feeling fat

Lyssa410 · August 2014

So I'll admit maybe I haven't been watching what I eat, and I definitely stopped going to the gym (lost all motivation and time)... but I've felt fine and am loving being pregnant. However, I just went to the Dr and so far I've gained 16 lbs (I'm 23 weeks). She told me to watch what I choose to eat. And now I'm looking at a photo I recently took and I feel so depressed. I feel fat and unhealthy. My mom even called me and said "I saw your pictures on Facebook, looks like you're getting bigger" I'm going to change my ways of eating, but I really don't have time for exercising like I used to. Is there any hope? I just feel so miserable and I don't want to because I'm so so excited to be pregnant.

brookey79 · August 2014

I don't think 16 lbs is so much for 23 weeks. I don't feel like I'm eating that much more and I have continued to go to the gym. I was quite small to begin with and at 24 weeks had gained 17 lbs. My doctor said this was fine. Anything between 25 and 35 lbs is considered healthy (in most cases). I was hoping for 25 lbs, but seemingly I'm on track for 35. Try to eat as healthy as is possible for you and not get too stressed over it. You are growing a beautiful baby!

designchica · August 2014

You are right on track with your weight gain. You are carrying a growing baby inside you. Getting bigger and putting on some extra fat is a part of the process, even if we wish it weren't. I struggle with this too and I know that feeling of feeling fat, but I promise you that your body is more beautiful now than it has ever been!

drpayne · August 2014

Chalk it up to a learning experience and change your diet. Don't best yourself up, though!

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kmweston07 · August 2014

Mmm sausage mcmuffins! ;;)

rshamos · August 2014

Just make sure your weight gain is from healthy choices. I feel better knowing that my new cushiony body is from mostly healthy food. Except for that pizza I inhaled last night.

ajlmom · August 2014

I kinda feel the same way @Lyssa410‌, I lost 5 in the beginning and gained 14, so I'm up 9 (net gain). I didn't gain much in the beginning but recently have been packing on more than 1 pound per week. Between my 18 week and 22 week appointments I gained 6 pounds. Not even 24 weeks yet and gained two more pounds already. I hope it's all baby weight because I still fit into my pre-pregnancy jeans and pants with a belly band on. However, that rate that I'm gaining is a little alarming.

I haven't been to the gym at all just went swimming once or twice. Walking has been the only exercise I get. I never avoided carbs but didn't eat much before. But ever since I got pregnant carbs have been one of my best friends. I really need to watch what I eat and slow down this weight gain before I turn into a whale!

Edit: typo

Kmm1023 · August 2014

Calm down your pregnant! Your growing a human being! It's an amazing blessing and your body is going to change! After I had DD I was surprised at how quickly the weight dropped off after she was born. Once baby is born no one is looking at you anyways they are looking at the beautiful and perfect little person your body made! Love yourself extra weight and all and be amazed at what your body is capable of doing!

Shortstack06 · August 2014

My beginning weight was 100 lbs, I have gained 14 (noticeable because I am so short) but my boobs went up 2 cup sizes (I am saying at leazt 5 lbs there) and my baby is healthy and that is my main concern. My appetite has slowed a lot, I have to remind myself to eat because I never feel hungry. A week ago, I swear the baby hit a growth spurt because I was shoveling food in as fast as it would go. My mom keeps reminding me that I should try to only gain 25, but my husband and I agree if I gain more while eating healthy then that is what the baby needs.

courtd2 · August 2014

walk walk walk walk!

I go twice a day (morning and evening when it's nice and cool) I even make extra trips up and down the stairs. I rarely take the car anywhere now that it's summer.

I'm bad for watching what I eat as well. The weight is hiding in my thighs. I'd like to work on my leg and arm muscles before baby is born. I don't want to look like a bowl full of jelly once LO is born...

