TTC After a Loss

Intro

luna8433luna8433 member
edited August 2014 in TTC After a Loss
****sisters successful pregnancy mentioned***

First off I would like to say that I am very glad I have found this board.  Lately I have been full of a lot of different emotions, and I am glad that you ladies can understand some of the emotions that I am having.

Today has been a very emotional day.  I have very recently decided to TTC after almost a year after my MC.  A year ago last July my little sister announced that she was P and a week later I found out I was too.  I was so excited to go through our pregnancies together, our EDD were two weeks apart.  At my 8 week appointment I found out I MC at about 6 weeks.  As you all know and understand I was devastated, but what was worse was watching my sisters healthy pregnancy.  The hardest day was when my mom and my other sister were up to visit and my sister pulled out her ultra sound pictures.  I wanted so badly to have one of my own to show and adore, and even more to be happy for my sister and her first child, but I couldn't.  It has been three months since my EDD and today I received her birth announcement with her adorable child. I still wish that I could hold her child and not miss the one I lost.

I try to be positive, and look forward and plan on how I want to be a mother, and try to adore the children around me every day, but today is one of those down days, but reading some of your post have helped. I really enjoyed the one with the favorite inspirational quotes.  So thank you for sharing your thoughts and positivity, because some days you need to lean on others to get through the rough times.  Today you are my strength, and I hope as the coming days I hope I can be there for you.

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  • Good morning and welcome! I am sorry that you find yourself here, but hope that the ladies here are able to give you the support that you are looking for. Make sure that your intro (either the title or at the top) has a warning about your sister something like ******other's pregnancy mentioned******
    Also it's ok to feel some jealousy, but don't let it take away from your joy! You still have a niece to spoil right? :) Welcome. Take time to heal, and get to know the rule of the board. 
    Me: 24 
    DH: 25
    BFP: 1/12/14       EDD: 9/18/14     MC: 1/15/14
    BFP: 5/6/14         EDD: 1/5/15       MC: 5/10/14
    BFP: 12/29/14      EDD: 9/12/15      MC: 1/5/15
    Dx: PCOS - 8/20/14, Hashimoto's - 10/10/14, Gluten Allergy 10/10/14


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  • ctk181ctk181 member
    edited August 2014
    Good morning and welcome. I'm sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how difficult it must be for you to see your sister go through her pregnancy and now have her baby. I think everything you're feeling is normal. I hope you find the support you need here, I know I have.
    Married: 4/28/12
    BFP: 7/2/14 ;  1st US 7/21/14 Baby measuring 7w5d, HB of 138;  Discovered MMC 8/18/14 at 11w2d, baby measuring 8w5d, no hb ; 8/19/14 D&C
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  • Welcome. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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    SA- Great numbers • SIS- Clear (Nov '14)
     Cycle 1- Clomid CD3-7 & Trigger-BFP • EDD 1/12/15 
    Ectopic @ 5w6d • Methotrexate Shot 5/18/14
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you find this board a place of comfort and support. Please treat yourself kindly. Welcome to the board.
  • So sorry for your loss.  I know how hard it is to watch others carry on with healthy pregnancies.  I'm currently having to watch my SIL and a close friend be happy and pregnant and each time I see them, the first thing that comes to mind is the LO I lost.  It's okay to be upset and it's okay to be jealous.  Just make sure you are getting support through those rough times.  These boards are a great place to get that support and I hope you find it here :D Welcome. 

    Ashleigh (26) and Darren (26)
    Married 8-10-13
    TTC since February 2014
    BFP #1 4-22-14  EDD 1-1-15
    8w u/s 5-22-14 Baby measuring 6w1d. Heartbeat detected
    Went to Dr. 5-30-14 due to bleeding. Prescribed progesterone
    Went to ER 6-1-14 2:30 AM - diagnosed with incomplete m/c
    6-6-14 natural m/c completed
    10-24-14 BFP #2 EDD 7-6-15 **Please** be our Rainbo

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  • I am so very sorry for your loss.  I imagine that was incredibly difficult to go through with your sister.  We all understand those feelings of emptiness and sadness.  Welcome to the board.  I hope your stay is short and sweet.
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    AMA 35 :  DH 33
    BFP#1 1/26/14 (EDD: 10/7/14).  MMC 3/10/14 D&C 3/14/14
    RE Consult 11/3/14 - AMH 2.25 "great" . FSH 7.10 . Low Vitamin D
    Myomectomy 12/17/14.  Benched until March.

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  • I can not imagine how that would feel. But, like PP's have said, it's understandable to feel sad for what you lost while feeling happy for your sister. We've all heard the cliché, time makes it easier. I'm not sure that's true for everyone, but time seems to dull the ache. I hope it does the same for you. 
    ((hugs)) welcome. 
  • I'm so sorry for your loss. It's difficult sometimes to be happy and excited for others, as they have the one thing many of us desire most. Take care of yourself. Welcome.
    TTC: Since July 2013
    BFP #1: EDD 05/27/2014 (D&C 10/17/2014)
  • I am so sorry for your loss.  Welcome to the board and I hope you find support here.
    Me: 37                                               
    DH: 45
    BFP #1 3/19/14  EDD 11/29/14 MMC D&C 4/24/14
    BFP #2  12/4/14 Beta #1 218 at 12dpo Beta #2 1055 at 16dpo
    Saw heartbeat 12/29.  Please be a rainbow.
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  • Welcome, I'm so sorry for your loss. Try not to be so hard on yourself.
  • So sorry for your losses, but welcome to the board.  I can't imagine how difficult it is to be in your situation.  Please be gentle with yourself and know your feelings are normal.  I hope you find the comfort and support here that you need.

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    BFP#1 - 7/18/14; EDD 3/23/14; MMC 8/11/14 (passed naturally on 8/17/14)

    BFP#2 - 12/29/14; EDD 9/10/15 *PLEASE BE OUR RAINBOW!*

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  • I'm very sorry for your loss.  I understand your feelings- my SIL announced as a surprise at Christmas last year, and when the u/s pic came out of my mom's card (no one knew anything up to this point), I lost it.  My nephew is here now and struggling with my emotions continues to be a battle.  I have learned that my grief doesn't take away one ounce of my joy and love for my nephew.  You can be happy and grieving a loss at the same time... once I realized that although seeing my nephew can sometimes trigger sadness, it doesn't mean that I'm sad about him.  Sorry, I don't know if this is making any sense.  Big ((HUGS)) and best wishes as you TTC.
  • Thank you all for your kind words.  I do love my nephew, and it is fun to watch my sister struggle trying to figure it all out, and a little frustrating at times too.  But I think now that I am TTC I can look forward rather than back, because looking back is painful and looking forward is full of hope and a little fear, but it is mostly filled with love.  Love for my DH, love for any children I may have, love for my family who have tried to support me through this time, and now a new found love for you wonderful ladies who are also very supportive, and know first hand some of the feelings I have been going through, and will go through in the coming months. 
  • I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope that you find the comfort and support you are needing here.  ((HUGS))
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     BFP - 10/18/2012, EDD - 6/26/2013, Baby Girl lost at 22 weeks (T21), D&E 2/15/2013
    BFP - 4/23/2014, EDD - 1/2/2015 Twin Boys lost at 12 weeks, M/C 6/25/2014

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