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Trip to FL WWYD

eg214eg214 member
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Okay so I'm thinking that if I don't find a job, I'll go to FL again for another month like last time so E can be with family. Flights right now are insanely cheap.

Dilemma...

We still have court pending (end of October). I have serious suspicions he will drop it but if not, I don't want to screw myself. E has never been on a plane and so far, I've been able to use that as an excuse for him not to put her on one. Second, I don't want to tell him we are there again. Last time, my atty said I really needed to tell him, to give him the opp, and to look good in court. We've had no contact in over 2 months, so I feel like that is proof enough he doesn't give a shit...but again...I don't want to screw myself. I also don't want to make decisions around him, since he's chosen to be completely absent.

What do I do? Go or stay? Waiting until after court isn't really an option bc by then I hope to God I have a job and then it will be too close to Christmas...when I hope to go home.

PCOS // Loss 3/2010 // Single Mom // Natural Birth // DC Metro // Baby Girl Born 2/2/2014
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Re: Trip to FL WWYD

  • freeatlast2014freeatlast2014 member
    Go. I don't see why court or BD needs to know you were there. And a plane ride for her doesn't even matter cause even when she is in the same town he makes no effort. He sure as hell isn't going to fly to pick her up and fly right back. Sounds like he says this stuff just to ruffle your feathers.
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  • eg214eg214 member
    Thanks @freeatlast2014. I really hope I just find a job, but I think you are right.

    PCOS // Loss 3/2010 // Single Mom // Natural Birth // DC Metro // Baby Girl Born 2/2/2014
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  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    Im with @lurchbaby on this. Dont go right now. And there is a reason the attorneys advise the things that they do
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  • freeatlast2014freeatlast2014 member
    Did your lawyer say you couldn't go? I missed that part. If you want to comply, then go and let him know again. History has a way of repeating itself and he's pretty consistent in not making an effort.
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  • 20thirteen20thirteen member
    If you go, you gotta tell him. From everything I've read about him, he will use this ONE thing against you to fullest extent.  And I know how much that sucks, but you really gotta think about what will happen in court if you do ______, at least you do for now.  

    In my opinion, I'd say stay where you are.  It sucks to plan around a POS guy, the stress will just hurt you way more than you think and it might hurt E in the process.  
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