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matiekaematiekae member
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First I want to say thank you. I know you don't know me yet, but the things I've been reading here over the past few days have helped me more than I can tell you! I read something some one said "This is the best place you never want to be", and instantly I knew this is where I need to be during this time.  It warms my heart the way you support each other, and I love the campaign ideas for October. I was going to wait awhile to do this... till I was a little more emotionally stable, but after all the wonderful words of wisdom I have read from you that have helped me, I want to be able to give back what I can.

My loss is very recent, I was 5 weeks 5days, and it was our first pregnancy. I know we will try again, and I am pretty sure it will be as soon as I'm physically ready (at least that is how I feel at this moment).... My name is Katie and I've been married to my dh for one year. I know he wants to understand, he just doesn't... and although he does give great hugs, I think I need to be here to help me get through this.

So again, thank you for being here. I look forward to getting to know you, and am wishing you all success as you continue through this journey.

BFP#1: 8/5/14 EDD: 4/17/15 MC: 8/20/2014
BFP#2: 10/10/14 EDD: 6/23/15 Grow, Baby. Grow!!
                                                          
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  • dawnstar898dawnstar898 member
    So very sorry for your loss. Welcome

    Me 34 DH 31, Together since 2003, Married August 20, 2011,  TTC since May 2013
    BFP #1 August 24, 2013! MMC discovered Oct. 3, 2013, D&C Oct. 4, 2013
    BFP #2 December 17, 2013! MMC discovered Jan. 28, 2014, D&C Jan. 30, 2014
    Testing done: male with complete Trisomy 16, not hereditary. Tested me for clotting disorders, all normal.
    Feb. 2014 all clear again to TTC!  Will start progesterone supplementation with the next BFP just in case.       Oct. 2014 more testing just because, thyroid and autoimmune panels = normal.  Diagnostic U/S = no abnormalities.  Will keep trying for 3-6 more months, doctor still optimistic!

    BFP #3 December 11, 2014!  Beta #1 14DPO = 122.4 Beta #2 17DPO = 296.8 Please stick little one and be our Rainbow!

            Perfect little heartbeat of 156 seen 1/7/15 :)

    ***Everybody Welcomed***  :)  

    EDD 8/21/2015 Team Green!

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  • jjbmstincojjbmstinco member
    CreechMommy said:
    Welcome.  This definitely IS the best place you never wanted to be.  The ladies here have helped me trememdously and it's so great to have a place to go where EVERYONE understands (instead of the "real world" where hardly anyone gets it) Hope you find good support here.  So sorry for your loss.
    What a perfect saying! 

     Welcome OP. I am sorry for your loss.


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    TTC-8/2013   BFP-4/18/14  EDD: 12/29/12 MC-5/17/14 @ 7w4d
    BFP #2-11/13/14  EDD: 7/26/14  Beta #1: 11/14/13 (135 progesterone: 19.5)   Beta #2" 11/17/14 (733 ) 
    Hoping for good news!

    Everyone Welcome

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  • sunflwrasunflwra member

    I'm so sorry for your loss but you are very welcome here.  It's a tough place to be and I understand the situation with your husband.  I have a tough time venting to mine sometimes, not because he doesn't understand, but because I almost feel like it's twice as hard for him in some ways bc he's had to experience the loss but also has to see me so upset which can be tougher to deal with in some ways.  We're happy to help- take care of yourself.

    BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011

    BFP #2- 7/13; EDD- 4/2/14; Lost DS at 20 weeks (11/16/13) due to cord accident

    BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown

    To my angels- I held you every second of your lives and I'll love you every second of mine.

     

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
    So sorry for your loss, but glad you found this board. ((Hugs)) welcome
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  • rubysirubysi member
    Welcome. I am sorry for your loss.

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  • RachaeleighRachaeleigh member
    Sorry for your loss. Welcome

    4 Losses (2003, 2008, Apr 2012, & Oct 2012)
    All RPL and IF testing with multiple REs = normal

    5 IUIs = BFN

    All AL are welcome
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  • lyndz333lyndz333 member
    Welcome and sorry for your loss.  My second loss was also an April 2015 diamond.  :(  


    BFP #1 - 12/7/2012 - EDD 8/14/2013 - DD born 8/17/2013
    BFP #2 - 3/31/2014 - EDD 12/6/2014 - Natural miscarriage on 4/28/2014
    BFP #3 - 8/4/2014 - EDD 4/12/2015 - Chemical Pregnancy discovered on 8/13/2014

