 11/17 5 day transfer of two blasts, 2 blasts and 2 expanding morulas frozen; 11/22 BFP!! (On FRER at 5dp5dt)
    Betas: 9dp5dt 205, 11dp5dt 497, 14dp5dt 1,709
    u/s at 5w0d- 1 sac; u/s at 6w0d 1 baby with heartbeat, another sac without a heartbeat
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  • TLooney17TLooney17 member
    2, 3 if I were a stay at home mom

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    TTC #1 January 2009
    January 2010 SA results: Count 16 million, Motility 40%, Morphology 2%
    January 2010- Surprise BFP! DS born 10/1/2010 :)
    January 2013 TTC #2
    September 2013 Repeat SA: Count= 1.7 million, Motility= 24%, Morphology= 2%
    November 6th 1st Appointment with RE: diagnosed with severe MFI
    Testing to try to determine a cause & possible treatment for MFI
    CD 3 blood work for me. RE does not want to repeat my HSG/lap at this point,
    but may want to before moving forward with any fertility treatments.
    After seeing the uro, DH is currently taking lots of supplements and clomid to try to boost his count. We will have a repeat SA in February to see if it works.
    Follow up SA numbers are: Count= 4 million, Motility= 40%, Morphology= 1%
    Uro wants us to have another follow up SA 5/9 to see if we see further improvement than we are back to the RE to make a game plan.

    SA 5/9/2014 Count: 12 Million, Motility: 60%, and Morphology 2%. We will be doing iui #1 in late June

    IUI #1 6/28 clomid + ovidrel, post wash count 3 million total sperm= BFN

    IUI # 2 7/21 clomid+ ovidrel. post wash count 900,000 total sperm= BFN

    IVF planned for early November- cancelled due to cyst

    December IVF #1- 22 eggs, 20 mature,16 fertilized

    12/9 Transferred 1 4AA Blast, 6 frosties


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  • KJKNAJKJKNAJ member
    I would like 4, I have convinced DH that we can handle 3. Really hoping that will finally happen one of these days. As others have mentioned, the age gap is getting bigger than I would've preferred (oldest will be at least 8), and I am creeping in on 38yrs old ....

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  • mommy2Cmommy2C member
    I would love 3 but H and I agreed to stick to 2 a long time ago. We're half way there...
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