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leoandethansmom · August 2014

Ok I've made fun of the sprinkle. Today, it became real life. SIL wants to throw me a sprinkle in October. I do not see a nice way to decline so I think I have to suck it up and embrace the sprinkle. Is there any way out of this that I'm not seeing? I hate being the center of attention and I'm having another boy, 2 years after my first.

BankerBSN · August 2014

Just say No.

bbynixon2 · August 2014

I dont see what the issue is. I know some people find them tacky but I think any reason to get family and friends together is a good one! But if you really dont want to, just say no thanks

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AlwaysForgetful · August 2014

I am in favor of them... well, kinda. I am a no gifts person, but sure, lets celebrate a new life!

You can either politely turn her down and just say you feel really awkward with having one and just want this to be low key, you can ask for it to be changes to maybe just a nice lunch with friends and good stories, or you can just go with it. I don't know your family and friends. Some may take offence, some won't.

leoandethansmom · August 2014

It's just an awkward situation because DH'S family politics are totally different than mine. They all get really butt hurt if they don't get their way and if one is mad, the whole family is mad. I prefer to stay out of the spotlight in their family for good reason. DH thinks it's unnecessary because we don't need very much stuff but he thinks it's easier to just say yes then battle their family. I like the small group of family for lunch idea, I might suggest that.

nesenotes · August 2014

Same thing happened to me and I said no thanks I have everything I need. They are still insisting. I was told they want to celebrate the new baby so don't ruin their fun. So I'll just shut up, show up, and grin and bear it.

I hate being the center of attention and I'm not a very good faker of emotions and so I'm not the best present opener. The whole thing gives me anxiety and I don't want to do it. I'm having another girl so I literally need nothing other than some new fancy gadgets I want to try this time.

AlwaysForgetful · August 2014

You can also "accidentally" make sure you have everything including to many clothes and then make a point of mentioning that you have so many things, you just don't have the room, but baby is all set. This may help? I literally have all we want and need. I even have to many clothes. The only thing missing is a car seat, but I will have that shortly.

Eliz77 · August 2014

I am another who hate showers for being the center of attention. If you REALLY do not want one, you can politely decline and maybe ask for a small lunch with a few family members? I probably would just go with it and enjoy a family gathering, but request it not be all shower/sprinkle like with games and themes, etc. I'm a FTM, and I already requested that! People, especially family, will most likely give you gifts anyway, so I'm not one of those who think you must be all gift-grabby because someone wants to throw you a shower/sprinkle. And if there are those who feel that way, they don't have to attend!

abcmom12 · August 2014

we're having a sprinkle, my mom is throwing, but its focus is to celebrate the upcoming baby, not me and gifts. so spouses, children are all invited, no games, no baby decor, just lots of good fingers foods and a fun time

If she's not going to relent on the sprinkle, try directing her in this direction

rshamos · August 2014

Just let them throw it. Request no gifts, but know that people will still bring something. You could also ask that instead of presents, everyone donates to a charity that you want in honor of your baby. You have plenty, but there are many who don't have anything. Might as well turn it into something positive. Plus, request cake and ice cream.

leoandethansmom · August 2014

@rshamos I love that idea! And yes, the only way this will even be allowed is if there is cake and ice cream.

brittandjp · August 2014

We're in the exact same situation. I'm having another girl, just 2 years shy of my first.

My BFF wanted to throw a shower. I declined. She insisted on doing at least a little something so I finally agreed to a little luncheon with just my girlfriends. There won't be more than 10-15 women max. I'm not registering anywhere and I've made it clear gifts aren't expected.

I will say that I think it's tacky to have a huge second shower and/or do another registry, as it's very gift grabby. However, I really don't see the big deal in a small little celebration. I'd politely accept and just be clear that you don't want a huge party and would rather have something very small and intimate.

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