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  • sassygirl51486sassygirl51486 member
    I am very sorry for your loss, we welcome you with open arms. This will be an incredible support system for you. Also, i totally understand where you're coming from with your husband being there, yet its just not the same. Mine can always lend a listening ear but he doesn't always know what to say or how to get me through it
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  • MSU_Girl1202MSU_Girl1202 member
    Welcome to this board. I'm so sorry for your loss.
    Married 07/2006, TTC since 2010
    08/2011: Clomid 50mg, IUI --> BFN  ,
    10/2011: Clomid 100mg, IUI --> BFN
    04/13: Clomid, IUI BFP --> MC at 6w1d
    05/13: Femara 2.5mg, IUI --> BFN  , 08/13: Femara 2.5mg --> BFN
    03/14: Femara 5mg, IUI --> 1 follicle @ 27d --> BFP! EDD 12/02/14--> blighted ovum, missed MC 6w6d --> D&C
    4/23: D&C...starting over again, with a little part of my heart broken off
    5/31: Femara 7.5mg --> cancelled cycle, no follies
    7/14: Femara 5mg + brevelle + menopur + IUI --> converted to IVF, ER 7/28 --> ET cancelled due to severe OHSS.
    9/20/14:  Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP--> EDD 6/6/15 --> MC at 5w3d      
    10/16/14: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFN
    2/6/15: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP --> MC at 5w4d
    3/20/16: PGS-tested Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP, Living Child born 12/1/15
    6/6/17: Fresh IVF Cycle --> Severe OHSS, 5 PGS-tested embryos frozen
    2/23/18: PGS-tested FET --> BFN
    3/30/18: Cancelled cycle due to lining 4.2mm
    6/21/18: PGS-tested FET --> BFN
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  • mrsjg2013mrsjg2013 member
    I'm so sorry for your recent loss.  You will definitely discover that you "belong" here... it's not any place you want to be, but will find that once you're here you'll wonder how you could be without!  I hope that you find strength, comfort, inspiration, and friendships here.  Big ((HUGS)) and Welcome!
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  • nocompassnocompass member
    I haven't really intro'ed here yet, so I hope it's ok to post...

    Hi Katie. We were both on the A15 BMB together and sadly had to leave around the same time. I'm so sorry for your loss. It's tough. I hope you will be able to find some comfort here. Like yours, my husband doesn't really know what to say...but the hugs are appreciated.

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    Me: 24 
    Him: 28 
    Married: 05/14/2011 
    BFP#1: 08/01/2014; EDD: 04/03/2015; Lost HB: 08/18/2014-08/20/2014; natural m/c 08/23/2014
    BFP#2: 09/25/2014; EDD: 06/07/2015
     

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  • Elliecat17Elliecat17 member
    Hello and welcome! This truly is the best place you never want to be. These ladies get it even when your poor hubby doesn't. Mine once told me that he wishes he could do something when I am in pain like that but all he can do is hug me. So they at least try. :) I hope that you find the comfort and support that you need, and that your stay is brief.
    Me: 24 
    DH: 25
    BFP: 1/12/14       EDD: 9/18/14     MC: 1/15/14
    BFP: 5/6/14         EDD: 1/5/15       MC: 5/10/14
    BFP: 12/29/14      EDD: 9/12/15      MC: 1/5/15
    Dx: PCOS - 8/20/14, Hashimoto's - 10/10/14, Gluten Allergy 10/10/14


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  • rslh10rslh10 member
    Welcome to the board. I'm so sorry for your loss. These women have helped me during my darkest moments and I don't know how I will ever repay them. I hope that you find comfort (or have already found) in the words, and support here. It truly is the best place that none of us want to be.
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    BFP #1 DS 2/7/11 (Born @ 34 wks via ECS due to Pre-e) TTC #2 since Aug '13
    DX Low AMH (.58) March '14 • FSH-7.5 • E2-35.5 (Nov '14)
    SA- Great numbers • SIS- Clear (Nov '14)
     Cycle 1- Clomid CD3-7 & Trigger-BFP • EDD 1/12/15 
    Ectopic @ 5w6d • Methotrexate Shot 5/18/14
    Cycle 2,3,4- Clomid CD3-7 & Trigger-- BFN
    Cycle 5- Letrozole CD3-7 & Trigger BFFN
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  • spazzz333spazzz333 member
    I am sorry for you loss.
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  • Km380Km380 member
    Welcome, I'm sorry for your loss

    PgAL welcome


    Married 6/11/2011

    Me & Hubby: 34

    TTC journey started 12/2012

    BFP #1 6/5/2013, MC confirmed 6/26/2013 @ 7 wks

    BFP#2 8/25/2013 MC confirmed 10/16/2013 @ 12 wks (D&C 10/18)

    Diagnosis: unexplained RPL, unexplained IF.

    Also have hypothyroidism

    Started TTC again 12/2013

     

    IUI#1:Clomid CD 3-7, Trigger'ed CD 12. IUI CD 14. BFN

    IUI #2:Letrozole CD 3 - 7, Follistim CD 9, Trigger CD 10, IUI CD12. BFN

    Current plan: IVF with PGD. Antagonist - Vivelle Protocal. Stim start 12/1. ER 12/14.