Wish you the best of luck!

leoandethansmom · August 2014

@courtd2 at least we're due in December so if we DO look like a bowl full of jelly we can just dress up as Santa and call it a day. Silver lining? I think so.

weezy29 · August 2014

Just because some people are cool with weight gain, doesn't make it any less easy for some. You can't always help how you feel and for people who worked out, ate healthy and maintained a healthy weight pre pregnancy it can be a mind f*uck to see the scale going up and thighs getting bigger. Just because it bothers them doesn't mean they aren't happy or excited about being pregnant! Add to that images of celebrities who only gain "in their belly" and it's not always easy.

Having said all that, I really do think if you stick to the 25-35 pound recommendation, you WILL get it off without too much work! It's okay to watch what you eat and exercise now. Pregnancy shouldn't be a free for all(unless you want it to be!!) and if you live like normal, your body will gain what it's going to gain.

I don't think you are off track at all. You seem to be right on track for 30-35 pound gain!

leoandethansmom · August 2014

Can I just add that with DS I lost all of the weight within 5 months and had no idea how I was doing it but I felt bad all of the time. People kept commenting on how great I looked and asking what I did and I did nothing. Come to find out when I was in labor I got an infection in my uterus, entometritis, and had the infection for 5 months just draining my body of nutrients which is why I dropped the weight. The infection combined with BF was literally leaving my body with the bare minimum to survive and I could tell I wasn't right for 5 months. Everyone just chalked it up to post partum depression and nobody took me seriously that something was wrong. I would have preferred to keep the 25 pounds and enjoyed the first 5 months of my son's life.

Yes, society and celebrities dictate that we look perfect throughout pregnancy and drop the weight right away but that is unrealistic. I completely understand having trouble accepting that our bodies are rapidly growing and we cannot control where the weight is going. I also understand that some women have more trouble with this than others. No, I'm not "cool with it" but I also understand it is necessary for our bodies to grow this life inside of us. As someone who suffered with eating disorders in my teens and early twenties I completely relate to how it feels to lose control over your own body. As I have posted on here before, I ask my OB if I can weigh in backwards so I don't see the number and have requested she only inform me if there is a problem. So far, I couldn't tell you how much I've gained and I'm totally ok with that.

I guess the point of my rant is instead of posting "feeling fat" maybe people should consider that it's not "fat." As pp have said (either in this thread or the scale thread, they've kind of blended together for me) the weight isn't necessarily in fat. It is blood, water, boobs, baby, etc. You're not fat, you're pregnant.

feeshah · August 2014

I don't like the thought of gaining weight. So I try hard not to really dwell on it. I've made better choice for food an I've lost 4lbs. I did notice my booty is more bootylicious and I think that is pretty awesome. Big boobs kinda rock too (when they don't hurt).

weezy29 · August 2014

Damn, I'm jealous of people who grow a booty while pregnant. I so wish it would happen to me! And I thought my boobs looked big until my belly started to grow this past week. In comparison, my boobs have nothing on my belly!!!

@leosmom25‌- Wow, sorry to hear about your rough post partum recovery. That sounds awful and scary! I agree, losing weight or not gaining enough during pregnancy is not worth seeing a certain number on the scale!

JRod13 · August 2014

I'm sorry you feel fat. Try walking. Try eating better. Or just embrace it. There are worse things in the world than gaining weight while you're pregnant.

ColeyCannoli · August 2014

I totally understand this feeling but I do take some issue with thin = healthy that I've seen pop up a few times on these threads. (Derailing time!) I know it goes against society's instant hate for fat people but having some pudge and love handles doesn't make someone unhealthy and being thin and fit doesn't always mean they've made healthy choices to get there.

I just want people to be honest here that it's often more about our vanity than our health that we freak out over the scale. Our culture places a lot of importance on appearance so I'm not trying to undermine the stress here and how upsetting it can be. But worrying about moderate weight gain during pregnancy seems less like it comes from a place of "I don't want to be unhealthy" and more from "I don't want to look bad." Everyone will be different but I don't know how healthy any of the OP's in these threads are or if they have more serious body image issues. So, I don't want to encourage that mentality of "I was healthy (thin) and now I'm not because I gained but maybe I'll get better later," which could lead to anxiety over how fast they lose it.

If at the end of the day we must live life as chubby people who can't lose the excess despite good diet and exercise, still totally worth it to get our precious LOs, in my opinion.

