December 2014 Moms

Wide open legs and eyes

So im wondering. Are any of you ladys letting mother in laws , relatives or friends into the labor room .. To watch the whole thing? Personally i dont want too i would feel so uncomfortable its my futst child too so all i want is my partner next to me ..

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  • DH and mom are the only ones I want in there, and honestly the only ones I would feel comfortable with! While my MIL is sweet, she has some...erm...interesting ideas about pregnancy and labor, and I think having her in there would just stress me out.
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  • SerenityAESerenityAE member
    edited August 2014
    Oh heck no. If it was up to me I'd throw SO out too but he would be seriously upset/hurt if I did. He will be staying at my head though. 
    I probably wont even allow visitors at the hospital at any point. My sister/nephew are probably the only ones I will let come up there to meet the baby. Definitely not the in-laws. @-)
  • Husband thats it. We are the ones that made baby we will be the ones to see the completed job first. Everybody else can see later on after we have had time to ourselves with her. Prob sounds crappy but they all know the routine.
  • Just DH.  I feel like more than that and I would be annoyed.  I tend to get overwhelmed when others try to be helpful.

     

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  • With dd I had my mom and dh in the room. I wouldn't feel comfortable with my mil in the room. This time, I'm not sure if we will invite my mom again or just have it be me and dh. We need to talk about it still.
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  • I'm always surprised by how many people have more than one person in their delivery room. I told my H last night that I would prefer no one even coming to the hospital until baby was already born. 

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  • Nope.  With DD it was only DH and my mom during labor.  My mom left during the actually delivery, I wanted it to be just DH and I there to meet her and have time for just us.  This time my mom will probably be watching DD so it will be just DH.
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  • :) ok awesome!! Thought it would of been rude telling everyone i dont want them in there especially my MIL ! Shes the sweetest but like some said we made the baby not them so we get to see and feel the action ! Especially us women .. cant imagine having people all around when youre in pain !
  • I only want my husband and mom in the delivery room too. I am still trying to figure out how to tell my MIL that those are the only 2 people I want in there. I was thinking maybe to avoid all of that I should only have the hubs, but my mom is planning on coming down days in advance of when I'm due so that she can be there. I don't want to hurt her feelings (as well as the fact that I really do want her in there). 
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  • Shortstack06Shortstack06 member
    edited August 2014
    I am a FTM so during labor, I will let my mom and sister in along with my husband. But during actual delivery, just my husband. A close friend of mine was in the hospital in labor for over 48 hours(her daughter was 8 weeks early) and I stopped to drop off some washed preemie clothes, her mom, his mom, her two sisters, his two sisters, and her husband were all in the room. That was a little over kill.

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  • soulcupcakesoulcupcake member
    edited August 2014
    My mom may be in town during that time, and if she is, I want her present. MIL? Nah. We're planning another homebirth, so assuming my midwife and her assistants make it, they'll be present. And of course DH and the kids.
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  • WIth DS I had DH and MIL in the room. MIL was there by default because my mom hadn't made it into town yet and we wanted someone in the room to take pictures and just be an extra set of hands that we knew should we need anything. SIL and DH's two cousins thought I was allowing them in the room also and got seriously butt hurt when I made DH kick them out. This time around it will be DH and my mom since she missed the birth of DS; MIL will be watching DS. I am also going to have my friend who is a photographer and a doula in the room. Her primary job is photos but I think she'll be good support also. By the time the "event" occurs theres like 347202 hospital staff in there (at least that's what it felt like) so I'd rather know I also was surrounded by family than just staff.

     

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  • No way. Just DH and my mom!
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  • Just DH. While my mom is a nurse and I think she actually could be helpful, I am way to private to have my mom looking at my business. Also, it's a special moment for DH and I. 

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  • I had H, my mom and my sister last time. It was great and I will ask my mom and sister again - they were not an "audience," they were very helpful and supportive. The only issue that might factor in is if I have this baby on Christmas or Christmas Eve.
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  • Only my husband. Everyone else can wait an hour to see the baby.
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  • Just DH, and I'm even reluctant for that. I made the mistake of watching birth videos. Oh my eyes and ears. DH will be forever scarred if he see's south of my belly button that day. We'll have strict rules about keeping him north of all of that! :)

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  • Beyond our midwives, I plan on having DH with me. That's it. Both of our families are about 1300 miles away and will see baby within the following months after his/her arrival. :)
  • Just me, DH, the midwife, and nurses. In-laws are not allowed in, and my mother is banned. I'm delivering at her hospital on her floor so she's not allowed in; even though she could be helpful. 


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  • Oh hell no. DH if he's lucky and acts right can be in there. When DS was born my mil plagued me and made shit miserable. No one (aside from whoever keeps DS) will even know until after this baby is here.
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  • Just hubby that's it. Will call others after.


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  • Just my husband and that's it. One advantage to my rcs, no hurt feelings on that account.
  • Just my mom and DH.  But if it's like last time, also a doc, 2 nurses and 2 med students.  LOL  Not very private.
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  • I didn't let anyone in after I started really feeling the contractions. They asked and I told them no. No one was upset about it. DH kept them in the loop.



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  • I cannot imagine having anyone but DH in the room. Most family won't find out until after she's born.
  • Dh and my doula. That's more than enough IMHO although I've had clients who wanted their whole families in the room.
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  • Just my hubby.
  • Just DH. My mom asked if she could be in the room with DD and I honestly thought about it, but ended up telling her no. It's such an intimate moment and I didn't want to share that with anyone other than DH. It was hands down the best, most special moment of my life and I'm so glad I made the decision I did. The same rules will apply this time around.

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  • laalaa92laalaa92 member
    edited August 2014
    All these are good info for ftm
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  • argyledogsargyledogs member
    edited August 2014
    It will just be me and my boyfriend. We're really private/introverted people. We're also a military family living 8-12 hours from family! 

    If we were near his family, I might consider letting some of them be there, at least for labor, but I would not let my family in at all. 

    ETA: Also, if your partner doesn't love you and appreciate you MORE after seeing you give birth & what you go through, he isn't worth your time! lol. 
  • I really don't want to see anyone besides DH while in labor. Visitors can come to the hospital room after we're settled in. 
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