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One and Done

mage0101mage0101 member
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I was wondering if there were any other FTM out there who decided not to have anymore babies after just having one

I want to clarify something first though, I'm not opposed to having more kids I just do not want to give birth to anymore kids. I also feel kind of selfish about this, because I have had a relatively easy pregnancy compared to some people and I'm very grateful for that. I had no morning sickness, barley showed until 5 months and played completive tennis until I was 7 months along. Even up to that point I kept telling my poor supportive husband that I really just hated being pregnant and could not have imagined if I had a difficult time.

Then KARMA hit at about 32 weeks in I had developed HBP, I was checked in to the hospital over night and had to be put on Modified Best Rest, even then not that difficult since both my Dr. and Boss let me work from home, I was put on medication and everything seemed to be going well. The following week I went in for a NST and about 20 minutes in the nurse was yelling for another nurse and I was put on IV's and it was crazy, apparently the baby's HR dropped and I was having contractions 6 minutes a part. They told me since the week before they had given me the shot that develops the baby's lungs that they were not going to stop the contractions, and if baby wants to come they will let him. Well they kept me on IV fluids over night and the contractions stopped and after a ultrasound baby looked happy and healthy, so since I live only 5 mins from the hospital they said I could go home but take it easy and drink more water, also they thought baby would make an early debut so be on the look out for that. Well I'm 37 weeks now with no issues so I might actually make it to my due date.

Sorry about the rant, and even though I have not been an active poster, I really enjoy lurking the forums and reading about other experiences, they help me to not feel so alone and weird.

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    https://forums.thebump.com/categories/one-and-done-only-child
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  • bf43005bf43005 member
    DH & I discussed being OAD prior to TTC.  We have been fortunate and are super grateful that we were easily able to get pregnant and things have been going very well for us and the baby.  But financially it doesn't make sense for us to try for more than one.  We do still have one other bedroom in our house but size would also be an issue as overall it isn't a very big house.  A second + child just wouldn't work for us.


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  • GeminiJordanGeminiJordan member
    Wait until your baby grows up and you miss all the tiny cute little baby stuff...you might change your mind then.
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  • AbbyAlwanAbbyAlwan member
    mage0101 - I think we are OAD & I have no idea why! My hubs would have 10 kids if we could, but for some reason I just feel drawn to having one & he's ok with it as well. No pregnancy problems/complications to scare me off (so far....so sorry to hear of your bumps in the road but glad you are ok!). It's also been really easy for me & I've been super lucky. I actually love being pregnant. We'll see how life goes after we have one & how we feel, but I think I'm good with one.

    It also helps that all of our friends get scary looks on their faces & warn us to "STOP AT ONE.....IT'S SO MUCH EASIER" anytime we talk about how big our family might be. lol
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  • LizaMcCrackingLizaMcCracking member
    I am 26 weeks with our first and I am considering OAD as well. I am so in love with my sweet baby already and couldn't imagine having anymore room in my heart.

    I'm sure things could change, and I know I will miss the feeling of being pregnant, but as of now I would say that you aren't alone in your feelings of OAD. :)

    Best of luck with your delivery!
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  • rae_dylanzmomrae_dylanzmom member
    My DH and I agreed not to make a decision about OAD until our DS#1 was a year old. DD is due any day now and we are thrilled; but it actually took two years for us to decide and feel ready to do it all over again. But that was just us.

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