keeping the love alive

kstirton · August 2014

As I was looking back on some old pics, I realized dh and I have become rather lazy with our lives, appearance among other things LOL while I've been busy cooking this baby

so, with that said, what are you guys doing to get out of the house or stir up a little romance? I know going out to eat is a given, and we tried a movie last weekend and I just wasnt very comfortable. And as far as my appearance goes, I forgot what its like to blow dry my hair. I feel like a total ragamuffin.

belmont1785 · August 2014

We have been kinda the same lately. I work 50 hours a week and he works 3 am to 11:30 am so we are both exhausted.

We are really good about making supper together and eating at the table together. So simple but I enjoy it so much. DH is so sweet about sneaking kisses or rubbing my back while we are washing dishes. I quite honestly look forward to that more then a "date. "

belmont1785 · August 2014

Oh and as far as appearance, my makeup these days consists of mascara, and if I am lucky, eyeliner. I didnt wear too much before but the combo of pregnancy acne and exhaustion made it easy for me to give up. Lol

missnacholover · August 2014

I feel like a frump most of the time. I'm just a pile of sexiness when I'm rocking my knee high compression socks and wrist brace, haha.

We're going on a babymoon next weekend and will be going out for a nice dinner so I'm going to dress up then. Also (((Hotel sex))).

Maybe plan a fancy date?

ssstephanie214 · August 2014

We are so tight on money right now so we've been going on nighttime walks, people watching on our stoop, or cooking together. But I let him have an extra amount of man time lately, because I asked a lot of him in my first few pregnant months and will be asking a lot of him again soon. Man time needs to be banked right now.

KMW08 · August 2014

We clean the house together. As non romantic as that sounds, I like bossing him around (housewife dominatrix?) AND a clean uncluttered room makes me sooo happy.

Yeah.....we aren't very romantic people to begin with

silverwings72 · August 2014

@missnacholover‌ - hotel sex is how we got this LO! Give me ALL the hotel sex!

Honestly, husband and I went out for dinner last week and did some binding over shopping. We haven't had sex in awhile because I am completely zonked out by 8 pm. Plus, pregnancy sex kinda freaks him out. . When I come home from work I fling my professional attire across the room, so most days I look like a hot mess. He doesn't seem to mind lol

I've found that he has been much more affectionate though, giving me more kisses and hugs. It's been sweet. Bonding over baby has been pretty cool in keeping us even more connected.

lizgrace03 · August 2014

Yeah, we just do a lot of random stuff together and try to have fun doing it. Sex is not happening atm and I'm so uncomfortable even sleeping together can be a challenge, but I still feel very close to him- tonight we just went and walked about World Market then came home and hung out with the cats. It was nice.

carafern · August 2014

Similar advice to PPs, just honor your time together. We go for walks (mostly with our pup) and to the beach or the park. These are nice because they're generally comfortable for me, whereas movies not so much.

We slow dance in the kitchen or the living room sometimes. We cuddle while watching TV. We took a bath together a few weeks ago. We cook together. We've been binge-watching Game of Thrones, which is fun and I can get up or shift if I'm uncomfortable (unlike at the movies). We're home a lot (still unpacking), so that doesn't help with your getting out of the house question but I think you can make home-stuff romantic.

But yeah, no sex. Maybe twice since BFP. Still, I don't feel like our love has waned at all. Like @Silverwings72, just lots of good old affection.

angelajo19 · August 2014

Um, today we had a friend watch DD while we had a date day that consisted of our hospital tour, Staples to buy pen refills for DH's favorite pen, lunch, and buying a birthday card for my MIL.

We know how to keep the love alive over here.

MuchlyGen · August 2014

We've gotten pretty good at enjoying our time together... this is baby #3, so most of our daytime free time is family time. Which is awesomely wonderful, but different from "us" time.

We don't do anything special, really. My favorite times are just sitting together laughing like idiots over... nothing, pretty much. We play games (card games, board games) and watch TV. Sometimes, when we're really feisty, we'll order a pizza /after/ the kids are in bed. Shhhh. Occasionally we'll go on a date and have my MIL watch the boys, but usually when we go out we like taking the boys with us, so we don't do this too often.

It's all good. I think our relationship is stronger now than it used to be. And thought the sex is more infrequent (due more to the having kids than the being pregnant), it's seriously just gotten progressively better throughout our relationship. So when it does happen, it's pretty swell.

It all ebbs and flows, and honestly I think I like it better that way. Less pressure for both of us to have things be "just right."

misterdonut · August 2014

I looked at my zoom in makeup mirror for the first time in a week and shocked myself with my new ape eyebrows. Not good for the romance ladies, not good.

mander82 · August 2014

We lay on our couches and watch tv while I shovel cookies into my mouth.

That's love.

missnacholover · August 2014

Hotel sex is the best! I hope I'm up to it next weekend! It's starting to get pretty uncomfortable for me. :-/

One thing we like to do is play board games (Scrabble is a favorite). I also have been talking to DH as the baby like saying stuff like, "Goodnight Daddy". He thinks it's cute.

MarcyR92 · August 2014

Well since my bf is out of state right now for work. We communicate as much as we can FaceTime, phone calls,texting and sending pics everyday. Plus there is a time different with us Im on the west coast and he's on the east coast so it makes a bit harder in the mornings and nights. But he does txt me at 4am his time which is 1am my time and tells me good morning I love you and miss you and what he doing which is usually the gym before he goes to work. And I do the same when I wake up. Communicate is key with us right now it been getting stronger and stronger. We alway say good morning and good night that's must with us.

As for me getting ready I still do my big hair and my cake face lol. My clothes are still the same I wear my heels as much as my feet will let me right now but I alway have my flats on hand. I love to get dressed because I never know when someone will call or txt bout going to lunch or something which had been every frequent lately. And even when I dnt do anything that day I still want to fill motivated to do things around the house vs when
I'm in simple clothes I feel tired and sluggish. That's just me and how I was brought up. everyone is different tho I'm judging

acholb · August 2014

DH and I are currently in the middle of doing a jigsaw puzzle. Not very exciting. But it's cheap. Romance isn't really happening much over here. I'm pretty sure he is a little freaked out about pregnancy sex. It makes me sad, but I'm trying to understand. That being said, I actually did put a little effort in, shower/hair/makeup/shaved legs and a nice low cut dress with no panties the other night. It did finally get me lucky! So even though he says he doesn't care what I'm wearing, the effort seemed to help!

kstirton · August 2014

WildFlower810 said:

Honestly, unemployment is putting more of a strain on us than me being pregnant is. I try and make time every few days where we can talk *without* our phones or computers nearby. Going to bed early and talking before sleeping usually works. We would go on walks, but let's be honest, it's blazing hot in Texas right now.

It is in Kansas too, it's miserable.

staugustinewedding · August 2014

We go on walks together at night with the dogs and that is always so nice. We also cook and eat dinner together at the table which I think is really important.

As far as my appearance and sex goes, I still want to feel put together, so I still do my hair and make up (not that DH cares, but it makes me feel better). Just last night i took the longest hot shower and shaved everything..got out and applied coconut oil lotion all over and then put on a cute nightgown and I just felt amazing...DH commented on how beautiful I looked. A little pampering goes a long way.

I still NEED to have sex. I feel like it resets my brain and makes me less anxious as well as eases my hormones...and DH wants it too..so that ALWAYS recharges us in the best
way possible.

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