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  • alleycat39alleycat39 member
    So very sorry for your loss. This is a wonderful board of lovely ladies who just "get it," especially when DH doesn't. DHs want to get it and try to, but it is hard since they aren't physically going through it. Many hugs.
    PCOS & ute crew member
    BFP #1: 10/24/2012  EDD 7/3/13, missed m/c @ 9 weeks, D&E 
    DX: Septate Uterus. Septum resection 6/4/13
    BFP #2: 12/20/2013  EDD 9/1/14, missed m/c @ 7weeks, D&E
    BFP #3: 5/26/2014 EDD 2/7/15, missed m/c @ 9 weeks, D&E- DX Trisomy22
    RPL, Karyotyping, and SHG: All Normal
    BFP #4: 9/6/14 EDD 5/16/15 Praying for our RAINBOW!
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  • mpiemontmpiemont member
    So sorry for your loss- welcome.
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    DS2 born 2/22/13
    MMC 5/16/14@8w2d
    DD due 5/9/15 Please be our     RAINBOW

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  • jms627jms627 member
    So sorry for your loss! :(  I hope this board provides you the comfort, support, and understanding that it has for me. ((HUGS))

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    BFP#1 - 7/18/14; EDD 3/23/14; MMC 8/11/14 (passed naturally on 8/17/14)

    BFP#2 - 12/29/14; EDD 9/10/15 *PLEASE BE OUR RAINBOW!*

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  • ctk181ctk181 member
    I am so sorry for you loss and sorry to meet you here, but I'm glad we have this source of support to know we're not alone. My loss is very recent too so I understand the emotional turmoil you're in right now. My dh also is having a hard time understanding what I'm going through (although he really tries). I hope with time and support you can start to heal. Welcome to the board.
    Married: 4/28/12
    BFP: 7/2/14 ;  1st US 7/21/14 Baby measuring 7w5d, HB of 138;  Discovered MMC 8/18/14 at 11w2d, baby measuring 8w5d, no hb ; 8/19/14 D&C
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  • meredithcarolemeredithcarole member
    I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome.
    TTCAL January Siggy Challenge: Animals in the Snow

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    AMA 35 :  DH 33
    BFP#1 1/26/14 (EDD: 10/7/14).  MMC 3/10/14 D&C 3/14/14
    RE Consult 11/3/14 - AMH 2.25 "great" . FSH 7.10 . Low Vitamin D
    Myomectomy 12/17/14.  Benched until March.

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  • rmpar29rmpar29 member
    I am very sorry for your loss.  I hope you find the comfort and support you are looking for here.
    TTC #3 since 8/2012 image
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     BFP - 10/18/2012, EDD - 6/26/2013, Baby Girl lost at 22 weeks (T21), D&E 2/15/2013
    BFP - 4/23/2014, EDD - 1/2/2015 Twin Boys lost at 12 weeks, M/C 6/25/2014
    My chart here  All ALers welcome!
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  • stinybeanstinybean member
    @matiekae‌ I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board.

    @PetraStonegirl‌ Thank you, your dh's words really help me understand the difference.
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  • mrspippmrspipp member
    I'm so sorry for your loss and that you find yourself here. I hope this board can provide some comfort. Welcome. 
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  • matiekaematiekae member
    Thank you all for your kind words, and for making me feel welcome here. I feel very blessed to have found you, and am happy to give back what I can.

    BFP#1: 8/5/14 EDD: 4/17/15 MC: 8/20/2014
    BFP#2: 10/10/14 EDD: 6/23/15 Grow, Baby. Grow!!
                                                              
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  • MrsPhD83MrsPhD83 member
    I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you find the support and comfort you need here. It's a wonderful group of ladies! Welcome to the board.
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    Me: 31, DH: 30, Married July 2013
    TTC since March 2014
    BFP#1  5.17.14, EDD 1.26.15, MMC (measuring 6w3d at 8w3d), D&C 6.26.14
    BFP#2  9.19.14, EDD 5.29.15, AF on 9.23.14 CP
    BFP#3  12.17.14, EDD 8.25.15, AF on 12.21.14 CP#2

    Current plan: TTC while waiting for RPL results to come back
    Stalk my ute
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  • BookishMommaBookishMomma member
    So sorry for your loss. I have definitely felt the way you do about how my losses hit me harder than DH. However, I've learned in the months since that it has affected him deeply in his own ways. Give your DH some time. I hope this process will bring you closer.
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    Me (35) + DH (37) - Married Sept. 2007
    BFP #1 - DS born 7/11/11
    BFP#2 11/13/13 - EDD 7/29/14 - M/C at 5w3d
    BFP #3 12/28/13 - EDD 9/7/14 - M/C at 4w6d
    BFP#4 3/27/14 -  EDD 12/5/14 - Girl lost to 45X at 8w6d - D&C 
    BFP#5 10/15/14 - EDD 6/30/15 - M/C at 7w2d
    BFP #6 1/5/15 - EDD 9.16.14 [CLICKY for progress]
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  • MrsKush1014MrsKush1014 member
    I'm sorry for your loss, welcome to the board.

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    BFP: 3/9/2014  EDD: 11/11/2014  MMC: 4/10/2014  D&C: 4/11/2014
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