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I have to wean DD ASAP

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I saw my rheumatologist today and she won't renew my prednisone prescription. She says I've been on it too long and it's not good for me to be on it long term. None of the medications that will treat my RA are compatible with nursing. And I've been having lots of bad flare ups with little to no relief so I can't just go without meds. She's only nursing at nap, bed and MOTN but I'm struggling with finally weaning her. She's absolutely our last baby. Why am I so sad??

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  • lyingliarlieslyingliarlies member
    I think anyone would feel sad or even angry in your place - ideally nursing would end on either your terms or your child's. Which naturally would give some sense of closure. It really is almost a grieving process for many women.

    I'm sorry it's being forced on you by these circumstances, especially after you fought so hard, and hope that your health improves with the new treatment. Because your mental and physical health is important to your family too. Hugs.

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  • Cheekers2010Cheekers2010 member
    I had to wean my DS at 15 months in order to go on some medication for an autoimmune disease. He was nursing on the same schedule as your DD. Honestly, I was devastated, completely. It broke my heart. I think it was in good part a hormonal thing and also because I was so sick at the time from my disease. My son wasn't bothered pretty much at all. I think he would've loved to keep nursing, but he hardly noticed when we stopped. Anyway, just wanted to say you aren't alone. Be kind to yourself and remember that many of your feelings are due to the fact that this "choice" is not one you'd prefer to be making. Your hormones are no doubt out of whack (from weaning) and you are no doubt in a lot of pain and discomfort from the RA. ((Hugs))
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  • ArnegardArnegard member
    I would also recommend skipping the night nursing Friday/Saturday but then nurse her for nap the next day.  I know my boobs hurt horribly when I tried to ween.  Do it gradual if you can.

    You have done an awesome job of nursing her over a year!!
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  • superTootssuperToots member
    Hugs. Reading everything got me all teary eyed too. I know what it's like to fight hard to breastfeed. I know I'd be a mess too if my dr ordered me to stop now.

    No one tells you how emotional it all is. Keep busy so your nursling is distracted. I'd sleep with ear plugs and take some sudaphed. And take it gradually If you can.

    And, great job on making it this far. You've done an amazing job!

      DS1 4.4.11. &  DS2 4.18.13
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  • meglewmeglew member
    Many hugs to you!  Good job for nursing for so long, despite all of the challenges you endured.  DD2 got bronchitis and an ear infection right around her first birthday and just stopped nursing.  I would try and feed her and she simply refused.  I didn't have time to emotionally prepare myself for the end.  I was heartbroken and know how emotional it can be, especially when it is your last baby.  Just keep in mind that you are getting yourself healthy, both for you and your family.  You are doing an awesome job and should be so proud of the great mom you are!
    DD #1 - 01.08
    DD #2 - 03.13
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  • raraavis28raraavis28 member
    Big hugs to you! I remember weaning being super emotional for me too....it's so hard when you're not 100% ready! But you've done an amazing job!!
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  • sophie206sophie206 member
    I'm sorry :-( Breastfeeding is such a complex relationship. I think my supply has basically dried up, but my 13 month old still likes to nurse for comfort 2-3x day, so we are still at it. I feel done some days, but I know if I were told I need to stop I would be very emotional about it. Take care of yourself.
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    DD2: Lucia (Lucy) 07/13
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  • dizzycooksdizzycooks member
    @Quesyrah How did the weekend go?  I hope you're feeling better.
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  • Fallbaby11Fallbaby11 member
    I have RA as well.  I stopped nursing my son in June of this year.  I started Humira in January and was still nursing.  I was told that was a safe medication to be on and nurse.  I also chose Humira so that when we TTC in two years I was told I could still take Humira.  Is that an option for you?
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  • Fallbaby11Fallbaby11 member

    Oh I'm sorry I posted before reading that you had already stopped! It is hard to end that relationship. You did a great job going as long as you did!

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  • DochasDochas member
    I think a year, especially under difficult circumstances, is amazing.  You're amazing!  I'm glad it went well and the sadness will pass.  Breastfeeding is like an emotional minefield. 
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