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I need some help talking this shit out.
It seems like I'm just full of eeyore today, so my apologies in advance, but I consider you folks friends, so I'm just gonna talk some shit out real quick...I dont really know what I need right now... a hug...some commisseration...advice/feedback...idk. I'm a hot mess.
I've been in a real slump lately. A lot of it is circumstantial stress, I can bet for sure, the other part I'm sure is hormonal, but either way, I'm having a rough time.
We've been going through some minor developmental concerns with DS. We're currently working with EI for a mild speech delay (he didnt qualify for actual speech therapy, so its mild enough that they arent quite concerned enough) and hes having some balance issues...his walking isn't quite steady yet. So far, the doctors arent concerned that there is a bigger cause or anything, but I can't seem to stop my brain from worrying.
My anxiety is through the roof and I feel like I've just been fixating on my worries, which only amplifies them. Logically, I know I need to just stop with the vicious cycle of worry, bc things could be so much worse. I am grateful that we are all alive and healthy, and these issues pale in comparison to what some have to deal with in life, but Idk why my brain seems to just fixate on the worry.
On top of that, baby#2 is due in January, which we are incredibly grateful for, but this pregnancy has been much harder on me than the first. I'm finally not sick anymore which is awesome, but my mood swings are awful this time around. I'm just so incredibly moody all the time. Money's been tight and we have no reliable sitter right now, so that's always an added stress and it makes it difficult to get out and do things for me, or even get a date night with dh once in a while.
I've gotten lazy with household chores and have pretty much lost all motivation to work out, which isn't helping. Im pretty sure if I get up and worked out, I feel tremendously better. I manage to get DS out of the house daily to the playground/park, store, etc...but it doesnt exactly get MY blood pumping enough to make a difference.
I really just need to get myself out of this slump. Maybe I need to get in to see my counselor more than once a month. I dont think this is clinical depression, per se, and being pg, I wouldnt be open to meds right now anyway, but I'm having a hard time busting out of this. I feel awful for MH and DS bc I'm just so damn cranky/anxious/worried lately.
Aside from all that, I'd be lying if I said I wasn't terrified at the thought of my general moodiness during this pregnancy upping the risk for PPD or something.
Thanks for letting me get all that out. ::sigh:: I could really use a glass of wine right about now.
I've been in a real slump lately. A lot of it is circumstantial stress, I can bet for sure, the other part I'm sure is hormonal, but either way, I'm having a rough time.
We've been going through some minor developmental concerns with DS. We're currently working with EI for a mild speech delay (he didnt qualify for actual speech therapy, so its mild enough that they arent quite concerned enough) and hes having some balance issues...his walking isn't quite steady yet. So far, the doctors arent concerned that there is a bigger cause or anything, but I can't seem to stop my brain from worrying.
My anxiety is through the roof and I feel like I've just been fixating on my worries, which only amplifies them. Logically, I know I need to just stop with the vicious cycle of worry, bc things could be so much worse. I am grateful that we are all alive and healthy, and these issues pale in comparison to what some have to deal with in life, but Idk why my brain seems to just fixate on the worry.
On top of that, baby#2 is due in January, which we are incredibly grateful for, but this pregnancy has been much harder on me than the first. I'm finally not sick anymore which is awesome, but my mood swings are awful this time around. I'm just so incredibly moody all the time. Money's been tight and we have no reliable sitter right now, so that's always an added stress and it makes it difficult to get out and do things for me, or even get a date night with dh once in a while.
I've gotten lazy with household chores and have pretty much lost all motivation to work out, which isn't helping. Im pretty sure if I get up and worked out, I feel tremendously better. I manage to get DS out of the house daily to the playground/park, store, etc...but it doesnt exactly get MY blood pumping enough to make a difference.
I really just need to get myself out of this slump. Maybe I need to get in to see my counselor more than once a month. I dont think this is clinical depression, per se, and being pg, I wouldnt be open to meds right now anyway, but I'm having a hard time busting out of this. I feel awful for MH and DS bc I'm just so damn cranky/anxious/worried lately.
Aside from all that, I'd be lying if I said I wasn't terrified at the thought of my general moodiness during this pregnancy upping the risk for PPD or something.
Thanks for letting me get all that out. ::sigh:: I could really use a glass of wine right about now.
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Re: I need some help talking this shit out.
Mention this to your OB when you see her next. There are meds you can take while pregnant.
If you aren't comfy with meds while pregnant, find a therapist to talk.
And of course, there is Dr. Parenting.
@MarlaSinger& I will mention it to my Ob at my next visit, but I'm not open to taking meds while pg. Although...if PPD were to arise, I'd certainly be open to it then. I guess I need to get in to counselor at least once every 2 wks, if not weekly right now.
I wish I could find a hobby like that to do thats quiet and doesnt cost money and is available to me after DS goes to bed at night. Id love love to get back into yoga, but unfortunately between having DS all day, and then workong PT a few nights a week, it doesnt leave me a lot of time. I really just need to start getting up early before DS wakes up to at least get a workout in.
MH is currently on meds for depression, so I'm hoping he'll be there to give me the push I need if I should happen to need some help with my anxiety/mood after this baby is born. its like ever since DS was born, my anxiety has amped up. Ugh. Ive never been one for meds, but I certainly dont want to have to struggle with my feelings with a toddler and a newborn.
We've already seen some improvement in his speech and balance, so hopefully the rest will follow soon. I hate having to worry about things.
GL OP. Hang in there!
I'm also a speech therapist and it makes total sense to me that you've seen an improvement in both speech and walking since starting allergy meds. My theory - there was fluid build up in the middle ear and the allergy meds helped to dry that up. The fluid in the middle ear would muffle sounds and therefore your LO wouldn't have precise sounds to mimic and the result would be delayed speech. The fluid would also impact balance and with the fluid gone, balance would improve.
Hopefully that made sense - just my two cents
Hugs for the rest of it mama, good luck!!
As far as speech goes hes made some great progress already but, I'm hoping the Ent will be able to help us out as well. This will be a 2nd opinion we're going in for, so hopefully this dr will be able to provide a solution, considering he's always pulling at his ears and always congested sounding (even on allergy meds- pedi think adenoids could be an issue) in addition to the speech delay and balance issues.
As for the balance, I'm Hoping that works itself out with time and PT.
It did get better for me - almost immediately after I gave birth. Don't loose hope. Keep talking to and using your support system. If you ever need to feel free to pm me.
I know this too shall pass (as they as always say!
I mean, its hard to say for sure, obviously, but why else would he respond (with speech and some balance improvement) to allergy meds if there wasn't some sort of fluid build up in there? Also, he constantly sounds "nasally" and congested when he breathes (even on allergy meds). Our pedi isn't convinced that adenoids aren't an issue, and neither am I.
I'm surely not looking to put my kid through an unnecessary surgery, but in the same breath, it seems like there are a lot indicators pointing to something going on with ears/adenoids. Just a hunch though I guess.
Im really hopingwe get some answers thus time around. I'm learning to be more confident in my hunches/gut feelings, bc no one in this world will ever know my kid as well as I do. So I'm definitely going to push this time around to find a solution. Bc this flip flop, wishy washy, "oh well its not this, try that, or go see this dr to rule this out.." crap is exhausting.