Lyssa410 · August 2014

This definitely will be my last use of this whole "bump club" thing. I posted here twice to try it out when I felt like I needed to vent and find people who relate.. wasn't expecting such unnecessary remarks. It's not about being "thin" and now fat.. did I ever say what my weight was? It's not about a pity party, I can wallow in my sorrows at home just fine if I needed that. I thought this community was about finding others who you can relate with and share your feelings/thoughts while going through something amazing and scary and exciting all at once. I really appreciate those of you who did have some nice things to say, and the funny things. I'm not a sensitive person by any means, so it's no harm no foul here.. but I'm sure there are women on here who are and who do need that reassurance. If you don't agree with a post or you are "sick of seeing posts about this" then don't click on it. Maybe criticizing others is what makes you feel better.. who knows. But this is definitely not for me. Good luck to everyone!!

ColeyCannoli · August 2014

Well that came out of nowhere...

feeshah · August 2014

Lyssa410 said:

This definitely will be my last use of this whole "bump club" thing. I posted here twice to try it out when I felt like I needed to vent and find people who relate.. wasn't expecting such unnecessary remarks. It's not about being "thin" and now fat.. did I ever say what my weight was? It's not about a pity party, I can wallow in my sorrows at home just fine if I needed that. I thought this community was about finding others who you can relate with and share your feelings/thoughts while going through something amazing and scary and exciting all at once. I really appreciate those of you who did have some nice things to say, and the funny things. I'm not a sensitive person by any means, so it's no harm no foul here.. but I'm sure there are women on here who are and who do need that reassurance. If you don't agree with a post or you are "sick of seeing posts about this" then don't click on it. Maybe criticizing others is what makes you feel better.. who knows. But this is definitely not for me. Good luck to everyone!!

Apparently you are more sensitive then you think.

oh well…Byeeee

leoandethansmom · August 2014

Peace out. Sorry we hurt your sensitive feelings, welcome to the Internet.

CandEChicago · August 2014

Lyssa410 said:
So I'll admit maybe I haven't been watching what I eat, and I definitely stopped going to the gym (lost all motivation and time)... but I've felt fine and am loving being pregnant. However, I just went to the Dr and so far I've gained 16 lbs (I'm 23 weeks). She told me to watch what I choose to eat. And now I'm looking at a photo I recently took and I feel so depressed. I feel fat and unhealthy. My mom even called me and said "I saw your pictures on Facebook, looks like you're getting bigger" I'm going to change my ways of eating, but I really don't have time for exercising like I used to. Is there any hope? I just feel so miserable and I don't want to because I'm so so excited to be pregnant.

Lyssa410 said:
This definitely will be my last use of this whole "bump club" thing. I posted here twice to try it out when I felt like I needed to vent and find people who relate.. wasn't expecting such unnecessary remarks. It's not about being "thin" and now fat.. did I ever say what my weight was? It's not about a pity party, I can wallow in my sorrows at home just fine if I needed that. I thought this community was about finding others who you can relate with and share your feelings/thoughts while going through something amazing and scary and exciting all at once. I really appreciate those of you who did have some nice things to say, and the funny things. I'm not a sensitive person by any means, so it's no harm no foul here.. but I'm sure there are women on here who are and who do need that reassurance. If you don't agree with a post or you are "sick of seeing posts about this" then don't click on it. Maybe criticizing others is what makes you feel better.. who knows. But this is definitely not for me. Good luck to everyone!!

QFP

CandEChicago · August 2014

Hopefully you can find an alternate forum that better fits your needs. As stated in the other weight thread we don't sugar coat things (much like real life).

kjwatts89 · August 2014

I understand that feeling I'm at 22 weeks and have gained 10lbs which I don't think is a lot but my doctor seems to think I'm gaining to much weight to fast anyone else have that issue?

JulieSC81 · August 2014

Finally! A spark of fun drama. Its been non-crazy for a hot minute. Well it was fun while it lasted. It didnt make it to "lets post hot shirtless guys now" but its sooooooomethingggggg. We cant be picky.